SELF-TAUGHT OR INTRODUCED?

[Ba****]

I self-taught myself about bdsm to understand more of my kinks and fetish

[Gr****]

12 minutes ago, Sweetcherryprincess said:

Guess there were signs when I was little - I would imagine being tied up and rescued and stuff like that. As an adult, was gradually introduced to it thru movies and things, and the city I lived in had a lot of kinky events and people would talk about it. Then met someone on Tinder who introduced me all the things :)

My parents love to tell stories about finding me as a small child tying my Barbies up with shoe laces and tape 🙃 guess I did a bit more than fantasize

[Vi****]

I always had interest from a young age. I learned through exploration and always chose ppl that would help along the way. I’m still learning and exploring. Where I am now, is a better understanding of what I need and crave.

[Ki****]

I first learned about non-vanilla sex when I was a ***ager or tween. My parents had a large library of porn vhs tapes hidden in their closet inside a filing cabinet. From those tapes I first witnessed bondage, threesomes, orgies, and various other kinky acts. The only thing I am truly thankful for is the fact that none of the tapes were homemade. That may have scared me for life. Lol

[Deleted Member]

Girl introduced me formally, but I educated myself. I’ve always had an interest, but no one that could open me up to it before then. Now, I’m ready to fully enjoy it.

[Undersated]

My first signs were complementary to those @Sweetcherryprincess described - I would play games with willing friends about tying people up, or about rescuing people who were tied up, or about hypnotizing people and controlling them.

When I first started tying partners up, it was based on things I'd read about, or seen in porn. I had no training. I was terrible at it, didn't know how to do it safely. I was a menace.

I first learned the proper way through online tutorials and, seriously, practicing on pillows or ball-joined dolls. Soon after I found books, video classes, and in-person classes.

Self-taught, then actually taught, now sometimes teach.

Edited January 17 by LARopeTop
missing word - grammar nerd

[Angel110011]

Myself

[Mi****]

Self taught... Instinct??

[Hi****]

I had the beautiful grace, luck and serendipity to be introduced, guided and taught by a high esteemed friend.
Thank you always Goddess Alexius.

[Ir****]

I educated myself and it still didn’t prepare me

[Sh****]

I discovered the scene on my own. Kind of wish I had a partner or mentor to lean on tbh.

[eR****]

I read a lot, googled and was fortunate enough to meet a sensual dom that had really helped me embrace the LS among other things.

[lo****]

1 hour ago, Ironpeacock said:

I educated myself and it still didn’t prepare me

Same here. Oh my gosh, was totally not prepared.

[yo****]

13 hours ago, arcticdoll said:

Self. I think I had interest from a young age; playing cops & robbers/cowboys & Indians etc I always wanted to be caught and tied up.


But it wasn't until my 1st time when my bf whose 1st time it was too, that I knew for sure. I don't know what it was called then, or that there was so much more. Just that I _needed_ *** and submission.


I wonder if he ever thinks of me.

I pretty sure everyone thinks of there first I will never forget my first he really turned me 😊 with the blindfold and gag

[mo****]

A little of both. Grew up making rope survival skills. And then a rope bunny who absolutely adored me learning safely tying on her.

[Ba****]

Self. I remember first getting into rigging by learning all I could online and practicing with them. Was definitely a fun time, but learned since then I'd rather be on the other side of the rope ;3

[Ki****]

I educated myself alone but have had no practice yet.

[mi****]

Yes I had someone helping me

[mo****]

I've educated myself and had a rope bunny. So everything up to full suspension. We took a rope course starting to work up to full suspension, but unfortunately our time got short. I think I could do self taught full suspension but I would rather have a second experienced pair of eyes on it

[Li****]

Self taught, an online Dom then jumped in both feet first! Never looked back!

[mi****]

Anybody here to be my slave dog

[PolyGothRoss]

Depends on the fetish. Domination and CNC were my introduction to the kink/fetish scene and my own passions, and was kind of self taught in ***agers experimenting kind of way and later refined as confidence and experience grew. *** play, I was taught: you want someone who knows what they’re doing before you start playing with razors and scalpels! For Shibari and Kinbaku, self taught after seeing an amazing demonstration, followed by mentoring for some of the more advanced techniques and suspension. Master/slave was a combination, learning what I wanted as a Master and being taught what my Slave(s) wanted, and then building the combined picture (which, I learnt, is actually the same with any D/s relationship: they’re all unique).

[dook]

I didin't know what urges I really had until I had done anal with a woman a number of times. Then she wanted to peg me. After that, I was forever interested in trying everything at least once.

[Pi****]

I had been celibate for 18 years after three abusive marriages. I went back to school and studied art. While working on a photography project about trauma I had set up several profiles on dating sites stating that I was looking for models. I was approached by “Georgie” asking me to be his mommy domme. Originally I was appalled because of my own background with incest and ***. But I had committed myself to talk to everyone in my research. I would now in hindsight call Georgie a power bottom. He taught me to be the perfect mommy domme for him. I became hooked on the dynamic. Georgie turned out to be a sad flake who only wanted fake online interactions. He even told me that no one would ever want the dynamic in real life. Well he was very wrong. I have my very own boy now. We are hoping to find a third one day.

[Jo****]

I was definitely self taught to start. At a time when even vanilla sex was basically taboo, I ran across an ad in the back of a "gentleman's" magazine for Japanese rope bondage porn. I couldn't get those images out of my head. This was before the internet, so porn of that nature was difficult to find. I slowly built up a knowledge base from VHS videos and magazines. It would be a while before I met someone who would let me try that knowledge out on them, but when I did we learned together what was practical and what was fantasy. Shortly afterward, we discovered the lifestyle community and I began learning in earnest. That was over 20 years ago and there is still so much to learn, but now I'm able to teach others too.