Massage has many purposes and uses from medical to relaxation. It's a technique that has been used throughout the ages to make people feel better. Tantric massage is incredibly sensual and is used to make the whole body feel good. Tantric massage includes yoni (vulva) and Lingam (penis) massage for sexual pleasure but without a focus on orgasms.
There is a connection in tantra between the giver and the receiver, which is very intimate. It is a sexual practice that can be given with a great level of expertise but is something you can do without any previous experience at all. Want to spoil a partner or feel you need some pampering? Tantric massage could be just the thing you need.
Warm and intimate, cuddles really do make everything better. They're also great before or after sex or even during. They show how much you want to be with the other person and enjoy being so close to them. Many face to face sex positions incorporate cuddling as it offers lots of skin on skin touching, bringing a greater intimacy to love making. Cuddles aren't just all about soppy romance either. They are a wonderful way to get close to your partner, show intimacy and cuddles that turn into sex are definitely the best ones ever!
Hair pulling is one of those actions that can be highly irritating. Anyone who accidentally traps a strand of hair in a bobble and pulls will know how unpleasant it can be. However, during the heat of the moment it can be extremely sexy. An act that can show both dominance and passion, hair pulling can work both ways, Dominant and submissives can both enjoy it as part of primal, sexual play after all it’s called rough and tumble for a reason, right? Tugging and pulling on hair is all fun and games but make sure it’s all completely consensual.
Some think multiple orgasms are a myth - but you can take it from us that they most certainly are not! You'll probably need to work on varying intensity and overcoming sensitivity to make them happen, but most AFAB (assigned female at birth) people can get there with a little practice. Start by focusing on what works best for you already, and see how you feel about picking straight back up after you've climaxed. You might like to experiment with edging as part of the process; bringing yourself (or asking a partner to bring you) right to the edge of your tolerance and then backing off before you actually orgasm can help you learn how to have multiples, and even if it doesn't it's likely to be a great deal of fun.
Some vagina owners can ejaculate when they come. Just like male ejaculation it can vary in amount, power and consistency but unlike male ejaculate, the liquid originates from the skene’s glands that surround the urethra and of course, it doesn’t contain sperm.
Many people don’t believe female ejaculation is a thing, but in studies between 10-54% of women say they have experienced it. It’s seen by some as controversial sexual act and has been banned from porn by the BBFC which has been strongly protested. After all it’s a natural sexual reaction for some people, so if you squirt enjoy it, it’s perfectly normal!
Masturbation is often seen as a solo activity, but it can be enjoyed with a partner and when it is, it’s known as mutual masturbation. It can involve two people masturbating individually but watching each other, this is fantastic for an exhibitionist or voyeuristic thrill. Mutual masturbation can also involve people masturbating each other and letting their fingers do the talking…well, wanking really. Mutual masturbation is at least double the fun and can be a wonderful way to play, finding out what turns your partner on by watching how they please themselves and showing off what gets you off too!
Ding ding, going down! Cunnilingus is the technical term for giving oral sex to a woman or any person with a vulva in fact. Oral sex is not talking about sex, no, it’s using your mouth to turn the other person on by licking, sucking and even biting. It’s not dirty talk, though you can combine the two as long as you don’t talk with your mouthful.
It’s a sex act that doesn’t have to include penetration, which is great for anyone who isn’t a fan of PIV sex or just wants to change things up. It’s very intimate and some people absolutely love it where other people find it a complete turn off. If the idea of going down gets you excited, add cunnilingus to your fetish list on feitsh.com then look for others who love it too.
There are so many different names for a blow job, some of which are used for specific actions. Deep throating is when a person takes the whole length of an erect cock into their mouth as they give a blow job. It can also be called face fucking.
This is quite a popular theme in BDSM porn because it shows the control of the Dom, through command or hands holding the sub in place as well as the submission of the bottom, doing all they can to give their partner pleasure. It can get messy too and add in elements of degradation and humiliation. Fun!
