Who believes this is a hookup site?

[jc****]

I am new here and im just happy to know im not alone in my thoughts and if i do meet just a bonus

[De****]

Only a reason why I'm on here is so I can get laid.

[Deleted Member]

  January 9, Aman94 said:

I see it as an annoying lame site ware it’s more chat or looking then anything fun

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So what alternative you have in mind?

[da****]

If it's a hook up site it's pretty sad

[Deleted Member]

I hope it is!

[ka****]

Agree. Ive had one interaction where the guy seemed genuine and looking for same things. Let me guard down and we video exchanged. He messed with my feelings i was open and honest and he ran

[ma****]

Reading back through the previous comments hurts my soul. I’m a member of the local kink community, I’m on this app and another. I see too many people looking for a quick lay instead of building a positive kink/bdsm dynamic.

I think of this as a place for like minded people to gather, share experiences, get advice, and make meaningful connections. I see two issues and they aren’t with the app but rather with the users. The first is empty profiles. The second is people not reading profiles. If everyone completed their profile and stated what they are here for, and if everyone read those profiles, and then interacted with people looking for the same, it would fix this issue. Unfortunately I don’t see this happening.

[Goddess_Fifi]

  5 hours ago, mattyguy83 said:

Reading back through the previous comments hurts my soul. I’m a member of the local kink community, I’m on this app and another. I see too many people looking for a quick lay instead of building a positive kink/bdsm dynamic.

I think of this as a place for like minded people to gather, share experiences, get advice, and make meaningful connections. I see two issues and they aren’t with the app but rather with the users. The first is empty profiles. The second is people not reading profiles. If everyone completed their profile and stated what they are here for, and if everyone read those profiles, and then interacted with people looking for the same, it would fix this issue. Unfortunately I don’t see this happening.

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I absolutely agree with everything you have said, I've filled out my profile as much as possible so there is no confusion about what I'm here for and I even put a disclaimer at the beginning yet some people don't bother to read and ask me questions what if they took the time to read they would have their answer.

This my rub some people up the wrong way but when I see a profile with little to no content or a person doesn't read mine I make the assumption that the person is here just for a quick hook up.

[Goddess_Fifi]

I've said this in other threads and I'll say it again, FILL OUT YOUR PROFILE, if you can't think of anything to say, fill out your kinky confessions, make your answers as thorough as possible, show us some depth to who you are. Fill out your kinks, fetishes and what you want to try, it's only a check list for crying out loud🙄.

I'm seeing far too many men on here complaining about not getting any interest yet their profiles are baron like the Sahara desert, no content just their statistics, you expect people to be interested in you, how do you expect anyone to be interested if you haven't even made an effort to be interesting?

FILL. OUT. YOUR. PROFILE.

[Ve****]

I’ve recently put in my status that I’m not here for no strings attached sex. It has drastically reduced how many crushes and messages I get. This is a great thing! I’m into quality connections over quantity.

[Th****]

  20 hours ago, mattyguy83 said:

Reading back through the previous comments hurts my soul. I’m a member of the local kink community, I’m on this app and another. I see too many people looking for a quick lay instead of building a positive kink/bdsm dynamic.

I think of this as a place for like minded people to gather, share experiences, get advice, and make meaningful connections. I see two issues and they aren’t with the app but rather with the users. The first is empty profiles. The second is people not reading profiles. If everyone completed their profile and stated what they are here for, and if everyone read those profiles, and then interacted with people looking for the same, it would fix this issue. Unfortunately I don’t see this happening.

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This. And do some type of *actually* education yourself on the basics of kink and bdsm. Porn isn't education and is almost always wildly inaccurate relative to reality. Read as much as you can from as many *multiple* sources as you can. Check up on those sources to see if they're quality sources. 

 

Do a Google search on "kink and bdsm educators". There are several lists out there. I'd post links but this site doesn't allow for that. 🙄😮‍💨

[Ve****]

  On 11/3/2023 at 11:31 AM, gemini_man said:

There's nothing wrong with seeing the site however you want to see it - so long as you accept and are respectful of the fact that not everyone will see it the same way as you and may not be here for quick fixes by means of hook ups

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I actually had someone, after minimal conversation, say, “So, do you want to f**k, or what?” A grown a** man said that. Thought I might say yes simply because he connected on Fetlife.

[Goddess_Fifi]

  2 hours ago, Velicious said:

I actually had someone, after minimal conversation, say, “So, do you want to f**k, or what?” A grown a** man said that. Thought I might say yes simply because he connected on Fetlife.

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That's awful, I'm so sorry you had to experience that.

