Deleted Member Posted July 27, 2023 Posted July 27, 2023 I'll be quite frank. Daddy "day care" is not feasible (well, at least, not for me!). 3 baby girls on the go. Same routine for each. No interaction between eachother. Sometimes it felt like groundhog day! The sex and euphoria from the power dynamic became, over time, mind numbing due to having to keep all in check. In the end I wasn't able to notice the increasing brattiness of 2 of them, and unable to meet the developing aftercare needs of the other. And so this Papa Bear is starting on a clean slate as of today! 😂 Wish me well, lessons have been learned, but tell me the ones you've learned too? ❤️
Re**** Posted July 27, 2023 Posted July 27, 2023 Ouch, thats wayy to much for me personally. Especially if you have the dynamic be more then simple kink. to me it depends on the level and depth of the dynamic.
ki**** Posted July 27, 2023 Posted July 27, 2023 Sounds like you have your hands full… maybe spend more time on your intentions. Quality over quantity
Deleted Member Posted July 28, 2023 Author Posted July 28, 2023 5 hours ago, kittyhoopsalot said: Sounds like you have your hands full… maybe spend more time on your intentions. Quality over quantity I hear you! I hadn't expected to want to take on the other 2 at the same time - think I was simply being greedy but ultimately paid the price by being worn out, unfulfilled and playing with safe vanilla routines!
Deleted Member Posted July 28, 2023 Author Posted July 28, 2023 7 hours ago, Red_SwitchX said: Ouch, thats wayy to much for me personally. Especially if you have the dynamic be more then simple kink. to me it depends on the level and depth of the dynamic. Im putting it down to an overall lack of maturity and awareness - it's like I was waiting for a bus then 3 show up at the same time! But I guess if they all go the same direction then I should have just hopped on to just the one and explored everywhere it could have gone x
ny**** Posted July 28, 2023 Posted July 28, 2023 If you kept them all secret from one another, then you have a lesson to learn in treating your subs with respect as well.
Deleted Member Posted July 28, 2023 Author Posted July 28, 2023 "Focus on one?" — there's your problem. Focus isn't a question, it's a necessity if you're going to be a healthy partner. If you're going to be respectful and respected. You're not a papa bear, daddy, dom, or any other epithet. You're a human with faults and that's your clean slate.
Deleted Member Posted July 28, 2023 Author Posted July 28, 2023 6 hours ago, nycgentledaddy said: If you kept them all secret from one another, then you have a lesson to learn in treating your subs with respect as well. I hear you and have utmost respect for that - they were all mutuals with similar social circles and essentially introduced eachother to me! Effectively referred by the 1st who felt I offered soemthing theydl others would be interested in... And before you know it, I'm running a daycare centre 😢 But in doing so, I guess I deviated from enjoying it myself and being able to give any of the relationships justice, and instead treating it like a day job where I was doing the least I could "get away with" without getting fired
Deleted Member Posted July 28, 2023 Author Posted July 28, 2023 35 minutes ago, bigcupoftea said: "Focus on one?" — there's your problem. Focus isn't a question, it's a necessity if you're going to be a healthy partner. If you're going to be respectful and respected. You're not a papa bear, daddy, dom, or any other epithet. You're a human with faults and that's your clean slate. Very much so. I don't know how anyone is able to manage anything beyond 1 very involved and intense arrangement, but I guess i had to learn the hard way. I'm trying to think of it as a positive - my baby's will now be better prepared for future, and I will try biting off more than I can chew!
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