Si**** Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 Too many people in a rush and spear to be happy to skip over the important part of forming the relationship. I think if a Dom isn’t able to control himself, how on earth can they ask a sub to give their trust. Trust is earned not just given, just as a Dom earns the right to be called Master. So the Dom asked for pictures, what do you get out of that? What’s he putting on the table (apart from his dick lol). No, he has to earn that request. How can he give you what you want/need if he doesn’t know what it is? Call me old fashioned but being a gentleman takes work that many men can’t or won’t put in the effort. I had to once ask my sub to stop and let me open the door for her (she has her own mind) but it give me pleasure to be a gentleman. It lets me show her that I care and respect her (even though we both know she can do things herself and don’t need a man)
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 On 1/10/2020 at 8:54 AM, Hotplay said: Too many people in a rush and spear to be happy to skip over the important part of forming the relationship. I think if a Dom isn’t able to control himself, how on earth can they ask a sub to give their trust. Trust is earned not just given, just as a Dom earns the right to be called Master. So the Dom asked for pictures, what do you get out of that? What’s he putting on the table (apart from his dick lol). No, he has to earn that request. How can he give you what you want/need if he doesn’t know what it is? Call me old fashioned but being a gentleman takes work that many men can’t or won’t put in the effort. I had to once ask my sub to stop and let me open the door for her (she has her own mind) but it give me pleasure to be a gentleman. It lets me show her that I care and respect her (even though we both know she can do things herself and don’t need a man) Gush. All the love for this response. Thank you xx
Si**** Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 I think we can all agree" if it feels wrong, it probable is" i say probable but never ignore the bells in your head unless its just tinnitus. lol xx
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 1 hour ago, Hotplay said: I think we can all agree" if it feels wrong, it probable is" i say probable but never ignore the bells in your head unless its just tinnitus. lol xx I have tinnitus. And I clearly don't have those warning bells! What I want most is really bad for me. I can switch off my desires and be rational, but then life is boring and rather short of orgasms. I am hopeless.
Carnelian2 Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 8 minutes ago, white_rose said: I have tinnitus. And I clearly don't have those warning bells! What I want most is really bad for me. I can switch off my desires and be rational, but then life is boring and rather short of orgasms. I am hopeless. Made me smile. There is a balance; sometimes we do things against our better judgement and come out on allright, sometimes not. I have done a lot of stupid things and I have had a lot of great experiences
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 1 hour ago, Carnelian2 said: Made me smile. There is a balance; sometimes we do things against our better judgement and come out on allright, sometimes not. I have done a lot of stupid things and I have had a lot of great experiences Hello beautiful! Yes. I just don't bother doing regrets. Even the ***ful experiences are well worth it. Wouldn't life be boring without them?
Deleted Member Posted January 17, 2020 Author Posted January 17, 2020 I’ve had amazing experiences and I’ve had crap ones. They all go to make me the happy person I am. No regrets....
Deleted Member Posted March 24, 2020 Author Posted March 24, 2020 If the guy just comes out the blue with (hey slut so you want to be a sub send me a picture of etc....) Probably red flag. However if you makes a post talking dirty saying how nasty you are blah blah blah then something like that should be expected. But if your looking for some one who is experienced in the BDSM community there typically going to ask things like have you ever attempted anything what was it.... What are your limits... Are you wanting to be pushed to do these things you said you normaly would not do.2 years experience and my favorite part is completely changing people's minds like white girls saying I'll never fuck a Nigger* and have them watch it on porn during my session with them for awhile and after a week or so bring one of my well hung black friends to the session have her tied up and then make her beg me to have him breed her. Even online domination just text or chatting on Skype you can plant ideas in someones head if there trully submissive I had a young lady I met on photo grid got her to open up her feelings she felt bad about fucking her dildo cuz she was married 3 days later i sent a guy from fet life in Utah where she was I'm in Florida they talked and she fucked him sent me pics and sexual aroused by it. There are many Dom's many subs to each his own I like breath play and basic ropes and bare hand and mind games some like water boarding and putting you in a cage.... I mean I will depending lol but it don't tickle my fancy. In the end being a Dom 4 me is having a sub I can mold to do what I Want. Fuck the sub.
Si**** Posted March 24, 2020 Posted March 24, 2020 Knotty, just saying out of the blue "hey slut so you want to be a sub send me a picture of etc..." might be a hard limit to them. Not the best way to open up a conversation. Be clear as to what you are looking for in your profile and then politely invite them to visit it. Then they can decide if its something they are looking for. They might only have a problem being called Slut but happy with everything else. Or they don't want to be a sub but a slave. Your approach has to be a rethink.
Deleted Member Posted March 24, 2020 Author Posted March 24, 2020 Yah you clearly did not read. I said that was a red flag starting the convo with that lol. Then said however depending if the lady has already made it clear she likes degrading by the way she speaks or types then go for it that's her thing. If a woman makes a post (hey im looking for someone to use me like a cum rag etc... And you tell her I would love to get to know you how bout some coffee I'll get yah a Uber and a umbrella.... Not what she wants lol anyways man go re read it because you complety misunderstood.
littlesubsusan Posted April 8, 2020 Posted April 8, 2020 I think of it as two worlds ( not sure if thats the appropriate way to think about it) but the hands on world and the hands off world as well as the two degrees within the ones just wanting play or a partner an the ones searching for a relationship. Again just the way I process not judging or saying one is right and one is wrong. I am more "old fashioned" in my thinking and values. I want a relationship and a commitment . I am past the point of anyone will do or playing the game of lets just see if it fits. There seems to be a lot of confusion about territory and who does what and where. I dont play with someone I dont trust. Be it as a friend ( just a friendship) or a partner. I dont like mind games. I try to express myself well enough that I dont waste others time. But some just lie then throw a temper tantrum when the truth comes out. That includes other subs and littles. Truth and investment seems to be missing in some people. Approach kindly and see what happens be open and honest. Also state what you are looking for and honor what the other says. IT shouldn't be that hard.
qwertytothemax Posted April 8, 2020 Posted April 8, 2020 As a male sub, I can somewhat understand the situation you are describing. My stance is that until a potential Domme and I meet in person, any chats we have will be focused on learning more about one another. I refuse to send any nude pictures or masturbation videos until I meet the person that would be receiving that media and I need to know I can trust them with that exclusive access to me.
Recommended Posts