Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 7 hours ago, lilmrzzdarkfairy said: For a lot of people it's not in the unicorns favor. All the pleasure and relationship benefits are in the couples benefits. As expressed above. Me and my husband are looking for a triad relationship where all members of the relationship are equal. Thank you for the reply, i think we misspoke with the word unicorn. We ultimately are looking for a tri. We’ve been in a few over the last 10 years and ultimately thats what were looking for.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 7 hours ago, twoloves4her said: Any women who comes in our embrace is given pleasure and never goes without her own fulfillment. If you are not then you are with the wrong people petiod Thank you for the reply. Our whole intention is to love someone as much as we love eachother and share everything as we have done in the past.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 8 hours ago, SparklingJade said: I’m an unicorn. I exist and am very real. 💚 Thank you for your response and I hope our thread helps us open up our minds.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 10 hours ago, Eski2700 said: Whenever I’ve personally been approached it’s been made crystal clear to me that I’d be present for THEIR pleasure- not my own. I can service her and him, but no penetration on me…which has me wondering - what’s in it for me??? Idk what your limits or expectations are with your situation, but that’s what I personally keep running into. 🤷♀️ Thank you for your reply, we absolutely are not that couple. We truly seek a equal partner in al aspects of the relationship. It could be breakfast burritos and a seinfeld marathon or a beach trip or a lengthy evening of play. its always about all of us. Im sorry if our post was of-putting.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 11 hours ago, Char__ said: I think seeking a unicorn is the poly equivalent of the foot fetish. There are a lot of negative associations and assumptions about genuine intentions. Are you sure you have the labeling right? If it's someone for you to date solo, then it's not a unicorn and using that term will put ppl off. Also, as someone said, you'd do better on an individual acc than couple. If it is for you and your husband to play with, then the op is a bit misleading as he will have a role. I personally wouldn't engage with a couple as a lone female unless we were friends first and I felt good about the situation and what my role it in would be. Maybe meeting people at munches is a better idea (going together) as you can just chat and your potential can get a look and feel for the both of you, as well as the dynamic between you. Thank you for your reply. You are absolutely right and we did label it incorrectly. We will work on our abouts. We have done many munches and met a few partners that way. We are just new to the app and will do a better job of communicating our needs .
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 14 hours ago, Jeneral_Whore said: It is hard because it is rare. I am unsure why people you've asked are responding as it's You asking and not Him. If you are seeking alone, would they even still be a unicorn? Could she simply be another partner? Depends if you want someone alone, together or for what, such as sex only or relationship. . Me and my partner are poly, however due to a few factors things were put on hold, and then we discussed when ready where we wanted to go and how we wanted to do it. I feel bad saying this, but I reached out to the women, as I personally would be feeling awkward if a male approached me expressing interest, alone or with a partner. I prefer female approaches and feel more comfy approaching ladies. (I'm slightly afraid of men (when approaching) due to some shit so..) But yeh we tried on here but where we live, not a lot of people on site and if there is, they're out of our age range. So I took to feeld, hinge and tinder. First two were crap. Tinder surprisingly, wasn't as bad. We set our profile on there to pics of us both with a good bio, based on what we seek. 6 months ish of looking on it by chance matched with a real pretty local girl, been chatting just over a week, and we both meet her tomoro at the pub for some cocktails n stuff to see how we get on. Shes asked to meet with me first, as she's also a bit weary around guys and doesn't want to get overwhelmed, so we are working with her as much as possible. We just keep the conversation flowing naturally, letting her know we aren't just gonna use her for sexual needs and actually want a connection. I think it helped her relax. Some people seek out unicorns, who have no rights in the relationship, just them til they don't wish to see them anymore and discard them. And the unicorn has no say. It can be a bit cruel depending on how it's done, but this is my understanding so far. Thank you for the thoughtful reply. We thought it best to post from her account. We are definitely not looking for one on one connections but a tri for a long loving connection where everyone is heard and treated with the upmost respect.