Differences

[pixykity40]

I am super confused and need some advice. My Daddy and I hit and miss. What do I mean well example he had asked if I wanted to scene and I said not really. we hv what we call scene which is planned out play involving a fetish. Play is  hanky panky fun. If I am wanting basically some vanilla intercourse I ask if we may play. If I am wanting spankies or something we have a fetish for I ask if we may scene and vice versa. Ok. if I then ask if we may play he brings back I asked if you wanted to and you said No. where are we going wrong? It is happening so often.

[FtwDan]

I'd say stop over complicating it with needless jargon. If you want just sex ask for that, if you want to be spanked ask for that, etc. Sounds to me like there's confusion going on about what means what.

[pixykity40]

I would like to state everything is done the way he stated it to be done and have come to realise when rules start to transfer to him he starts to split hairs which is where the rules came in that If I want a scene or sex or what ever the wording is in place because of the scenario. Well I asked and you said no and I hve to pull teeth so to speak to figure out what he means half the time.

[Vandalslut]

Sounds like Daddy's moving the goal posts and changing the rules whenever he wants.  You're confused - I'm double confused!  A bit of fun with codes words is all right but not when the rues are changed and one player knows what the rules are. FtwDan has the right idea - clarity is needed.  Has this always the way it's been, or has this changing the rules only recently started happening?  It really sounds like a kind of mind-fuck to make you stressed and confused - excuse the language.