Anonymous sex is where both parties know very little about each other. They meet up, have sex, then go their separate ways never to contact each other again. Looking for this kind of sex is often called cruising. It has become much easier to find someone for anonymous sex as the internet has become so much a part of everyday life. There are several sites and apps that make it much easier to find people to hook up with for anonymous sex. Often assumed to be something only gay men are interested, anonymous sex is much more universal, with fans of all sexes enjoying no strings sexual encounters
There’s so much you can do in virtual reality worlds these days as the technology has really come on. This includes the advent of VR sex. You get transported into a sexy scene with just the use of a VR headset and some VR compatible porn. You can experience being part of the hot action instead of being stuck watching 2D porn you can experience it as if you’re really there. Whatever really turns you on, you can enjoy it up close and personal just by using a headset and well, your own hand. A fun, safe way to experience new kinks and fetishes too.
People who have vaginas will have heard of (and maybe found) their G-spot. It's an area inside the vagina that when stimulated, can bring the person to orgasm. They are different from clitoral orgasms and often said to be more intense or prolonged. In penis owners, there is something similar which is known as the P-spot. The prostate is located in the rectum and can provide intense, dry orgasms without ejaculation when stimulated. Often these orgasms can occur multiple times and are said to be very strong. The P-spot can be manipulated manually, with toys or during anal sex, so if you want a different kind of orgasm, give it a go!
Sex comes in many forms and many places - but of course the classic location is the bedroom. It can be easy to assume that if most of your sex takes place there you've got a little stuck in your ways - but honestly, when you think about it, a lot of the places we're told are great choices for getting down are massively overrated. Beds are comfortable, spacious, private and cosy, not to mention often come with plenty of handy ways to change up your angle or get yourself tied down! Adventurous escapades are great, of course, but let's not forget the simple pleasure of getting an early night with the right partner.
Kissing seems like a big deal to us when we're teenagers, but as we grow older, it can start to lose a little of its mystique. It's a great shame because it's a wonderful way to build intimacy between partners, and without it, sex can start to feel a little impersonal.
In a fetish context, there are plenty of ways to make kissing a part of your dynamic. Kissing someone who is tied up can add to the sensual feeling of helplessness, for example, while kissing a blindfolded person all over their body will keep them wanting more and make them unsure what to expect. It can also form an important part of aftercare, helping you to reconnect with your partner on a cosier level after an encounter that may have been quite emotionally intense.
Human beings thrive on touch, and an erotic massage is a great way to make use of that. For dominant partners, it can be a way to pamper and spoil your sub - as a reward for good behaviour, perhaps, or as a way of comforting and looking after them when they've had a hard day. For submissives, it can be an act of devotion and adoring service to your dominant. Either way, it's intimate and sexy - and it can be a wonderful way to lead into something a little more mutual! Massage can also form a valuable part of aftercare, particularly if one partner has maintained a stressful or difficult position for any length of time.
Shower sex can be a lot of fun. It's sexy, sure, but it's also intimate; there's something lovely about being naked and relaxed with someone in such an everyday way. It's a great way to bond with someone whether you're getting down and dirty as you clean yourselves or not. If you're the lucky owner of one, bathtub sex might be a slightly more comfortable option as you can lay down.
The shower can also be a great place to experiment with some of the messier fetishes you might have considered. It's the best venue for first-timers to try watersports, for example, and it's a great way to make wax play safer and easier to clean up.
Ahh, yes, sex on the washing machine: a staple of a thousand sitcoms. It can be a little tricky to pull off in real life, but if your washing machine happens to be correctly situated it can add some interesting vibrations to the proceedings. Fucking isn't the only use for it, however: it's also the right height for bending over to try out a little spanking. Just make sure you're being careful, you're securely balanced and you aren't about to get walked in on!
The usual story goes that 'foreplay' is all the stuff you get up to during sex that isn't, you know, mechanical thrusting. You've probably heard a lot of stuff about how women need it more than men do, too - as though generalisations like that are either helpful or accurate!
