Looking for a Daddy

[Kitkat0221]

I am looking  for a daddy in my area. But there are none. How should I bring this up to potential partners  with out scaring them off.

 

[Deleted Member]

I think DD/LG won't really scare people, as it's a softer side of BDSM.

How to bring it up? I'd say, when having an intimate moment, try to act a bit childish around them, and see if they like it and will play along.

[Si****]

Randomly say: "Thank you Daddy!" And see how they react. If they start looking you up and down with a glint in their eye you're good to go! 😉

[Si****]

In fact... I've just decided to give this to my little girl as homework. "How to see if your Dom's a Daddy?"

[Deleted Member]

Oh good @SirPhileasFlogg.....homework........

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, Myrtz said:

Oh good @SirPhileasFlogg.....homework........

read your post. A Dom with experience can be any type. Its all depends of the kind of sub is taking in. I wasn't a Daddy till a young sub was behaving like a baby girl. Some moment I was the Daddy other time I was the Sir. 

But its true thats some men can only be Daddy type....

[Re****]

If they are already in this lifestyle then talk to them openly? Aren't we all adults after all. If on the other hand you are struggling to meet someone already in the lifestyle then going along to some of the local social gatherings such as munches and fet markets should assist in general. 

[Mo****]

KitKat it is reasonably simple, if and when you are about to bed someone, just mention that your a kinky type of girl and that you like to play in the bedroom as well as other places and then leave it to sink in and for them to ponder. If they are that way inclined they will want to discuss this with you. If they are just there for the fucks then they will let the subject sink into oblivion and not raise it for discussion. You then have the choice of keeping them around for the sex or cutting them loose to look for the next candidate. Not everyone who is kinky lets the cat out of the bag early on in a potential relationship.

[Mz****]

11 hours ago, MossyBoy said:

Not everyone who is kinky lets the cat out of the bag early on in a potential relationship.

And that's why there's sooooo many, "my wife/husband/bf/gf/partner doesn't understand me, I'm miserable in my relationship should I cheat?" type posts..

I'd Always suggest being honest with any potential partner from the get go, it may take longer to find someone, but you have more chance of a long term success, rather than a string of frustrating failures..or settling for less than you need or deserve.

I agree with @SidoraxVonCreep , and I also think it's a good idea to 'practice' replies to a potential partners questions, if that person isn't familiar with the dynamic your responses could well make a huge difference to their perception..I'd recommend a look in your favourite search engine as to what those might be if you're unsure, there's a lot of information out there. (Unfortunately we're not allowed to post links..but they're easily accessible from Google).

Meeting someone is harder, I'm not very familiar with the scene in the USA, or your area at all, any munches, or kink friendly socials you can attend? I'd suggest attending those as a first stop, you may not find a partner, most are after all just social events, but you would have people to talk too who aren't going to judge you, and networking is valuable, meeting friends of friends can often lead to relationships..you could try posting a personal ad too, here and on any other sites you may be signed up to..sorry I can't be more helpful..good luck 🤞

 

[Mo****]

I totally agree with the open and honest communication occurring, but at what point does it start? For me and I would think most others, it would be at a point where you have established trust with the other people and where you feel that there is a respect factor, because this where they would be prepared to listen and be non-judgemental,and hopefully, keep your "secret " to themselves. The thing is that we have all been let down at times by people we trusted so there's no guarantee. Munches and the like are great places to start, because everyone knows when they walk into the place that the others have similar interests.