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 14 hours ago, Muso83 said: I’m a unicorn but feel damaged by experienced as previously mentioned here I would probably just feel like a spare wheel. I am very bi but do have a preference for men. Im so sorry that happened to you. We in NO way believe that is alright. I think dan savage has a campground saying. Leave it better than you found it. We truly believe in this modo.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 14 hours ago, Jeneral_Whore said: Make a bio. Make it clear. I seek a lady for "dates, fun etc etc", I am married, however he will NOT be involved. Seeking a lady for only myself long/short term. Any questions, just ask. That's if you seek solo. If you seek with him, yeh you're gonna have the trouble but again, just listing something clear as day on profile, might help one appear xx We are definitely not looking for solo play and we really appreciate your input.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 17 hours ago, DaddysHere2please said: It’s pretty simple actually… First many women have been sought after under the guise of just for her, then later approached, what do u think about him… Second what happens is women start out thinking this idea of being a unicorn is so great… But the reality sets in that they are a toy, and can be tossed aside at any moment for the person you are actually with. In the end they get tired of being the side dish with all the feelings that comes with. In the end, those genitals are connected to a heart, one that decides it’s not worth to invest that kinda time to something that’s more than likely going away. So most of them have been jaded, you may find some here and there, but odds are they are so damaged they will take whatever they can get, and that I say enter at your own risk. Or you may catch a lucky bounce on a rebound, you need to find a way to be active in your kink community, and hope it happens organically. This is a great response. I think we misused the term unicorn when what we are looking for is a tri. Equal in all respects of the relationship. We will ne more active in our kink community and attend more munches and events. We are actually going to a dungeon party next week.
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 18 hours ago, gemini_man said: Having a couples profile won't be helping you OP - any prospective connections will suspect, rightly or wrongly, that hubby will be involved in some way, and that adds a different perspective. . If you're looking to meet other women on your own, my advice would be to set up a single profile making it clear you're looking for other women only and that it'll just be you they're meeting. . Beyond that it then comes down to attraction, connection etc just the same as it does for any other user. . If however you're looking to meet other women *with* your husband, then that's another perspective altogether and a little harder to achieve as any prospective partner has to be attracted etc to both of you which includes putting details/pics of you both on your profile, along with some profile text explaining what you're looking for. . An easier way to achieve this is in person at local swingers/kink events - so you may want to consider that as an option. Thank you, yes we will be attending more munches and actually going to our friends dungeon party in a few weeks. As for your priority comment that would never be the case. We want a third or tri to be an equal participant in the relationship.
Ro**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 I think the idea is that unicorns are in such high demand that they are able to be picky as hell if they want
ge**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 5 hours ago, Boneheadnpdx said: Thank you, yes we will be attending more munches and actually going to our friends dungeon party in a few weeks. As for your priority comment that would never be the case. We want a third or tri to be an equal participant in the relationship. No problem and it wasn't actually me that made the priority comment but it's good to hear you'd see a third person as equal and as much a priority. . If, as it sounds, you're looking for a third person to meet with both if you - my comment about a couples profile with an equal level of detail/pics about both of you stands - having looked at both of your profiles they both appear to be written in the singular and though yours does have pics of both of you it's not overly clear you're a couple looking to meet a third. . I'd suggest merging the profiles into just one couples profile that provides details and pics about both of you, along with being clear about who you are and what you are looking for as a couple. . If you also meet separately then have two singles profiles that run alongside the couples one and provide just individual details - makes things a lot clearer and more transparent.
