Nothing compares.... to You.

[lolli-leigh]

I could right a huge paragraph on this but I think you have said it all. LOVE YA, You beautiful amazing human xx 

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Very well said!

[zr****]

Your right mommy

[Ho****]

I think everyone struggles with self esteem issues at one point or another, or to some degree., Some more than others. I think this is quite normal. We are all works in progress and we should all examine ourselves to see where we are lacking and where to try and improve upon ourselves. Self esteem and self improvement is not a one time thing. You don't just get healthy self esteem one day and then that's it , You're fixed. These are things that have to constantly be maintained a. D continually filled and worked upon. So I don't think there is anything wrong with occasionally having uncomfortable feelings like, envy, doubt, jealousy, anger, sadness, etc. When these feelings come over us, we should acknowledge them sit with them and examine them so that we can process them in a healthy way and move on. I think it's important to understand that there are limits to us and what we are capable of and not capable of. While we should strive to be better, we should also accept the fact that we are imperfect beings and that that is ok and not something to be ashamed about. Having a concept of a higher power or perfect being that is a not us but loves us, can help with this.

Now with all that said there definitely Comes a point where obsessing over our shortcomings, like how you describe on your post, can be one extremely unhealthy. Such an intense focus on the self, Even if it is a preoccupation with negative aspects of ourselves, is egocentric and if severe enough, can actually lead to narcissism. Kind of a inverted grandiosity where "if I'm not the best, I must be the worst". This way of thinking is incredibly toxic and almost always damaging to ones interpersonal relationships when it results in manipulation and emotional ***.

If someone is struggling with deep insecurities/self esteem issues that are resulting in body dismorphia, eating disorders, self harm, etc. I could strongly advocate for them to refrain from romantic relationships for the time being and to please seek treatment and it therapy. Theres nothing wrong with asking for help. In fact, those that do are incredibly brave, wise and mature. we all need help from time to time. Just know that a therapist can only help shjw you the way. You yourself have to be tre one to do the hard work/heavy lifting, but it's so worth it because you are worth it.

Something I've found that personally helps me is practicing gratitude. Keeping a journal and making a list it writing about all the good things I have in life or am thankful for. Focusing on what you have, and like you said, the positive relationships we have either people that love us, does wonders for our mental health and gives us a generally positive and happy outlook on life.

If anyone is struggling please reach out for help. We are lucky to have so many resources available to help us live better lives and have safer, more meaningful relationships. Taking care of yourself is sexy, taking care of yourself is hot, so don't wait.

Sorry for such a long post hi jacking your thread, obviously I am very passionate about this stuff because I don't want others to have to suffer or make the same mistakes I did. Thank you.

[GR****]

Very well spoken

[sh****]

Passion is positive and rewarding
Good thread .