Ta**** Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 56 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said: This aswell bothers me somewhat, it's as if you are giving me permission. Whatever floats your boat? Hmmmm yes that's right it is whatever floats my boat No. The only person who can give you permission and keep your boat afloat is your Submissive, not anything anyone says on this forum. What we say is only our personal opinion. Your Sub is the one who has, or should have, the last word. I am sure you know that, but anyway. Enough said on this subject.
Wo**** Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 Can I jump in here? I've chatted to @Donnykinkster and read his posts and there's no doubt in my mind that he respects his submissives and play partners. He stated, I believe, that spitting would be , consensual, within a relationship. The floating your boat thing... one man's meat is another man's poison. I'm not into spitting (gut reaction) but if others are, if it floats their boat, then who am I to judge?
Goldenrich Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 So sorry for being in the wrong place, so it's all what the dom wants and the sub has no say in it? Good night, can I have a chat with you tomorrow night?
Wo**** Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 20 minutes ago, Goldenrich said: So sorry for being in the wrong place, so it's all what the dom wants and the sub has no say in it? Good night, can I have a chat with you tomorrow night? That's not what he's saying! It's consensual.
Wo**** Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 3 hours ago, Donnykinkster said: I would never spit in the face of someone I was just getting used to, unless she directly made it clear it was what she craved. @Goldenrich He hasn't said anywhere he'd do it to someone that didn't consent. You could also argue that if a submissive submits, it is about what the Dom wants. That's why there needs to be communication.
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 4 hours ago, Goldenrich said: So sorry for being in the wrong place, so it's all what the dom wants and the sub has no say in it? Good night, can I have a chat with you tomorrow night? You need to choose your words better and I suggest you read the previous comments. No for the record a sub shouldn't do jist what a dom wants. If you knew anything about me which you don't you would know I'm actually completely the opposite of the man you are insinuating I am.
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 6 hours ago, TammyNatalia said: No. The only person who can give you permission and keep your boat afloat is your Submissive, not anything anyone says on this forum. What we say is only our personal opinion. Your Sub is the one who has, or should have, the last word. I am sure you know that, but anyway. Enough said on this subject. Yes I do know that, I like to think better than most.
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 (edited) 5 hours ago, Goldenrich said: So sorry for being in the wrong place, so it's all what the dom wants and the sub has no say in it? Good night, can I have a chat with you tomorrow night? I will say it one more time. No a good relationship isn't about what the Dom only wants Communication and agreement on limits is EVERYTHING As trust builds so can the relationship and the things we can do. If a partner says no, that's the end of it. Even a year down the line if she says no then it's not even an issue anymore By drip feed I meant talk, mention it again a few months in, see if opinion has changes. What you have been Isiniuating is I do what I like which I do not. I met a lovely lass, all was going well until I realised she needed a literal sadist(Which I am not) and that was pretty much the end of that. Why? Because that's my limit, for now at least. However maybe just maybe in a year I may be a different man with different limits. Everything I find is fluid, people change and so do limits. Maybe a look at my profile will give you a better idea of what I am. Do not ever pass judgment on me without first approaching me directly. You know nothing of me or what I am. I understand perfectly how things work and on that score need no advice from anyone. I think i see how things wotk perf3ctly now. If you wish to chat then please feel free. Edited July 7, 2020 by Deleted Member
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 6 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: I feel some of this is getting left field, so here is some stuff to bundle it back on track. - I love spitting. The last porn clip I bought involved 5 ladies absolutely showering another lady in spit. It was glorious. And one of my favourite scenes I've been in involved 3 ladies spitting on me and using me as an ashtray. I loved it. - it's not for everyone - it's also a high risk activity. especially now. I was pretty ill once after a spiting scene a few years ago - the concept of doing things for your Dominant I can get behind. But not every Dominant loves spitting. If this is a no no for you, then of course like every limit this should be respected, but probably worth not dealing with those who love it. As always the voice of reason. Yes i agree the subject was getting ripped in a different direction and I feel misunderstood, badly.
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 7 hours ago, Goldenrich said: Well, maybe what ever turns you on, I am not judging you, I'm simply saying we all have things we like, and things we don't like, for example, I would love a woman to *** in my mouth, but maybe you think that is discusting, that's what I meant by whatever floats your boat The words "whatever floats your boat" I find insulting somewhat. Dismissive to a degree, that's what I take issue with.
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 I am pretty sure it used to be, "Wwhatever rocks your boat", but anyway I am sure it wasn't meant as a personal ***. It's just an old saying that people sometimes use, and I believe it's an old Maritime saying, which gives me an idea for a topic. English language is full of them.
