Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 2 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said: Would you clarify what that means please. What I mean is that any relationship involves a degree of self sacrifice and taking responsibility for the other, and I was in that position for many years . You can never be sure that the other person is offering total consent, therefore. Sometimes, and we both did this, we capitulated to the wants and needs of the other. And that included in the area of sex. I could only do that with someone I loved, but clearly some things were off limits for both of us. Happily nowadays I don't have to make those sacrifices anymore, but I would if it meant having him back.
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 2 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: but I would if it meant having him back. ❤❤x
Wo**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 1 minute ago, TammyNatalia said: What I mean is that any relationship involves a degree of self sacrifice and taking responsibility for the other, and I was in that position for many years . You can never be sure that the other person is offering total consent, therefore. Sometimes, and we both did this, we capitulated to the wants and needs of the other. And that included in the area of sex. I could only do that with someone I loved, but clearly some things were off limits for both of us. Happily nowadays I don't have to make those sacrifices anymore, but I would if it meant having him back. Submission means submitting to the desires and wants of your Dominant. That's why limits, boundaries and safe words along with honest communication is vital. "You can never be sure that the person is offering total consent" how so?
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 (edited) 15 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: . You can never be sure that the other person is offering total consent There I have to disagree, I've only seen it once but it was there, she gave me everything and wanted to. It was almost in retrospect spiritual, we joined completely. Edited July 7, 2020 by Deleted Member
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 7 minutes ago, Bounty said: These words... the self *** thing. Like "please treat me like the filthy slut I am. Let me be your cum slut fuck toy"? Yes similar. "What are you?" "A slut, filth whose only purpose is pleasure" And much much more but you get the idea. However this is not an overnight thing, takes time to build up to and it's not role play. In that precise moment she means it, in that precise moment that's the truth of what she is BUT only in that moment. Role play where it's an act is not for me and gives me no pleasure whatsoever, she has to believe it, be it.
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 9 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said: There I have to disagree, I've only seen it once but it was there, she gave me everything and wanted to. It was almost upon retrospect spiritual, we joined completely. Then I can only say how lucky you were. It's certainly not the case with every couple though. But many adapt to each other, and learn to compromise!
Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 Just now, TammyNatalia said: Then I can only say how lucky you were. It's certainly not the case with every couple though. But many adapt to each other, and learn to compromise! We talked so much, always cuddled up close in bed, being a bit silly aswell. Yes I was lucky and I will never forget her. It was very very special and i *** now slighly never finding the same. She taught me more about myself than any other ever has.
Ta**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 17 minutes ago, Bounty said: "You can never be sure that the person is offering total consent" how so? Because you can never be sure what is in the head of another, no matter how convincingly they come across. But I suppose that is where the issue of trust comes in.
Wo**** Posted July 7, 2020 Posted July 7, 2020 2 minutes ago, TammyNatalia said: Because you can never be sure what is in the head of another, no matter how convincingly they come across. But I suppose that is where the issue of trust comes in. Absolutely. Honest communication. It's vital.
Deleted Member Posted July 8, 2020 Posted July 8, 2020 On 7/6/2020 at 11:55 PM, Goldenrich said: So sorry for being in the wrong place, I want to apologise for those words @Goldenrich. They were unwarranted and slightly against what I actually try to be. My apology is unreserved and sincere 😊
Fen Posted August 28, 2020 Posted August 28, 2020 On 7/7/2020 at 9:14 AM, Bounty said: what is it about it that you like? How can you carry out a degrading action with love? Or is it that you don't? What's your headspace kinda thing? I'd imagine it's easy to carry out a degrading action with love if the person wants it. Generally, I sit on the side of being spit on. Ideally into my mouth, and holding it there until I'm told I can swallow. For me, *** is about making my partner happy. Not to give them physical pleasure, but emotionally/psychologically saying "Look what I'm willing to do for you, look what I'm willing to be for you." It's a deep form of submission and giving up control. Getting degraded isn't me saying "I have no value," it's me giving my value as a gift. As far as spit in particular, it's a visceral "gross," but unlike *** it's not actually unpleasant. It's available on demand and doesn't require the spitter to expose themself (thus maintaining more control over what the spitee gets to see). Although it's not as safe as it was now that Covid is on the table (as long as you're only doing it with close partners, the odds that one of you will get it without passing it to the other are low with or without spit play), the risks of contracting something permanent or that will cause serious physical illness are lower than other bodily substances. Swallowing spit or letting it dribble onto myself effectively completes the degrading act; not only does my partner initiate the ***, but I affirm it. Getting spit on leaves me with a symbol of my *** that my partner can see and I can feel. As long as the spitter doesn't stop at one, it also gives me the opportunity to get messy (another way I like being degraded) without worrying about cleaning up any that gets on clothes/beds/floors. The negative cultural connotations of "being spit on" don't really play into it for me. Of course, I'd also prefer my partner collect it in their mouth and drool it for me, to deliver as much as possible accurately as opposed to a little bit of splatter. But everyone is unique.
Whatyouneeding Posted November 6, 2020 Posted November 6, 2020 Swapping spit is so hot, between a sloppy and gagging bj, I enjoy sucking the saliva of her face kissing it back in her mouth continuing swapping it until she spits the rest on my cock. Even spitting the cum into each other’s mouth after wards
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