Here at Fetish.com, we're huge fans of all the activities involved in what people call foreplay - but not necessarily of the concept itself. Sex isn't always between one person with a penis and another with a vagina, it doesn't always start and end with perfectly defined boundaries and the literal fucking doesn't always have to be the most important part! Rather than looking at your sexual encounters as a three course meal where the PIV is the main event, think of them as a buffet: you can try a little bit of everything, go back as often as you like, and have things in any order you fancy.
For people in long-distance relationships, phone sex can be an invaluable way of keeping a sexual connection alive. It's also a great thing to do when one of you is away - you'll be able to get off no matter where you are, all without needing to find anyone new to do it with!
Of course, phone sex isn't solely the domain of people in existing relationships. While they're less common than they used to be, phone sex lines still exist - and they can be a fun addition to an evening in on your own. In many cases they've been replaced by cam girl culture, but if you find a hotline that works for you it can be a lot of fun.
There are two kinds of people: those who masturbate sometimes, and those who are lying about it.
While this might not be strictly true (there's an exception to every rule, after all) it's a pretty sound assumption in most cases. Pretty much everyone masturbates now and then, and so they should: it's a natural, healthy way to enjoy your own body and to figure out what you're interested in as a sexual person.
Adorable comedy duo Garfunkel & Oates have a song the chorus of which begins with "Hand-job, bland-job, I-don't-understand-job". It's a reasonable point: giving a handjob can be a bit daunting for people who don't themselves have penises, particularly because a lot of people who do have learned over the years that they're probably better off doing it themselves!
The good news is that this is surmountable. If you are yourself possessing of a penis, spend some time figuring out what you like and don't be afraid to ask for it clearly. If you're the one trying to give the handjob, remember that everyone is different and make a point of asking your partner what they like the most.
Fingering is a common term for what is more properly called 'digital stimulation'. Neither phrase sounds particularly sexy, but for a lot of people the reality is red hot: many people with clitorises find that they can't easily reach climax without a little attention in this department.
The key to great fingering is better communication. Ask your partner what they want and what they enjoy; you could try asking them to use your hand as though they were doing it themselves to help you learn what it is that they like.
If you're on the other end of the equation and you aren't sure what to ask for, experiment! Masturbation is a natural, healthy way to get in better touch with your own body - and there's no better method of finding out what turns you on.
There are a million ways to go down on someone, and one popular favourite for many is facesitting - where one person, usually (though not always) someone with a vulva, sits on their partner's face to be pleasured orally from underneath. Some fans simply enjoy the sensation; it's a pretty intense feeling, and the sitter is completely in control of things like speed and force in a way that makes it easier for a lot of people to climax. For others, though, this act of smothering is part of a BDSM dynamic and perhaps a kink in its own right. Fullweight facesitting comes with heavy overtones of control and domination, and can feel like a wonderful act of service from the person being sat upon.
Oral sex refers to all the sexual practices that involves the lips or tongue being placed on your partner’s genital area. Some more technical names for oral sex are cunnilingus, anilingus and fellatio.
Whether you're more into getting or giving, if you're a fan of oral sex the possibilities are endless. The trick is to remember that everyone is different. What sends one person wild with desire might make another cringe away in discomfort, so ask your partners how they like it and have fun experimenting.
There are plenty of ways to describe the act of sex, but 'fucking' is our favourite. There's just something hot, erotic and sexy about it; it conjures images of late nights and moody lights and basking in a deliciously decadent afterglow. We're fans of getting to the point without beating around the bush, and 'fuck' encapsulates that perfectly.
There's a common myth that the word Fuck originated as an acronym, and stands for 'Fornication Under Consent of the King'. This is almost certainly bullshit. As Melissa Mohr says in her excellent book Holy Shit: A Brief History of Swearing, the word 'fuck' is of Germanic origin, related to Dutch, German and Swedish words for 'to strike' and 'to move back and forth'. There's certainly something Germanic about the inherently direct and straightforward nature of the word, but the act of fucking is absolutely universal.
Anal sex is one of those things that often divides people: for some it's the holy grail of sexual gratification, while others don't want it at all. If you love it, though, chances are that you really love it - and if you'd like to learn to love it, there are certainly options!
