About me
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- Networking
- NSA (no strings...)
- BDSM Lovers
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
Wanna know what interests me?:
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Nice with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
My reaction to that is wanting to submit, just give up it all up and let it all go. And since my orientation is towards women all the time; I tend to approach femdom through watching videos and not to the vanilla sex that is what I usually enjoy.
So is there any link between the feelings and me resolving to femdom as an escape? Any possible explanation?
Thank you very much for your input and recommendations. I will have a look at the first book.
Thank you very much for your input and recommendations. I will have a look at the first book.
Thank you for your valuable input and deeper insights. This is a thread for discussions and sharing information; so I am more than happy to follow the discussions of others within the same topic.
One thing that is still not clear to me and it is related to doms. Does degrading a sub in an act that Read more… is somehow a turn on for the sub yet meaningless to the dom, how does the dom act towards this act (carry it out or refuses) and how does the dom feel? (empowered, annoyed,...)
Another question for female doms, why does humiliating a male sub is part of domination (acts like ***ing, slapping, spitting, insults,....) unlike male dominating females (tends to focused on rougher sex with *** )
On the other hand I guess it is empowering for the dom to degrade and humiliate a sub which is also not clear from the psychological point of view
I do not know if it works for everybody but if you are not feelings dominant to begin with , then start with tender and loving and perhaps use rope. You might find the tenderness, closeness and then the restriction of your partner opens up in you the aspect to tenderness where you are enjoying your ability to control the duration and tone of the moments of contact with your partner.
I think that perhaps that is really what BDSM is really about.
The simplest advice I've ever had is remember to be in a mindset of playfulness.
A Read more… first question would be if Domme space is something you already feel/reach? A follow-up to that is if the answer is yes, is it something that seems to happen more randomly, as a response to activities/environment, or something internal?
I'm guessing if you are asking, it isn't something that you are able to reach consistently through your own will.
From my experiences with partners, friends, and mentoring, Domme space is heavily dependent upon feeling confident. You may find the confidence surfaces when you are feeling particularly attractive and desirable. You may find it being more about feeling in control and competent in what you are doing. You may find it by being free to pursue your own pleasure and satisfaction. You may be able to find it through rational and logical means.
Sometimes that confidence happens in a general sense. Other times it may happen in regards to your specific partner.
Does humiliating him "do it" for you? Or is it something you primarily engage in because he needs it?
One way that may be easier in your situation is seek/create a Domme space that is complementary to his submissive narrative that encompasses his emotional masochism. Most emotional masochists have a rather developed submissive narrative formed through years of fantasizing. This narrative embodies varying sets of details and parameters that serve as the reasons and justifications for his place in the pecking order and are quite often rooted in shame and embarrassment he felt towards his desires when they first surfaced.
Unfortunately, it is often very difficult for emotional masochists to communicate their narrative in a direct and emotionally honest way, so in a lot of cases, there are some tricks that may be needed to decipher the meta-concepts that exist behind the specific details. If you are able to piece together the "why" behind the things he likes you to do or say, it will let you be able to "get him there," in a free-flowing and unscripted way. This can bring about intense experiences that go far beyond what he ever expected or dreamed of and make you seem like an all-powerful mind-reader that can dissect his psyche in every way. This kind of confidence can often be channeled into a Domme space.
I hope this could help at all.
Objectively, the fact you think of women as "lesser than" and worthy of *** simply because they're women is very insulting. But you do you. If you find someone who's willing to do that to you consensually, then I am happy for you.
When I first read this post I thought it was a fantasy story, but I will assume otherwise.
In my opinion this is extreme and she wants to 247 control every single aspect of your life. The kinky life style has its limits and it can't be that extreme. Just like play there are safe words to be used Read more… and if you want to have a relationship with such a person then you need to be able to speak and have your vanilla time as well as the dom/sub time. It can't be this way.
I can see that you are in a difficult situation, you are probably not satisfied and I think you are in trouble.
You need to plan your exist from this toxic situation. In my opinion exit and not adjustments.
But to move forward I would like you to ask yourself the following:
1-If you bring up any discussion regarding changing of the situation and have some level of freedom and not the current 100% slave situation, what would be her reaction? And are you even allowed, in her point of view, to bring this discussion up?
2-Never ever make a permanent change to your self (vasectomy)
3- I wonder if she has sex with other partners, cuckolding you or perhaps he inclination is towards women and that's why she is not interested in having sex.
4-Your financial situation, can you have your own bank account and your own salary deposited in it or will all hell break loose from just bringing this topic up?
5-Are you brainwashed by her current beauty and physique, because it will not last for other 5-10 years. Age will catch up with all and especially women. Check Chalize Theron and her current situation.
6-What if she ends this whole relationship, are you going to be a bankrupt sub?
Man I am concerned about this situation and the probable brainwashing that women can do but again I see this extreme and toxic just like the other comments.
I love long silky hair, preferred brunette.
I also love when it is in a neat bun, just the look of it turns me one while she is giving me a blowjob, while touching it.
I love the pulling hair during the intercourse itself, somehow it is more intimate.
In my opinion and based on what you said, you are not sure of what exactly you want or you don't have a clear definition of FWB whether with yourself or yourself and your partner. So that is the first thing that you need to address.
The second thing and to partially answer your question, FWB maybe Read more… negative on a point that wasn't covered in the previous comments, which is pair bonding. I guess after several encounters you develop some kind of attachment (or your partner to you) and with several FWB, this factor will (not may) affect having a long term relationship. So I would suggest that you read on pair bonding and how it affects men and women differently.
Yes I do think it is a fantasy.
I would encourage you to try it in real life to overcome the paranoia. A lot of things are different when experienced and expectations vary a lot.
For me I though having sessions with dominatrices would be nice but I was disappointed. And trust me I have tried several ones with different Read more… activities. So I guess it was a fantasy but not for me.
some of this Read more… can be specific to the person. some do get off on public *** if it's in a public setting (although, I'd encourage it in a consensual public setting like a fetish club) others it could be about the submission to the Dominant. But, yep, it can be a sense of possessiveness.
Do you like that in both public and private or only private play? ➦A_Switch quote Deleted profile:❝Thats very sexy, being trained to stay on all fours in the presence of your owner, getting my collar pulled towards any part of their body they want me to lick❞
Do you like that in both public and private or only private play?
Could you please elaborate more.
For me I am interested in a Trans woman for her beauty and character just like any other woman with no interest in her penis (if we are talking about pre op). At the same time and I have to be honest, Trans woman has something different in building, voice and Read more… attitude; so there is for sure another aspect to it not sure what it is; so if you could elaborate more on your previous answer I would be thankful
I have the same question and by reading the comments I find that people are not accepting a simple question from your side.
I guess your question is simply how is it sleeping with a Trans and perhaps I may extend your question by why are you attracted to a trans since you are straight.
I had the Read more… same thought since I am interested in the person herself as well as her feminine beauty and never by the penis (we are talking about pre-op). Since a large number of Trans women (MTF) are pre op and straight men are not attracted to penises, you may get confused about your reason of attraction.
In my opinion you need to break down what you are exactly attracted to to understand yourself but don't have high hopes since myself I still have questions after sleeping with two different Trans women.
Same for me, it has to be a bit spontaneous and at the right moment. Like in a doggy position and at the right moment, I have a sensation of high and some kind of relief that time stops regardless of the intensity of pulling or the intercourse.
Members close by
-
Gilly
-
Daddybare
-
meklot