Popular Post br**** Posted August 11, 2023 Popular Post Posted August 11, 2023 We have to get ready for our first kinky date, and we are a little nervous π₯΅ Help us out! How should we get ready for it? π
Cypresswillys Posted August 15, 2023 Posted August 15, 2023 Clean wash every nook and cranny of your body
Yx**** Posted August 15, 2023 Posted August 15, 2023 Self respect,hydration,self motivation,a pre discussion on safe words,inform one another of any triggers,confidence and to look your bestπ I can always provide more info if needed.
Tr**** Posted August 15, 2023 Posted August 15, 2023 Brush your teeth, hair Do some yoga relaxation breathing exercises - if you get anxious, keep breathing. Go over the limits and make sure you are clear in your understanding and theirs. Do you need toys? Pack them. Do you have a Safe contact set up? A friend who knows where you are going and did you set up a check in time?
Di**** Posted August 15, 2023 Posted August 15, 2023 Other than the obvious cleaning up, which sadly, some don't. Make sure all batteries are charged, consumable are stocked up and there's always a last minute trip to the toy store.
OldManLooking61 Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Iβm about to meet a new sub for the very first time.. I have manscaped, trimmed and filed my finger nails. The toys have been sanitised and batteries recharged. Iβve selected my clothing suitable for the occasion and location. It is intended to be a meet up and if we qqconnect have oral sex. But Iβve also made sure to have a new pack of condoms and lubricant packed in the toy bagβ¦β¦ you can never be too safe nor know for certain that things will stop where intended. There are blankets packed in the car and we have both left info with trusted friends and set reporting times. Especially on a first date you need to have prepared for any eventuality
Chaseman1022 Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Self grooming, clean hygiene and clean shaved. Get some flowers or something nice for your date and remember to hold the door and be Polite and so on.
BrokenCollar Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Listen to your favorite playlist on your way over. Remember who you are and what you want. And promise yourself not to settle for anything less than what you deserve. If you aren't smiling or laughing within the first 10 minutes, BAIL.
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Trust, mutual respect, and consent. Also protection.
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Let a trusted friend know, have a safe call, make your own way there and back to meeting in public place,
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Most important thing, always remind yourself you can pull out at any time. This is a first date, there is no commitment here, you only have to go as far and as fast as you want to, and your only obligation is to respect that the person you are meeting can also pull out at any time as well.
LanaSub Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Remember safe , sane and consensual. Tell a close friend or family member where you are .x
504noah Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Great kinky sex can turn into a life-long relationship. The trust is almost immeasurable.
sw**** Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Well depending on the dynamic I am a switch. However, I like to shave my genital area. And undercarriage. Take a long healthy clean shower, and wear deodorant, and some good cologne, I like smelling good as a male, this is very important I have found. If nits something casual I dress casual, if it's just a beach date, likewise. If we are planning on playtime I'll gather what toys I thinkninwill need. And possibly wear some faux leather undies or possibly a bikini,
ma**** Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Be transparent about what is going to happen. Example i had this girl come over I told her that when we met instead of a handshake or hug i was going to grab her tits and grope her. I let her know so she wouldnβt freak out and get scared
Deleted Member Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 I tend to agree with a lot thatβs been said here. I would like to address the nervous part of the prompt. Itβs perfectly natural to be nervous no matter how experienced you are and can manage it. . As part of the important communication especially right before meeting up in whatever way, just talk about about the nerves. Get it out in the open. Talk about what makes you nervous and how you might act, and what can we do to calm things down. For example, I might sweat a bit especially when I am working hard to tie your sexy ass up and put it to good use ππ . Then build in some comfort layers for when you meet in whatever way that is. For first BDSM meeting, if the comfort and trust is there, I think blindfolds/eye binders are great to take the pressure off both parties. Personally I donβt like someone watching me fumble around trying to figure out how to make some new environment work properly π
Ba**** Posted August 18, 2023 Posted August 18, 2023 Just be yourself but take her in and be interested in her οΏΌ
Deleted Member Posted August 26, 2023 Posted August 26, 2023 August 16, Ultraclassicone said: I'm new and seems like it is all excellent tips Me too!!
Deleted Member Posted August 26, 2023 Posted August 26, 2023 August 16, AnyoneForRealHere said: I tend to agree with a lot thatβs been said here. I would like to address the nervous part of the prompt. Itβs perfectly natural to be nervous no matter how experienced you are and can manage it. . As part of the important communication especially right before meeting up in whatever way, just talk about about the nerves. Get it out in the open. Talk about what makes you nervous and how you might act, and what can we do to calm things down. For example, I might sweat a bit especially when I am working hard to tie your sexy ass up and put it to good use ππ . Then build in some comfort layers for when you meet in whatever way that is. For first BDSM meeting, if the comfort and trust is there, I think blindfolds/eye binders are great to take the pressure off both parties. Personally I donβt like someone watching me fumble around trying to figure out how to make some new environment work properly π Hahaha sense of humor is refreshing
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