Needy

[fa****]

When you reply on time to someone and want to know the person so ask every question possible, does that make you needy?

[ey****]

It can make you pushy

there's a difference between wanting to get to know someone and interrogating someone haha

especially if it's like you've got a script of questions rather than a naturally flowing conversation

[ju****]

Depends on the context and how you frame your messages.

[fa****]

Sometimes you already have question regarding their fantasies and than it leads to knowing more and more and than more question. Most of ladies think you sound so needy and all lol 😂

[fa****]

But when did asking questions to know someone became needy?

[Re****]

Depends on how you ask the question! If it carries the convo and its a good back and forth then its fine. And so long as you dont send repeated “you there” “???” Text ect

[ju****]

Okay, if you hyperfixate on just their fantasies and kinks then yeah that can come across as needy/overbearing/insincere, just looking to pleasure yourself and your own interests. For someone just looking for “cyber fun” that might not be an issue. But someone looking for a partner it’s a red flag.

[Deleted Member]

It’s needy when you’re relentless about it. Things take time

[fa****]

When you go on a date you ask the same question and that never came out as needy, it’s just the online things carrying the same conversation they tag you as needy. Which is very frustration as you are only looking for connection or trying to make one.

[ki****]

Isn’t it all part of vetting ?

[fa****]

Ty guy for all the replies, reading it all and understand as every person has a different mindset

[Shilo66]

No. asking lots of different questions about someone does NOT make you needy. You're simply being careful and looking out for warning signs that might make you think twice about actually meeting up with them. You'll find that genuine people do not mind you asking them lots of questions and will do the same to you too. Those that do mind, are the ones you need to be very careful of. They're usually hiding something and / or have omitted to tell you things that they really should disclose.   

By asking the questions now, not only do you save wasting time later, you are also building up familiarity with that person, so that when you do first meet or play, there's fewer awkward moments, and, you are already aware of what you can and cannot do with them, and vice versa, so their limits and yours are respected. Contrary to belief, by asking all the questions now, you will NOT run out of things to say to them on the actual first meet / play, if anything, because you two will feel like you already know each other, you'll ask more friendlier questions and conversations will flow more fluidly between you. 

Asking lots of questions now, is basically your way of saying to that person, please give me the manual / handbook / Instructions for how to turn you on and keep you there. 

[Ro****]

S*** I thought that was just being polite and showing interest

[Th****]

To many people throw the word "needy" around when that's not actually what they're describing. 

Lots of questions is fine and good but as Eyem said *how* you ask and what are starter questions to later questions make a big difference and it is possible to come of as *pushy* which is definitely not good. 

[Tr****]

I would say it depends on the questions you're asking. Are you engaging with the person, or are you interviewing or even interrogating them? Asking the right questions is a skill, so if you come across multiple accounts that say you're needy, figure out why and change your approach. At the end of the day, you can only account for yourself and not anyone else, including how they choose to respond to you.

[Lu****]

Nope it makes you invested so they clearly just weren’t for you

[Ae****]

Worrying about what another person thinks is needy. If I want to ask thirty questions in a row, I will. If they don't like it, they failed the vibe check. This goes for every single thing you do.

[Ro****]

Hell no that makes you open and engaged to what could come

[Deleted Member]

No, it makes you reliable. But since the other person is a toxic woman with options she creates space for said options by pushing you away. Make no mistake someone who likes you will never risk offending you, which means that whoever is not your person, she's evryone's person. Now that you are informed, said person wants to play so act like a psycho and leave her on seen 4 days at a time, untill she chases or leaves.

[ea****]

It depends on the type of question you're asking. You wanna make sure you're asking open ended questions and try not to make it sound like an interview. You're sure you have good intentions, but the other person you're writing doesn't know that. Give a little context on why you wanna know what you're asking.

[Th****]

On 7/28/2023 at 4:08 AM, cereal said:

No, it makes you reliable. But since the other person is a toxic woman with options she creates space for said options by pushing you away. Make no mistake someone who likes you will never risk offending you, which means that whoever is not your person, she's evryone's person. Now that you are informed, said person wants to play so act like a psycho and leave her on seen 4 days at a time, untill she chases or leaves.

Geez this is a bad take, I'm not sure how you got that from the information given. Seems like you may be projecting a bit of your own frustrations here. 😬

[Deleted Member]

I don’t believe so ! 🥰

[Deleted Member]

Thursday at 02:40 AM, ThaliaVirago said:

Geez this is a bad take, I'm not sure how you got that from the information given. Seems like you may be projecting a bit of your own frustrations here. 😬

Well I thank you for your feedback. First of all communication was mentioned, which shows active effort. Now if you don't like the person simply stop the conversation. If said person asks every question possible to get to know you and you respond but ad a needy it's called stringing along. The other person clearly is trying to establish a connection, which is refused, but the beneffit of attention is retained. We can therfore conclude that the other person is a woman, playing a game with someone who is actually not playing, and tho she or he is totally in their right to send said person away, they indulge the interaction in order to get validation while ironically invalidating the person validating them. Which is actually the deffinition of toxic, aka stoping growth. Now i hope i cleared it up thank you for your projection. Needy is not a term to be used in a romantic setting as it's toxic af and whoever tells you that should have left the conversstion far before it was used, as it falls under character assassination. Tho needy itself shows insecurity the responsability of use falls to whoever uses it as a choice to be toxic to another person 🤗

[Mx****]

I've often found women I've talked with are either the accusing you of cheating if you are busy for an hour or two type or the a couple of messages a day type. Some days/times of your life are different to others of course but it's always been a little confusing