MasterDarcy1979 Posted July 13 Posted July 13 I don't know much about prehistoric man or men from Sparta, Rome, etc. In modern times when men cried it was largely frowned upon. It only started becoming acceptable for men to show feelings in the 80s, but even then it was niche and extremely frowned upon. It got a wee bit more acceptable for men to cry and show their emotions in the 90s, but even then it was largely a "man up" generation. It only really became accepted for men to show emotion and cry in the 2000s. It'll never be wholly acceptable, though. Traditionally, men are supposed to be all muscle and zero emotion. Even now, recently my *** told my brother to "man up" when he was having a bit of a break down. So yeah, idiots still walk amongst us. Me? I read Jane Austen and The Bronte ***s. I'm very much in touch with my emotions. I'll display whichever emotion I like. I'll live my life whichever way I like. If people don't like it? Namaste.
Deleted Member Posted July 13 Posted July 13 If you got cry, cry away…. It’s healthy toxic to keep in emotion.
Deleted Member Posted July 31 Posted July 31 It's tough to let tears out because all my childhood I was always told to "stop with the tears, and "big boys don't cry". I felt uncomfortable even crying in private. When I got to be in a relationship where I was comfortable letting my guard fully drop, it felt fine. Now I tear up at anything.
Xa**** Posted July 31 Posted July 31 No, everyone should be able to show their emotions, it helps you deal with them, theres a reason we have the biological responses we do and supressing them can be dangerous.
po**** Posted August 11 Posted August 11 I definitely don’t think if a man cries it doesn’t make him less of a man
As**** Posted August 12 Posted August 12 There’s nothing sexier than a man who’s strong enough to cry.
ca**** Posted September 2 Posted September 2 It takes a completely in touch with reality, open minded , compassionate leveled man to just naturally let a couple tears drop when they do. Life's too short to not cry out of happiness, especially when it's successfully over triumphs and accomplishments.
Ma**** Posted September 5 Posted September 5 Every year on My Adult Son's Birthday I cry because My Ex took him out of state and lost him to said state. This was seven days after his birth 20 years ago.
ho**** Posted October 1 Posted October 1 Its not embarrassing but it's more like a manly thing thqt ia different than normal but I waa Jesus cried so I think it ok just may e bakling baby 😭😭
Sw**** Posted October 9 Posted October 9 I’m 52 and RARELY ever cried. But in the past year and a half my 18 year divorce abruptly ended and then my ***age kids turned against me and all the while financially devastated- then a year later my mom died in front of me…… I’ve found out that to cry releases a f**king lotta stress and sh*t. Tears help- but ugly crying just makes u look weak- so do that alone 😢😜
si**** Posted October 9 Posted October 9 If I'm hurt I'll cry . Don't make me less of a man . In fact I'm a pro boxer/mma fighter with a BJJ black belt. I dare you to call me soft bc of it
Th**** Posted October 10 Posted October 10 OMG I love this forum. The honesty and vulnerability is so beautiful. You all deserve to express any all emotions you have without any judgement! 💕
Deleted Member Posted October 12 Posted October 12 A lot of really tough MMA fighters cry! I do now and again!
Je**** Posted October 12 Posted October 12 I don't like to cry in public, but if I am in private situations with a trusted person or people I have no problem.
JO**** Posted October 14 Posted October 14 I've cried most every day for the last 3 months or so.. I lost my father recently and ever since I can help it I can't mention certain things without crying. He was my best friend my rock my everything.. I'm an only child I didn't know my mother n I took care of him for the last 12 years thinking everyday I had very little time.. I can't express our love for one another enough.. so yes it's perfectly fine to cry but I feel when this sh*t finally does stop I'm not ever gonna cry again it's ridiculous but I am not embarrassed nor ashamed of it at all ... I just hurt like I never hurt B4 or will hurt ever again...💔
OrchardBoy Posted October 17 Posted October 17 Yes. It absolutely shouldn't but that sh*t is well and truly programmed into me.
Hu**** Posted October 20 Posted October 20 Allowing myself to cry at times when I need to has helped me out a lot more than just ignoring the hurt.
cl**** Posted October 20 Posted October 20 It should most definitely make you embarrassed it should make you feel shame that's not a way a man behaves call it sexist or whatever the f*** you want women do not respect men that cry
So**** Posted October 21 Posted October 21 Not a man, but couldn't pass up a comment here. Men (or any humans) who don't cry, and/or repress their emotions should not be trusted and are definitely not attractive in any way.
ja**** Posted October 23 Posted October 23 Crying in private is the way tears should be endured by an individual especially man but women too. It shows emotional intelligence because you can control your emotions and release it at a chosen time. One who cries in front of others is more emotionally instable than one who doesn't however cries when alone shows a strong person who can chose a personal moment to do that. I know most feminine will disagree however To be in control of your emotions shows more intelligence emotionally than one who sways with emotion in front of everyone and anyone.
Pl**** Posted October 28 Posted October 28 I myself am the strongest, toughest, most alpha dominant guy any of the girls I've been with and Everytime I've cried unlocked a new level of love they've had for me (when it's real and you're genuinely hurt) don't go fake crying now fellas! That sh*tll backfire bad! 😂 But in all seriousness, and TO THE GUY(S) SAYING "I DONT CRY/MEN SHOULD NEVER CRY OR SHOW EMOTION' THATS WHY YOUR A** IS SINGLE ON HERE LOOKING TO FETISH F**K SOME *** GIRL WITH DADDY ISSUES BC YOU SIR- ARE THE PROBLEM AND WILL REMAIN MISERABLE 🎤 👎🏼
Pl**** Posted October 28 Posted October 28 I think personally for me it's a matter of context and being comfortable with someone. Today, I saw my favourite film (Bride of Frankenstine) with my long term partner (6+ years ddlg), there are two scenes where I balled my eyes out, I felt safe and supported. The last time I saw it in the cinema was over 15 years ago and with my dad so that was kinda embarrassing. Then again, I'm autistic/adhd, I mask a lot/more than I should, can get overwhelmed sometimes and I know if I cried with someone I wasn't comfortable with or didn't know then that would feel terrible although maybe not exactly embarrassed...more like they have ***led back the curtains, if any embarrassment then it's second hand
Deleted Member Posted October 29 Posted October 29 I'm not embarrassed to cry. I just rather do it privately, so others see the more masculine side of me. I'll just go for a drive and sob like a MFr, so I can be strong as a MFr when I'm in the presence of others.
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