Modes.

[Deleted Member]

I've been thinking about modes a lot. Loving mode, hurting mode, respect mode, pet mode etc. Are these all really the same person and their ratios make the person, or do we truly just belong to only one and fake the others?

[Da****]

What do you mean by “modes”
Sounds fascinating!

[Deleted Member]

This is a good question

[ge****]

If you think of it more as "mood" than "mode" then yes it's completely possible for one person to have different "modes" and these combined make up the person, rather than them being governed by just one - now for sure there are some people whose ratios may skew to just one "mode" but it's impossible to be in that mode 100% of the time.

[ri****]

I definitely feel like I understand what you mean by mode. I feel like I make a switch between my normal self and my Dom self before going into a scene. For me, I know a lot of my kink is routed in trauma and I’ve done lots of therapy around that, so whilst I consider myself to be quite resolved as a person, I can still tap into that darker side of me where when I choose to. I wouldn’t say that means that it’s fake, it’s just not who I choose to be the rest of the time. That being said, one of my brats definitely knows how to bring out my Dom persona when we aren’t scening and regularly does, but it’s still a choice from me to enter that space rather than asking for them to stop bratting in that moment.

Obviously, this is just my perspective from personal experience and I’d be interested to hear others perspectives too

[Ki****]

This is a beautiful question, personally I do feel like people are multifaceted like a diamond and each of these faces represents a side of us which eventually comes out to play.
You not the sum of your modes, and you not faking it, you let a side of yourself go all out and play.
Let's consider as well is that a mode your vanilla 9-5 self that goes to work and pretends to be nice to human on a daily basis? 😊
By the way I'm just rubbing my 2p, the answer is 42.