Incidentally, anal sex is a lot more 'mainstream' than you might imagine. Studies suggest that almost 50% of the population has tried it - so why not find out what all the fuss is about?
Anal sex is hugely popular, but it's not the only way of getting your butt in on the action. Anal massage and analingus can both feel fantastic for giver and receiver alike, and they're a great way of warming someone up to be fucked in the ass without difficulty or discomfort.
There are plenty of toys around designed to make anal play more enjoyable for all involved, and it's well worth looking into some plugs and vibrators to see what they can do for you. Be careful about what you pick, though - toys not designed for use in that area can get lost more easily than you might imagine, so be sure and get the right ones for you and your partner!
Snowballing is when one person passes on the cum from their mouth to another, increasing the spit and the 'snowball' effect. For some of the swappers (particularly those who choose to be sexually submissive) this can be a particularly erotic activity to take part in - and the other side of the equation gets to enjoy the sight of their partners loving being covered in their semen. Some people also enjoy participating in the swapping of their own ejaculate, which can be a fun thing to experiment with if the idea appeals to you!
By and large, the people on the recieving end of a blow job prefer their partner to swallow their semen. This isn't a universal truth, of course - pretty much nothing is! But it's a solid rule of thumb in almost all cases. Plenty of blow-job-givers love the act of swallowing as much as the other side of the equation enjoys watching it, and for some - particularly submissives in BDSM-style relationships it can be a fantasy and a huge turn-on.
If your partner doesn't like the idea, though, you mustn't press the issue, there are loads of valid reasons not to want to swallow someone's ejaculate, and just not feeling into it is absolutely one of them! It's possible to learn how to enjoy it if it's something they'd like to be able to do, but there's absolutely no reason anybody should feel obliged to try if they're just not into it.
Probably the single topic most often raised in the magazine's agony column is threesomes. Whether they're your hottest fantasy, your weekly reality or something that you reckon would turn you right off, they're big news - and they certainly have plenty of fans!
The trick to finding a threesome is not to force it - these things happen naturally, and you're unlikely to be able to engineer a situation with a stranger or online that works out to your satisfaction. The trick to enjoying one, on the other hand, is to make sure everyone's feeling included and to try and spend roughly as much time 'giving' as you spend 'getting'. This is a good rule of thumb no matter what kind of sex you're having, but when there's more than one other person involved it can be hugely beneficial to give it some conscious thought!
Simply put, vanilla is the opposite of everything we're about here at Fetish.com. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing, though - quite the opposite! All kinds of sex are fantastic for the people who desire them, and the best way to run your sex life is exactly how you and your partners want to.
It's also important to bear in mind that just because someone has kinks and fetishes doesn't mean they never want good old vanilla sex. Sure, there are those amongst us who need a little kink all the while to keep it feeling good - but there are plenty more who crave a little vanilla every now and then and find the experience one that promotes intimacy and builds trust.
Most people love a good quickie every now and then. They're like the drive-through version of fucking; a sudden, instinctive rush in a snatched moment. Maybe you're all ready to go out and you have to leave the house in ten minutes but think you're partner looks amazing dressed like that, or maybe you're sleeping with a colleague and notice that someone left the stationary cupboard unlocked - whatever the situation a quickie is every bit as quick as it sounds.
Many relationships benefit hugely from a bit of extra sex squeezed in like this, and a good quickie can leave you with some fantastically hot memories. Don't let them become the bread and butter of your sex life, though - sometimes it really pays to take a little more time over things!
Contrary to popular opinion, the Kama Sutra is not a glossy coffee-table collection of sex positions and ways to use a peacock's feather. In truth, it's an ancient and holy text covering everything from genital piercings to cheating: there are chapters regarding sex work, the effects of various intoxicants on sexual intercourse, sadomasochism and much more. For something so old it really does justice to the depth and complexity of human sexuality.
The pared-down versions sold in sex shops the world over can be fun, but they're not quite the real deal - you'll have to hunt a little more carefully for a fuller translation. Flicking through the sex positions in the usual abridgements can be fun, but you'll learn a lot more from truly delving into the concepts behind tantra as a sexual philosophy.