Romance?!

[Deleted Member]

I LOOVVVVE a doting, affectionate owner. I absolutely melt when they're soft with me

[T-****]

You should vet your Dom. Work out all of the boundaries, desires, what is acceptable and what is not. If you require love and affect, that is something you discuss upfront. Don’t just jump in. You wouldn’t do that in a vanilla relationship. You have to develop trust and open, honest communication. If your needs are not getting met, communicate them to him. If he refuses your request, perhaps he is not the correct Dom for you.

[Deleted Member]

Your needs are not being fully met and he is not being a good Dom. My Dom is literally all over me, tells me he misses me, he loves me, when he wants kisses and cuddles etc and he has never not once said anything about me financially helping him. I *** you are being taken for a mug by this so fake called Dom

[kt****]

Yeah you should talk about this. Personally, I'd want a dom to treat me like object but even then a sub wants to FEEL useful.

[Vi****]

Definitely

[Da****]

If anything he should be more tentative and affectionate

[hy****]

Your Owner should care for you

[Deleted Member]

Huge red flag that, not only is the relationship new but you are new to dynamic relationships in general, he's bringing up you helping him financially...even if it's just a passive hinting. D/s is a power exchange and can be looked at as transactional. Even as a submissive, if you're not getting what you want out of the transaction and it's all based around him and his requests without fulfilling your needs and desires in return, and you don't already know undoubtedly that you want to go so extreme as being slave-level owned (which I would doubt and caution against for a newcomer to dynamic relationships), then he's probably not the Dom for you. And honestly probably not a healthy Dom in general, not to pass judgment. I hate seeing people manipulated and taken advantage of while trying to be open-minded enough to explore kinks.

[Deleted Member]

That doesn’t sounds right, you can talk to him and negotiate a better dynamic. Although I’m skeptical of this guy. Sounds like a fake dom to me

[PN****]

You need to leave. Now.

This is a classic faux Dom move.

Unless you are in a FinDom dynamic or a Praise Kink disguised as a dynamic, which in turn is abusive to subs and the community as a whole.

Remember, at the end of the day, W/we are all people before W/we are in our roles. No one deserves to be disrespected, and especially someone so new to the community.

You need to leave. Now. Before any additional damage is done. This is manipulation tactic, and he is not your Dom. He is your domineering partner. Period.

[me****]

14 hours ago, PNWDDlg said:

You need to leave. Now.

This is a classic faux Dom move.

Unless you are in a FinDom dynamic or a Praise Kink disguised as a dynamic, which in turn is abusive to subs and the community as a whole.

Remember, at the end of the day, W/we are all people before W/we are in our roles. No one deserves to be disrespected, and especially someone so new to the community.

You need to leave. Now. Before any additional damage is done. This is manipulation tactic, and he is not your Dom. He is your domineering partner. Period.

He is out of my life. He used me and he wasn’t worth it.

[hy****]

1 hour ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

He is out of my life. He used me and he wasn’t worth it.

Good girl, he didn't deserve you

[me****]

1 hour ago, hypnogod said:

Good girl, he didn't deserve you

Thank you! I won’t tolerate being treated the way he treated me.

[zi****]

8 godzin temu, mermaidkat1990 said:

He is out of my life. He used me and he wasn’t worth it.

I think it was a very good and mature decision. This whole world only makes sense when it brings us fun/joy.

[re****]

I love romance ❤️🤗

[Deleted Member]

Scary to think of all the horrible people out there 😢

[va****]

To many to mention CAT. Beware and try not to dwell on it. Unless you're living in the Ally

[Kr****]

Affection is a big part of this lifestyle. I have found that aftercare, which is extremely vital to the success of any D/s relationship, suffers without any semblance of affection.

[Deleted Member]

16 hours ago, KraziQD1 said:

Affection is a big part of this lifestyle. I have found that aftercare, which is extremely vital to the success of any D/s relationship, suffers without any semblance of affection.

Great point and that’s a balancing act I strive to maintain when I have a sub

[Deleted Member]

Yesterday at 02:20 AM, AllyCat6369 said:

Scary to think of all the horrible people out there 😢

More awakening than scary

[Pe****]

NO! You have the POWER. He is manipulating you. Before you accept him as a Dom you need to be FIRST in a trusting relationship to have boundaries. This is wrong!

[Do****]

Kinky relationships take on many forms. Ask yourself, "Does this behavior and relationship *fulfill* me?" Given what you write, it seems clear that the answer is no. You do *not* need to apologize because being treated like crap doesn't turn you on. Just say "This is not my kink." He can adapt (that seems unlikely) or you can find a nurturing Dom - most Doms are.