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 2 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: I am pretty sure it used to be, "Wwhatever rocks your boat", but anyway I am sure it wasn't meant as a personal ***. It's just an old saying that people sometimes use, and I believe it's an old Maritime saying, which gives me an idea for a topic. English language is full of them. I agree, I doubt it was meant as a personal Insult however, what I do find insulting is those who don't know me trying to preach about consent and limits. Something I'm fully aware of and if I need advice on my lack of knowledge I have no issues seeking advice. For some reason this thread seemed to turn into a discussion of base protocol, which again I'm fully aware of and embrace.
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 It gave me an idea for a topic though. I have just posted it on the Online Munch where you can discuss things outside S&M, and I await its approval. Lol
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 17 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: It gave me an idea for a topic though. I have just posted it on the Online Munch where you can discuss things outside S&M, and I await its approval. Lol I look forward to reading it 😊
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 If it doesn't appear it means the Mods have dumped it, but I hope it goes through!! Lol
Wo**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 Agreed. For me, I'm not sure I particularly want to change how I feel about it. Not my thing but that's ok. I am curious though @Donnykinkster what is it about it that you like? How can you carry out a degrading action with love? Or is it that you don't? What's your headspace kinda thing?
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Bounty said: Agreed. For me, I'm not sure I particularly want to change how I feel about it. Not my thing but that's ok. I am curious though @Donnykinkster what is it about it that you like? How can you carry out a degrading action with love? Or is it that you don't? What's your headspace kinda thing? Personally, (and I don't want anyone to think I am engaged in any 'ad hominum' attack here) but I could never, for the life of me, ever spit on anyone that I love, not even in play I don't think. But that is just me I guess! Anyway I don't want to butt in too much, so I will leave Donny to answer your question. Lol
Wo**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 10 hours ago, Donnykinkster said: As always the voice of reason. Yes i agree the subject was getting ripped in a different direction and I feel misunderstood, badly. I understand what you're saying. Not my thing but I get where you're coming from x
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Bounty said: Agreed. For me, I'm not sure I particularly want to change how I feel about it. Not my thing but that's ok. I am curious though @Donnykinkster what is it about it that you like? How can you carry out a degrading action with love? Or is it that you don't? What's your headspace kinda thing? To say you don't want to change how you feel about it doesnt sit right for me.. You CANT change how you feel about it, you have to be what you are whether that fits with others or not, i thought that was a key point of this scene, being yourself. Dont change what you are fot others, then you are not being true to yourself and I think that has potential to bring sadness. It's the sadist in me, simple as that but to try and put it into words would be like trying to explain why I don't like the colour green, it just is, its part of my sexual makeup. Some women crave it as some crave direct physical ***, being with a woman who craves that level of control is hot as fuck, makes me wild;Primal.
Wo**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 9 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said: To say you don't want to change how you feel about it doesnt sit right for me.. You CANT change how you feel about it, you have to be what you are whether that fits with others or not, i thought that was a key point of this scene, being yourself. Dont change what you are fot others, then you are not being true to yourself and I think that has potential to bring sadness. It's the sadist in me, simple as that but to try and put it into words would be like trying to explain why I don't like the colour green, it just is, its part of my sexual makeup. Some women crave it as some crave direct physical ***, being with a woman who craves that level of control is hot as fuck, makes me wild;Primal. When I say I don't want to change it, I'm saying right now I wouldn't engage in spitting. If i met someone, like you, that was into it I'd sit and talk through how I feel and discuss the possibility of exploring it. I won't change for anyone other than myself. Get the sadistic primal vibe. My masochistic prey instincts are kicking in 😊
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 Just now, Bounty said: I won't change for anyone other than myself. Glad to hear it 😊
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Bounty said: Agreed. For me, I'm not sure I particularly want to change how I feel about it. Not my thing but that's ok. I am curious though @Donnykinkster what is it about it that you like? How can you carry out a degrading action with love? Or is it that you don't? What's your headspace kinda thing? A big part of it is having my partner degrade herself verbally, asking a question and receiving an answer. To hear a partner say certain words a certain way and know she means it? Fuck, wow, head blown 😁
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 Oh the Joys of being single! It may get lonesome sometimes, but each time I read one of these threads, I do count my lucky stars! ⭐🌟
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 Just now, TammyNatalia said: Oh the Joys of being single! It may get lonesome sometimes, but each time I read one of these threads, I do count my lucky stars! ⭐🌟 Would you clarify what that means please.
Wo**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 15 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said: A big part of it is having my partner degrade herself verbally, asking a question and receiving an answer. To hear a partner say certain words a certain way and know she means it? Fuck, wow, head blown 😁 These words... the self *** thing. Like "please treat me like the filthy slut I am. Let me be your cum slut fuck toy"?
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