[da****]

Well this is kinda a type of hook up site though if u really look at it it's just that people or some people on here aren't just looking to f#@k some are some are just looking for sugar daddies

[ma****]

  24 minutes ago, daddy360 said:

Well this is kinda a type of hook up site though if u really look at it it's just that people or some people on here aren't just looking to f#@k some are some are just looking for sugar daddies

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A hook up isn’t kink or fetish related, it’s jumping into bed with one another. This is a place for kink and fetish. If you’re wanting to experience something and you find someone willing to do it with you, you can do a single play session or scene with someone. It’s planned, you know the activities beforehand, and consent is given. I don’t see that as a hook up or one night stand. There are far too many out there who see kinky people as an east lay and try to get their pecker wet. They don’t engage in kinks, fetishes, or anything beyond a vanilla romp between the sheets. Those people bring down the community. You don’t have to be the kinkiest person to be here, but I feel you should at the very least, bring something to table other than what’s between your legs.

[Ar****]

  2 hours ago, daddy360 said:

Well this is kinda a type of hook up site though if u really look at it it's just that people or some people on here aren't just looking to f#@k some are some are just looking for sugar daddies

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I have to disagree. Just because some people come on here looking for hookups that doesn't make it a hookup site. It's only since the app was launched that people who have joined through there and can't see the full context/history of the site seem to get that idea - but that's they're own projections and expections.

If you see anybody looking for a sugar daddy they should be getting reported as that's against the site's terms of use.

[adrenalina75]

  Yesterday at 05:44 PM, Aranhis said:

I have to disagree. Just because some people come on here looking for hookups that doesn't make it a hookup site. It's only since the app was launched that people who have joined through there and can't see the full context/history of the site seem to get that idea - but that's they're own projections and expections.

If you see anybody looking for a sugar daddy they should be getting reported as that's against the site's terms of use.

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I’m not looking for a sugar daddy. The opposite is why I’m commenting. A guy has messaged me asking me to be his text pal with nothing sexual, and wants to pay me pocket ***. What’s this about? Is this a thing?

[Ve****]

It’s a scam.

[ge****]

  1 hour ago, noob75 said:

I’m not looking for a sugar daddy. The opposite is why I’m commenting. A guy has messaged me asking me to be his text pal with nothing sexual, and wants to pay me pocket ***. What’s this about? Is this a thing?

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Yeah there are guys that will do exactly that - either because they get a kick out of it, or because it gives them a sense of power over the recipient - while I don't believe it's allowed that way round on the site either, be very cautious before even considering it, if you are - could be a scam, could be any number of things - may of course be entirely genuine, but could just as easily be a road you don't want to go down.

[adrenalina75]

  13 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Yeah there are guys that will do exactly that - either because they get a kick out of it, or because it gives them a sense of power over the recipient - while I don't believe it's allowed that way round on the site either, be very cautious before even considering it, if you are - could be a scam, could be any number of things - may of course be entirely genuine, but could just as easily be a road you don't want to go down.

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Oh god. I wasn’t going to do it. I just wondered why someone would do that, and whether it was dodgy!

[adrenalina75]

  18 minutes ago, noob75 said:

Oh god. I wasn’t going to do it. I just wondered why someone would do that, and whether it was dodgy!

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I should have reported him, but I’ve deleted him now and can’t remember who he was.

[be****]

I have been on like 10 f**k sites and still have not even .gotten a number and ever women wants ***

[Th****]

  On 2/7/2024 at 5:59 PM, gemini_man said:

Yeah there are guys that will do exactly that - either because they get a kick out of it, or because it gives them a sense of power over the recipient - while I don't believe it's allowed that way round on the site either, be very cautious before even considering it, if you are - could be a scam, could be any number of things - may of course be entirely genuine, but could just as easily be a road you don't want to go down.

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Yeah, there are legit sugar sites out there. If anyone has an interest it's your best bet to go with one of those for safety sake. Supposedly there are ones that screen their members decently well. 

[Th****]

  9 hours ago, benton100029 said:

I have been on like 10 fuck sites and still have not even .gotten a number and ever women wants ***

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Maybe that's part of your trouble, treating the kink and bdsm communities as a "**** site." 

[ge****]

  13 hours ago, benton100029 said:

I have been on like 10 f**k sites and still have not even .gotten a number and ever women wants ***

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For starters this isn't a "f**k site" and even if it were treating it as such will likely get you nowhere - just because a woman is on a site looking for casual sex doesn't immediately make her easy or that all the norms of respect, courtesy etc go out the window, any more than you'd expect them to for yourself.
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So if you are hoping to make connections and find what you desire, perhaps re-align your expectations, attitude and approach and you might fare a little better.