ge**** Posted July 16, 2023 Posted July 16, 2023 Not to think of it as a cherry to be popped is a good starting point 😊 . Semi-joking aside though it depends what you are looking for and what kinks you are wanting to explore and to what degree? . Kink is an incredibly wide spectrum that means different things to different people - and covers many fetishes and interests, so being a bit more specific about what you're looking for would help, as would having a level of knowledge about your specific interests and why you have them etc. . It really isn't as simple as saying "I want to be kinky" and someone saying "OK let's meet then"
co**** Posted July 16, 2023 Posted July 16, 2023 Erock like Eric Nagel? Aka sex bagel? Aka bagelin' with the sex? Aka hawk from Opie and Anthony??
eR**** Posted July 16, 2023 Author Posted July 16, 2023 I’m up for anything except *** or tied up. Major claustrophobic. First time being totally single in 25+ years.
Deleted Member Posted July 16, 2023 Posted July 16, 2023 Give a general read on bdsm safety practices, etiquette and how to vet partners. I know guys (with ***) who were lured in shady locations and got beaten the living crap out of them. After that, knock yourself out.
ey**** Posted July 16, 2023 Posted July 16, 2023 go to a munch. make friends. see how things go. consider going to play events. when the time is right, play happens or find a partner from any way of life and tell them about things you'd like to try alternatively pay someone
Ta**** Posted July 17, 2023 Posted July 17, 2023 Low and slow. As others said, find a local munch — newbie munches, social groups, educational groups, kink and non-kink interests — make some platonic friends, and start learning and establishing yourself socially. Make sure you learn the local social expectations and etiquette, and as you get to know people, the opportunities will come
ar**** Posted July 17, 2023 Posted July 17, 2023 Hello new to the kink scene i found your comments super helpful will be taking your advice thank you for your wisdom
ge**** Posted July 17, 2023 Posted July 17, 2023 8 hours ago, eROCk420 said: I’m up for anything except *** or tied up. Major claustrophobic. First time being totally single in 25+ years. But that doesn't really narrow things down a great deal, apart from to rule out a couple of things. . Like I said previously, kink is a very broad spectrum and also a very subjective one - what may be kink to you may be vanilla to another and vice versa. . Is your interest in BDSM? If so do you think you're a dominant or submissive? Would you be looking for something 24/7 or just some added spice in the bedroom? What type of dominant/submissive do you think you'd be? . Or perhaps your interest is not BDSM at all and relates to one of the many other "kinks" . I'd suggest giving some real thought to what you're interested in exploring and that has to come from within - until you have a more specific idea of what you'd like to try you're going to find sites like this and even kink events/munches quite frustrating as people will soon lose interest if when they ask you what you want to explore your response is "kink". . Apologies if any of that sounds quite dismissive, it's not intended to be at all
Setrion Posted July 17, 2023 Posted July 17, 2023 To expand on Gemini's point: "BDSM" isn't just an umbrella term, because it composes six *other* umbrella terms (or arguably four if you consider the paired roles to be "one" umbrella). Bondage, Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism. These are all "kinks", and you can mix and match all of them - you can also choose *not* to mix them and only do one. And that is to say nothing of the further genres within those terms, which can be further broken down. To say you want to "try kink" is a little like saying you want to "try food" - that says a lot less than it could. Spicy food? Noodles? Meats? Fried? Admittedly, there's a lot of learning involved to even know what's out there, but specificity is your friend.
eR**** Posted July 17, 2023 Author Posted July 17, 2023 HOLY S..T!!! Hell I thought I knew at least a little bit about what I was getting into! NOPE!! @gemini_man& @Setrion, I can’t even pronounce some of those words!! lol. I’m a little scared now! 😂. I guess I should give a quick history of myself, outside of High School I’ve been with 3 women since I was 24 when I met my now ex wife. I’m 47 now! Soooooo is there “A Book for dummies” on the subject?
ge**** Posted July 17, 2023 Posted July 17, 2023 21 minutes ago, eROCk420 said: HOLY S..T!!! Hell I thought I knew at least a little bit about what I was getting into! NOPE!! @gemini_man& @Setrion, I can’t even pronounce some of those words!! lol. I’m a little scared now! 😂. I guess I should give a quick history of myself, outside of High School I’ve been with 3 women since I was 24 when I met my now ex wife. I’m 47 now! Soooooo is there “A Book for dummies” on the subject? There's no "dummies" book available but then you're not a "dummy" either and if either of my posts have given the impression you are then that was not the intent and I offer my apologies if it came across that way. . There's also nothing to be scared of, nor should you worry that you don't know as much as you thought you did - everyone was new sometime and at least you're asking questions and looking to learn which is great. . As I said earlier though kink is a broad and varied spectrum that could be as simple as wanting a little extra in the bedroom on occasion, or could be the full on whips and chains experience, or anything else in between. . For some people "kinky" is doing it with the lights on, for others it's living a complete 24/7 lifestyle built around their specific kink. . For some people their kink might be domination and submission, for others it might be sex using foodstuffs, there's even a fetish/kink involving balloons!! Some people like to regress and dress as babies, some people are into rubber and much much much more besides. In fact you name it and there's probably a kink related to it. . So as you can see posing a question such as "how do I pop my kink cherry?" isn't quite as simple as it might appear. . Have a think about you and your specific interests and what you think you might like to explore - and perhaps that will make the question an easier one to answer. . If you're not comfortable opening up here, my inbox is always open.
ey**** Posted July 17, 2023 Posted July 17, 2023 to give an idea at how broad things are take off one of your socks right now. sniff it. there you go, that's a kink. do nothing for you ok we in a cup. drink it slap yourself on the balls masturbate to a favourite adult movie but just as you're about to cum... stop... or better still, ruin your own orgasm stick a butt plug in hell - these are all kinks
Th**** Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 Firstly: don’t ever repeat that again lol “pop my kink cherry” ..
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