How to find dominant women?

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I experienced a lot in life and can tell you something from my experience hope will give you some better understanding or at least you will get some value out of this .
Men are born genetically dominant and women submissive , you like this or not is just the way it is . Men are dominant by nature while women not . However the society and life generally putting both men and women through tests and challenges this is how submissive men are born and dominant women . For example a man grow up with a bigger *** or was raised up by a single mother or by both parent but a weak father is likely will become submissive while a woman that experienced either extreme hardships either been ultra spoiled can turn dominant . This are basic examples . If I address your question even more a dominat woman will be a very intelligent woman or at least one that bealive about herself that is highly inteligent , she will see that despite that men are not treating her with consideration and will take matter on own hands this is of course just a step but put enough steps together and you will get there I cannot elaborate here the whole process for obvious reasons . Now the main point for you to remember is that a dominant woman is usually not great for LTR as coming with too many traumas which on one side are hard to deal with and on the other side if you manage to do so you will have at the end a submissive woman .
There are no women that get pleasure in hurting you physically apart from the cases that you better stay away from there can be women that would challenge your authority often enough but this will not work on long term trust me will not .
So short answer there are not natural dominatrixes but you can find a dominant woman in a library or as a teacher . Usually a woman fully tattooed with pierces everywhere , doc martens shoes etc just begging for attention and usually ultra submissive in the right hands so stay away from that type if you want dominant

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I’m not sure where to begin to respond to that 🙄

[4R****]

12 hours ago, DaRo969 said:

I experienced a lot in life and can tell you something from my experience hope will give you some better understanding or at least you will get some value out of this .
Men are born genetically dominant and women submissive , you like this or not is just the way it is . Men are dominant by nature while women not . However the society and life generally putting both men and women through tests and challenges this is how submissive men are born and dominant women . For example a man grow up with a bigger *** or was raised up by a single mother or by both parent but a weak father is likely will become submissive while a woman that experienced either extreme hardships either been ultra spoiled can turn dominant . This are basic examples . If I address your question even more a dominat woman will be a very intelligent woman or at least one that bealive about herself that is highly inteligent , she will see that despite that men are not treating her with consideration and will take matter on own hands this is of course just a step but put enough steps together and you will get there I cannot elaborate here the whole process for obvious reasons . Now the main point for you to remember is that a dominant woman is usually not great for LTR as coming with too many traumas which on one side are hard to deal with and on the other side if you manage to do so you will have at the end a submissive woman .
There are no women that get pleasure in hurting you physically apart from the cases that you better stay away from there can be women that would challenge your authority often enough but this will not work on long term trust me will not .
So short answer there are not natural dominatrixes but you can find a dominant woman in a library or as a teacher . Usually a woman fully tattooed with pierces everywhere , doc martens shoes etc just begging for attention and usually ultra submissive in the right hands so stay away from that type if you want dominant

I’m not entirely sure how this pile of discriminatory bullsh*t got past the moderators.

[Deleted Member]

@4RCH it dose not matter what a moderator thinks or if deleted or not facts are facts and if you want to have a dialogue that is fine but if you cannot or refuse to then you can live in your world where wonder woman and xena exists that's fine by me but don't forget one thing just because you fantasise about something that dose not make it real

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39 minutes ago, DaRo969 said:

@4RCH it dose not matter what a moderator thinks or if deleted or not facts are facts and if you want to have a dialogue that is fine but if you cannot or refuse to then you can live in your world where wonder woman and xena exists that's fine by me but don't forget one thing just because you fantasise about something that dose not make it real

Oh dear! That’s is all!

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14 hours ago, DaRo969 said:

Men are born genetically dominant and women submissive , you like this or not is just the way it is . Men are dominant by nature while women not . However the society and life generally putting both men and women through tests and challenges this is how submissive men are born and dominant women . For example a man grow up with a bigger *** or was raised up by a single mother or by both parent but a weak father is likely will become submissive while a woman that experienced either extreme hardships either been ultra spoiled can turn dominant .

there's a lot here which... isn't quite true

so the idea of male leadership, patriarchal society, etc. is, in terms of world history, a relatively recent development (albeit about 10,000 years).   It's a developed cultural trait rather than something which can in any way be descried as "natural" 

there's a lot that's held up based on ideology rather than biology, or even reality.

The notion of submissive being weak, especially when it's submissive men*, is extremely damaging and also untrue.  (*though the implication that women should be subservient because they are weak is also misogyny) and while some studies aren't as thorough - there's not really much coloration between upbringing to what leads someone to be, wish to be, or have fantasies about - being submissive or Dominant.

That for example you state a woman can become Dominant due to going through hardships or being spoilt is in itself a sign there's little coloration - I am aware, for example, of female subs with VERY privileged upbringings (ultra spoilt) just as I am with female Dominants with good upbringings (same) 

The patterns don't follow so true
 

[Ca****]

Attend local munches, they are all over.

[Sh****]

Aside from interacting with people here? Munches are a good option I hear.

[de****]

I’ll have to look for one of those in Denver Co Munches hum never been to one. Thanks for the tip

[Deleted Member]

You can find them. But most on these apps want *** or are Findoms from what I've seen

[ge****]

10 hours ago, Zack30413 said:

You can find them. But most on these apps want *** or are Findoms from what I've seen

While it's true those looking to make *** do exist on sites like this (though on this particular one ProDommes/FinDoms are not allowed so anyone asking for *** should be reported) there are many who are lifestyle Dommes who don't look for financial reward of any kind - standing out and appealing to them is the key.

[Cu****]

And how does one stand out exactly? Be clear on what you are willing to do or??????

[ge****]

9 hours ago, Curiousgoodboy said:

And how does one stand out exactly? Be clear on what you are willing to do or??????

There are many ways but ultimately it comes down to making yourself appealing to prospective partners, and showing them you are genuine and above all both respectful and considerate.
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Your profile is a good place to start - don't make it a list of things you want, or all about what you want - show that you've given some thought to what your role means to you, and that you understand that role. Definitely don't make it a list of your fantasies.
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The forums and chat rooms here are a good place for you to both show you're a decent person and to get to know others, so get involved in them.
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Get along to local Munches and kink events, not to look for prospective partners but to network, get involved and generally show you're genuine in your interests.

[Cu****]

Thanks @gemini_man, that makes a lot of sense. I have updated my profile thanks to your advice. Not quite sure on what a munches is or how to find them . Can you give me any more pointers?

[ey****]

10 hours ago, Curiousgoodboy said:

And how does one stand out exactly? Be clear on what you are willing to do or??????

I think one way to stand out is consistency

there's folk who will join sites like this; message a bunch of people then leave or return sparingly when they don't (or do!) get what they want.   But staying around and contributing to forums and chat is something which gets you noticed

same for stuff like munches, there's folk will come to one or two then stop - but the more you're seen the more people get to know you and the more it builds your own confidence and people can see you as an all round person and not just what you're out to get

for munches, sadly this site isn't great for finding them - most munch organisers list solely on fetlife - but you can create even just a basic/skeleton profile there (at least for now) and click your town/area and it'll bring up listed munches/events - munches are just social, usually a pub/restaurant and the view is friendship, discussion, etc

[Cu****]

Thanks again. Would you be willing to look at my updated profile and message me your thoughts. Either way on what’s good bad or things I still need to educate myself on?

[Ja****]

Alright thanks for tip