Kitten8669 Posted December 19, 2019 Posted December 19, 2019 would like to incorporate Kink into our marriage how would you do so ..for beginners😘
Vandalslut Posted December 19, 2019 Posted December 19, 2019 As long as both of you are agreeable to a kink lifestyle/marriage...start with your types. Dominant/submissive? Master/slave? Daddy Dom/little girl? Mummy Domme/little boy? If you're not sure, go to the 'Community' section in this very excellent site and in there, you'll find a list of BDSM archetypes. Having established that, do you want a 24/7 kink relationship or a bedroom role-play? Then...the Dom/me and the submissive need to discuss their hard and soft limits; hard limits being what you will NOT do and soft limits being what you are not sure if you want to do but are willing to try at some point in the future. These limits are important, need to be respected and can always be changed as your relationship and exploration progress.  There's an excellent magazine full of helpful articles in the site to read, and plenty of very excellent and experienced people. Try this much first and see how you go, and if you have any other questions, put them up here. Progress at a rate which is comfortable and do-able for you both. Good luck! Â
***_Mistress Posted December 19, 2019 Posted December 19, 2019 I own a leather and toy designer company. I get that question a lot. Start with something your partner would be comfortable with. If you have held down his or her arms during sex, maybe a really nice set of dainty cuffs for the wrists....start soft and comfortable, don' t tightly strap them to the bed, just wear them while you have sex. The absolute best advice I can give though, communication. You are here asking for advice, and I am sure some of it is good, some really bad, but you should be talking to your partner. Best of Luck!! Let me know how it goes...
ey**** Posted December 19, 2019 Posted December 19, 2019 I think Vandalslut has covered a lot of the main points. But yep, for me - is this kink going to be a lifestyle overhaul, or just the occasional bit fun? Both are perfectly valid - but I think subsequent advice can go from there. Otherwise, what are you BOTH into - if you want to incorporate it, what ideas have already caught your attention? Start by researching those.
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