Amazing

[qu****]

Isn't it amazing how many woman ( usually American) contact out of blue saying they're interested, disappear when you say you're not currently working due to an ongoing undiagnosed health problem, and that you don't live alone for whatever reason, 😆😆, I mean they must be genuine......😂🤣

[Chris240197]

I agree

[Sable442]

I second that and/or if the find out you have a past that includes a criminal recrd

[qu****]

Well that's another one showing interest then being under moderation, didn't even have chance to view her 😆😆, sometimes think it's safer for others if they don't view me 😂

[ey****]

there has been the odd wave of bot.  It's been a little while since a blatant bot messaged me but there's been 3-4 recently.  I imagine that the release of the app has had a 3 pronged response

- increase of good people (good)

- increase of "Do me" types (frustrating, but they disappear quickly)

- increase/appeal of bots and scammers

I am impressed, mind, at how quickly this site often deals with bots and scammers.   

[Wo****]

Agreed.

I just want to say how good the mods are here. I've messaged them a couple of times now and they've responded quickly both times. I've noticed that the bots don't tend to stick around very long either.

[Deleted Member]

Well I’ve had this too. Twice within the last few days, actually. It’s sometimes subtle, but it’s usually quite easy to spot fake profiles, as they often have the wrong idiom to their s***ch, even if the spelling and punctuation is correct. Missing out definite and indefinite articles such as “the” and “a” in their sentences, slightly inappropriate responses and the fact that they immediately want to take you to bed, serve and worship you, despite not knowing you at all! Plus the fact that they are 6439 km away from you! how is that ever going to work, then? Yes, some of us have long distance relationships but that’s ridiculous! I mean, what chance is there of ever meeting somebody like that? It’s going to cost you a fortune in airfares and all the transport costs. It’s probably not really very realistic. so unless they are actually on the doorstep of you, I’d say they’re probably not real. 

[qu****]

The most obvious give away to me is an immediate desire to chat off site or even to totally leave site, but I'm sure bots will evolve...

[qu****]

But then again from my experience I don't even know why I trust women, a bad habit I guess...

[Wo****]

Hey! We're not all bad!

 

[qu****]

I'm only talking from my experiences to date, 

[Wo****]

You can't control how others treat you but you can control how you react.

Trust is something you have to prove. I can say trust me but ultimately it's your choice. It's down to me to show you that i can be trusted, i can't "make" you trust me, you have to decide to, or not.

Personally, i give my trust way too easily and i've been hurt, really hurt, life changingly big hurt but know what? I hold my head up. You *** my trust, your problem.

Too trusting? Probably.

By trusting you open up to the risk of being ***, of getting hurt but i would rather do that than close my heart.

[ey****]

any prompt to go off-site is nearly always a flag : unless it's something where you can see there's an established profile - so for example I'm on twitter, fetlife, etc and you could see there that it's a full profile - it'd just seem questionable why I'd take you off here to go there.

among anything else it starts to give away your personal details 

[ey****]

Regarding trust I think if I go into my messages of people who made a first contact to me (which is actually most people.  for assorted reasons only a handful of people I made a first contact to)

- if it's someone who is active on the forum I know it's a take from that

- if it's someone who isn't active on the forum but references something I've said on here, then it's a take from that

- if it happened to be someone local "hey, you're local and into cool stuff" I'd know why they were contacting

but, for the best part... you can tell if it's just a chancer if it's someone half the world away, newly created profile with no clear reason why they would contact... which is a similar equivelant to the guys who don't read profiles but just want their dicks wet.  Real person, just a timewaster.

Mind, incidentally - there are a bunch of cool people it'd be cool to meet up with even though they're not exactly local - with or without play/kink/etc.   

[qu****]

Trouble is the more fakes you deal with the more cynical you can become, and the cynical you become the less likely you are to trust

[qu****]

And the more cynical that should read

[ey****]

a little cynicism can be OK.  But, I think a question is what can you do to increase the reaction from those you wish to attract?  That is something on you.

[Wo****]

True...

But you control how you react.

Why become like the very people that hurt you?

[qu****]

This is true, some of what I've said was meant flippantly, but I guess on reading it it can appear to be a more serious remark, I apologise if I've given that impression

[Wo****]

Interesting and valid points though, all the same.

[qu****]

Of course the majority here are real, flesh and ***, full if deviant desire, so it pays to remember this

[ey****]

the scammers, the bots, the impatient... they'll pass through

then there's plenty that stick around - and it's a long game.  Take it as a marathon, not a sprint. 

[qu****]

Or a world wide hike 😂😂

[Wo****]

Least you'll be fit 😊

[qu****]

Even if a bit lol sided 😂🤣