Long Term Relationships

[Jm****]

19 hours ago, creampieqween said:

My friend recommended this app to me and she met her boyfriend on here. They’ve been together for five years

This apps been around 5 years?

[Ar****]

30 minutes ago, Jmanders101 said:

This apps been around 5 years?

The app hasn't, but the Fetish.com site has.

[si****]

I met my current partner in the community, but I only just started on the app and haven't met anyone through it yet

[Deleted Member]

From here no, but I've met ppl through the kink community, were not the most social but we definitely found ppl who are fun and like minded and its always been nice to check it over time in a friendly fashion and occasionally link up haha. I met my wife though bumble but we immediately got into the kink community together

[Ma****]

Very rarely. I know of one other couple that has had a very long-term relationship.

[Ma****]

Twenty years plus...

[Ma****]

Total of two relationships, twenty years plus... Sorry not used to the GUI..

[Be****]

I hope to find my forever someone too! I don't mind the idea of semi-regular arrangements as well but all In all I am still searching 😅

[da****]

Going on 2 years now met a guy became roommates had to move due to housing issue still stayed friends became besties now dating for 4 months as of the 28th and planning to move in together again in early-mid 2026, i feel he is my forever person

[BadJokesNRopes]

On 3/15/2024 at 6:13 PM, ShyJay33 said:

I think the level of trust and communication required to make a BDSM dynamic work, certainly length itself to long-term relationships. You can’t have a healthy relationship without trust and open communication after all, whether or not you’ll find that on a forum who can say?  

I love this point and it's also the reason i only do LTR for relationships built around bdsm. The trust needed isnt a day 1 thing. It's built over time and it also strengthens  the relationship along the way. Plus I don't want someone to give me all their trust day 1 either. I want to earn it from you.

All that said no op havent found anything but I'm new the the site and not in a rush either. 

[Mi****]

My boyfriend and I have been dating since September 2023. LTR and long distance. We met on Fet. It started slowly at the beginning of September with talking about how we would be able to play and see each other and before the end of September we were dating after our first meet. You have to be real with expectations and limits and such.

[Leisa]

I had a Dom on here for months until the distance became an issue for me. He ended up with one of my friends, after they both talked to me, and now happily reside together in England. She could handle the distance. They’ve been together over 2 years. It can and does happen.

[Ma****]

I was in a 9-year relationship with my sub, which I found on another BDSM site... it ended June '23 . The ltr exists and is truly the most beautiful friendship and loving bond we all can AND should have

[my****]

Distance is key. It’s hard enough to find that perfect fit before you add BDSM in. Now you’re looking in a lot more smaller haystacks for one needle. Long distance is hard, so focus on on those closest to you, some compromise may be in order. In the past I’ve had some luck using non kinky sites to find submissives by simply putting it in my bio. It makes a decent conversation starter. Best of luck in your search, just know where your limit of compromise is, and don’t allow yourself to go beyond that.

[Deleted Member]

This is my conundrum: I honestly feel that I need the safety and security of a proper relationship to truly allow myself to be submissive and enjoy all the filthy kinky things I like. I can meet men on the regular apps for dating but they may not be into kink so it’s not for me. There are men who are compatible in a kink way but don’t want a LTR or aren’t suited to me. So it’s difficult to meet someone who ticks all the boxes… Giving this app a go to see if that elusive Dom who can also be a regular boyfriend who is looking for a sub who is also a regular girlfriend is out there.

[Mi****]

My Pup and I found eachother and mesh very well. We will be moving in together soon. Just have to be up front about expectations but also know when to compromise.

[Gr****]

No luck for me, but it takes patience. Not used or don't even know my BDSM side so I'll just wait a bit longer.

[Ev****]

I just got on this site and nothing on my end yet but if something happens I will definitely keep you posted

[TP****]

My slave and I have been together for eight years. We met and started dating eight years ago, I collared her six years ago, and we got married four years ago. She was not my first LTR in the community, though she is the first girl I’ve collared. My exes from the community include two four year relationships and a number of shorter situationships. It’s like anything else, you get out of it what you put into it. My slave is in the promiscuous side which works out well for us because I enjoy sharing my property with others. Making, or having, a relationship work is no different if you’re vanilla, or not. You find what works, you discard what doesn’t. Like in vanilla relationships sometimes what doesn’t work is your partner, so you discard them and move on. To be clear, all of my relationships were face to face living in the same area, no long distance through email and texting nonsense.

[as****]

I don't think apps work for delivering you a match. At most you can observe people on forums or forge a bond through talking one on one. Otherwise you can use it to set up face to face dates. Screens can only show us pixels not real compatibility, so if you're not looking locally.... good luck.

[Mi****]

I wish I could find a tall hairy chested top ltr I'll keep.loolong but seems I can find some. Women easy but I want a man

[La****]

I believe its possible. Just need way more patience. I almost had a successful ltr with a sub. Sadly its ended. But at least its a sign there’s hope. (:

[St****]

I'll be honest. Apps are tough ..really really tough. And even now with AI, 99% of what you get are robo people.

I found my wife through spankolife..used to be a website like 13 yrs ago. Just out of complete out of nowhere bravery to join the site. We talked on the site for a little, then exchanged emails and Skype (yep .. that old) . Funny thing was, we were states apart at the time. We were in the point of our lives where we were trying to answer questions about ourselves because we were ready for something bigger. Personally, I would never have thought that a kink site would be a legitimate dating site ...and I wasn't totally wrong. Most of the conversations I had were sex driven and just horny people being horny (totally fine btw). But every now and then, a real person comes into the conversation and you sense their vulnerability. It may not be immediate, but you just have to put enough feelers out there.

It was a slow process for us. We were long distance so if course we spoke a lot via chat and phone, but would only see each other once or maybe twice a month. When we did, if course we played to our kinks, but we took more time actually investing in the other parts of the relationship. Truth is, kink isn't gonna be 100% of your life. Probably closer to 10% if I'm honest. But what I found is that being *** enough to talk to a partner about kinks makes for being *** enough to talk about other things that are important to you. That makes for great communication skills...and communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship.

Fast forward, we've now been married 11 years. Kids, etc. Still in the kink scene, still role playing...and still finding others to play with.

I hope that helps. Keep trying, it's not going to happen overnight.

[St****]

Not sure why "brave" was censored lol

[Ro****]

24 minutes ago, StrictlySpanker said:

Not sure why "brave" was censored lol

5 letter b word? Idk