How to get my spouse more interested

[Deleted Member]

I have talked to my spouse on multiple occasions and let him know some of my milder fantasies. So far he seems willing to try but has yet to put it into practice. Any advice on further steps I can take to get the ball rolling? 

[Longlocksmith]

Buy the stuff you want to use and suprise him one night

[ey****]

it's worth a potential final conversation and that is one of - is he interested, if so what's the problem / hold up

chances are he may be interested but unsure what to *actually* do so this is something to work through

don't surprise him with bought items : if he doesn't know what to do he still won't; and if he was just humouring you then it's unnecessary spending

[Deleted Member]

Thank you for your responses. I have tried surprising him with it in the past but it never turns out well because it isn't something he is used to. I have had some success talking through what I want as we go. This time since he is at home at the moment and i am not, I texted him all the details of exactly what I want to happen. I'm hoping it will get him excited.

[Deleted Member]

sounds for me like you guys don`t really click

Edited August 26, 2019 by Deleted Member
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[Mz****]

On 8/24/2019 at 12:26 AM, Ryvid said:

Thank you for your responses. I have tried surprising him with it in the past but it never turns out well because it isn't something he is used to. I have had some success talking through what I want as we go. This time since he is at home at the moment and i am not, I texted him all the details of exactly what I want to happen. I'm hoping it will get him excited

I agree with eyem surprising someone who doesn't share your enthusiasm almost always goes pearshaped.

Have you tried watching some porn together? It doesn't have to be hardcore, just something he can watch and take some inspiration from perhaps?

And the flirty texts is a good strategy too, engage his mind, let him see the potential fun to be had..but don't push too hard or you may find he puts a wall up and refuses to even consider kinky play.

I wish I could be more help. Good luck 🤞

[Gi****]

@Ryvid I've been trying to do the same thing with my wife, though I'm still trying to figure out how to broach the subject. I mentioned it one time, just a slight comment, and she wasn't really interested in it. I'm thinking of seeing if I can find a movie on the subject, a good movie, or maybe write out a little story, a fantasy, and show her how it could play out. Good luck!