Deleted Member Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 My take on this is safety. Women can get sex anywhere. Effectively you are asking a *** stranger to come to a couple. Same as if a random guy would ask you to come to his house... Kinda a big no no. Advice: hunt. Find a woman you really like, build a friendship in public, like bff, then invite the husband then invite her at your house and only then bring up the threesome ideea, else you will terorize the poor girl. Alternatively you can hire an escort, incsll or outcall. Basically asking a woman to have zex with your husband is like a guy on catcall or cold aproach... Kinda Scarry. Imagine you go to a couple and they *** rob and kill you, that's the ideea your cold aproach brings up. Now munches are also an option as are swingers, various sites like simpatie and so on
MisstressStorm Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 I’ve wondered if being a ‘unicorn’ would work for me as a Dominant. Maybe only work for me if they are switches/subs. Although double Domming is an attractive idea. Getting to align kink with one person is problematic enough but I’m not sure I can do the gear change in scene with 2 people 🤔 ⛈
ge**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 1 hour ago, MisstressStorm said: I’ve wondered if being a ‘unicorn’ would work for me as a Dominant. Maybe only work for me if they are switches/subs. Although double Domming is an attractive idea. Getting to align kink with one person is problematic enough but I’m not sure I can do the gear change in scene with 2 people 🤔 ⛈ I've heard the term "unicorn" applied to Dommes looking for male subs in the past
MisstressStorm Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 1 hour ago, gemini_man said: I've heard the term "unicorn" applied to Dommes looking for male subs in the past Tosses mane , sharpens horn 😉, goes trotting off to find the elusive , submissive ⛈ 🦄
ge**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 1 hour ago, MisstressStorm said: Tosses mane , sharpens horn 😉, goes trotting off to find the elusive , submissive ⛈ 🦄 If we're elusive does that makes us unicorns too? 🤔🦄😄
MisstressStorm Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 51 minutes ago, gemini_man said: If we're elusive does that makes us unicorns too? 🤔🦄😄 Indeed it does - I’ve more chance of finding gold at the end of a rainbow 🌈 #DommesPtobs 😉⛈
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 6 hours ago, cereal said: My take on this is safety. Women can get sex anywhere. Effectively you are asking a *** stranger to come to a couple. Same as if a random guy would ask you to come to his house... Kinda a big no no. Advice: hunt. Find a woman you really like, build a friendship in public, like bff, then invite the husband then invite her at your house and only then bring up the threesome ideea, else you will terorize the poor girl. Alternatively you can hire an escort, incsll or outcall. Basically asking a woman to have zex with your husband is like a guy on catcall or cold aproach... Kinda Scarry. Imagine you go to a couple and they *** rob and kill you, that's the ideea your cold aproach brings up. Now munches are also an option as are swingers, various sites like simpatie and so on Thank you for your reply. Albeit a really hard take on us. We completely understand the safety aspect of being in a tri and how to start one. I think when my wife used the term unicorn it was incorrect. She meant tri. We have been in the lifestyle for over 10 years and are a know safe quantity. My wife just posed a question on here. Wasn’t asking for a hook up. It was just a question.
MisstressStorm Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 10 minutes ago, Boneheadnpdx said: Thank you for your reply. Albeit a really hard take on us. We completely understand the safety aspect of being in a tri and how to start one. I think when my wife used the term unicorn it was incorrect. She meant tri. We have been in the lifestyle for over 10 years and are a know safe quantity. My wife just posed a question on here. Wasn’t asking for a hook up. It was just a question. Asking a question is the best way to start the conversation and clarify terms that are unique to each individual. Every day I learn something(s) new and grateful to the kink community that are generous with their time and experience…. But not so much with the dweebs ( it wasn’t ever going to be rise tinted spectacles 😉🤣) 😈⛈
ge**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 29 minutes ago, MisstressStorm said: Indeed it does - I’ve more chance of finding gold at the end of a rainbow 🌈 #DommesPtobs 😉⛈ I best get a gallop on and giddyup then 🦄😁
MisstressStorm Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 11 minutes ago, gemini_man said: I best get a gallop on and giddyup then 🦄😁 Heck I’ve the leathers and riding crop - yeeeeee haaaaaa 🤣⛈
Bo**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 28 minutes ago, MisstressStorm said: Asking a question is the best way to start the conversation and clarify terms that are unique to each individual. Every day I learn something(s) new and grateful to the kink community that are generous with their time and experience…. But not so much with the dweebs ( it wasn’t ever going to be rise tinted spectacles 😉🤣) 😈⛈ Thank you for that and yes it isn’t always going to be rainbows and butterflies in the responses. Learning is everything when it’s presented properly. Have a blessed day!
Vi**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 Hey also make sure if you’re looking for a unicorn, if you’re black, let her know before you send her a pic. There’s someone who blocked me on this thread due to the color of my skin and no one can convince me otherwise. 😂🤣😂🤣
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