Sk**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 Some of you may have read my previous post about my Dom breaking the Safeword. I've decided to stay but I need help trying to get back into a scene with him. Does anyone have an idea on how I should get back into a session with him? Im looking for a soft play to start.
Deleted Member Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 Just ask him so if your that obsessed with him .
xm**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 I would say start with just vanilla sex and see how that goes. Then maybe just start with the absolute basics, as if its your 1st time getting into bdsm. Only 1 hand tied, or very light impact, things such as that. At least that would probably be my approach if I was in that situation.
Je**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 8 minutes ago, darkpony30 said: Just ask him so if your that obsessed with him . It’s always the douche bags with no profile picture
Va**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 Once trust is broken, I have no idea how one would go about repairing that. . Won’t you always have that one thought in the back of your head stopping you from truly letting go? . I’d suggest looking for a new Dom ‘cause if he doesn’t understand that, or be able to control within it, what else hasn’t he figured out? You deserve better…
Je**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 9 minutes ago, darkpony30 said: Just ask him so if your that obsessed with him . This is not at all helpful...
Je**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 41 minutes ago, SkyaWolf said: Some of you may have read my previous post about my Dom breaking the Safeword. I've decided to stay but I need help trying to get back into a scene with him. Does anyone have an idea on how I should get back into a session with him? Im looking for a soft play to start. Unfortunately its something you will need to discuss with him. If you still trust him and wish to play again... If he breaks once more, any safe words, please run. I have no other advice as I personally wouldn't still be there if I were you. Good luck
Ta**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 That was 4 days ago…are you sure you’re ready to go back there so quickly?
co**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 Read the topic and having eyeballed OPs account, and... I don't even... 🤦.
Deleted Member Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 The worst thing a Dom or sub can do is damage trust. Are you sure that you can trust him to respect the safe word again? If you are not sure then DON'T go back.
Wi**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 I'd echo some of the above, I'm not sure returning will have the same level of trust as it did.
mi**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 If you go back it'll happen again I hope you stay safe but never betray trust never ignore a safeword
le**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 I don't believe you should be thinking about sessions at this point. If you're adamant on staying I would focus on other conversations and trust building exercises before even considering another session.
ma**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 I personally would not have stayed. Once someone breaks my trust by not respecting my safeword I cannot and will not play or be with them but that is something u have to discuss with him.
Sk**** Posted June 20, 2023 Author Posted June 20, 2023 A lot of you disagree and I respect/appreciate your help. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk more or ask questions. It's hard for me to see comments at the moment
Deleted Member Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 1 hour ago, Jeneral_Whore said: Unfortunately its something you will need to discuss with him. If you still trust him and wish to play again... If he breaks once more, any safe words, please run. I have no other advice as I personally wouldn't still be there if I were you. Good luck Literally the same answer as mine ??? I knew the answers would sound like this so I got straight to the point! If you think about it, it’s actually more helpful than yours
Deleted Member Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 1 hour ago, Jeneral_Whore said: This is not at all helpful... I’m just ***ed that if a guy breaks trust like that it’s apparently ok and she’s going back to him
Deleted Member Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 Talk every detail of the scene, every single one. Agree on exactly what will take place, stop during and check in (both of you). It doesn’t have to destroy the scene but come up with a go safe word (we use the red light system) when not able to verbalize he will squeeze my arm three times if I don’t grab back and squeeze three times he stops waits until I’m able to verbalize what’s bothering me. Thoroughly, discuss the scene after. Go back to the beginning of the dynamic when you didn’t know each other well. Relearn each other, essentially.
Ne**** Posted June 20, 2023 Posted June 20, 2023 That's a rule you shouldn't break. Follow your heart but be wary
Au**** Posted June 21, 2023 Posted June 21, 2023 2 hours ago, JenLynne said: It’s always the douche bags with no profile picture I absolutely agree
Au**** Posted June 21, 2023 Posted June 21, 2023 My humble opinion: if the relationship is serious and you love each other, it will be healthy to think that we all f*ck it up at least once and we can repent and change. Sit with him and talk, asses his answers and judge if his repentance is sincere. If so, start soft and give yourself also some indulgence and time to trust again, IF YOU WANT TO. All the best for you two, together and individually 🩷
Deleted Member Posted June 21, 2023 Posted June 21, 2023 Leave sex off the table 100%. You're back at square 1 on building that trust back
Th**** Posted June 21, 2023 Posted June 21, 2023 Please explain to me how you're 19 years old and have been in the bdsm lifestyle for 9 years and have been in a dynamic with this particular Dom for "many years".
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