*** isn't my thing. I do enjoy overcoming a personal challenge through trust and support of a partner. The mind games and seeing them happy can be a joy.

This probably depends on if it's bad for all involved. I like to trust the other person to decide, if they enjoy it then it will still be worth it. If not then maybe we can find something to fill the gap.

There is a lot of conflicting advice but most will depend on the circumstances. A more enclosed plastic cage is going to need a lot more cleaning than a steel open style cage. I find cleaning under the foreskin important for me but with an open style cage I can clean mine reasonably well without Read more… unlocking. The plastic cages I tried I'd feel uncomfortable keeping on more than 24 hours and I'd find they would start to smell. Have heard some manage to cope better but got there feeling this required following a high maintenance routine.

Sounds like you have made some positive steps forward. I'm sure you'll find the spark and it will eventually click naturally. Don't worry if it takes a while, I'm sure it will be easier the more relaxed you can be about it.

I can relate to hitting a brick wall in life and kink. I see myself as a switch to but often find my dominant side frels trapped and my submissive side cones out easier when I lose confidence.
How much have you discussed it with your partner? Would it help to plan a simple scenario with them? Maybe Read more… take some of the pressure off by letting them guide you through there own scenario. By this you can suggest some sort of simple bondage and then ask them what they want or imagine in this position. Or maybe give them a few options to pick from. Maybe if you do this to build up the trust and understanding you can find it easier to explore your own scenarios.

I have hypno/sex magic fantasies which combine well with sensual play. A blindfold mixed with various sensations, soft, ice, pinwheel and any that make me shudder like crazy. Also love having someone grind on top while frustrated in a cage.
Building frustration, the sense of discipline and sharing Read more… an achievement with someone are the aspects I enjoy. Duration should be long enough to feel challenging but not too long you completely forgot how good release feels. Would say a couple of weeks gets me in the right zone.
Occasional releases for teasing are always welcome or when travelling from a non sexual point of view. Scenarios where being trapped can be more awkward outside the day to day routine.
Stainless steel open style bird cages are the easiest to wear and keep clean long term. Especially when they are the right fit.
The most excitement comes from the mind games and being challenged.

Wow your dedication and creativity is amazing.
You seem to have a lot of ideas already. Hopefully some of these suggestions help inspire something even if you can't use them as intended in this instance.
Have you tried corner time where the sub has to stare into a corner?
I don't know if it's Read more… possible for him but there is a trick some dommes use where the sub must hold a coin against the wall with there nose.
Assuming you can share pictures or videos with him. Maybe he has to count or find something in a picture/video?
Maybe try putting a twist on some simple puzzles/games like hangman, connect 4 or battleships for his rewards and punishments.
Battleships could be replaced by guess which room has the toilet.
If they are able to drink with a straw are they able to do something like trap the liquid and try and blow it out. Or how long can they blow bubbles.
You seem to have identified the tongue as something he can easily use. Maybe he can try drawing shapes or spelling out words with it.
Hypnosis should have plenty of scope, can't see any harm dabbling with some of the basics and building up to what you are both comfortable with.
Hopefully someone with genuine experience in this scenario can guide you better as it would seem to be an area in this community which is often left neglected.

This can be a very complex question and really depends on the dynamic you are after. I don't think it is fair on a child to expose them to any sort of kinky behaviour but I'm sure couples have found ingenious ways to keep some aspects of a dynamic alive in plain sight. Developing your own cryptic Read more… communication and knowing how to park things to explore privately. A polite exchange of simple every day commands could help a child learn good manners but be careful to avoid 1 way traffic or a child may develope a form of sexist conditioning. Suggest a lot of planning and preparation goes into establishing how you would want it to work, and always be ready to put it on hold when it gets too complicated to keep up.

Providing the device is comfortable (or as comfortable as can be considering the limitations) just focus on one day at a time. If you can distract yourself in your daily routine you will forget it's there most of the time. When you start to feel frustrated you need to learn to stay calm to avoid Read more… falling into the trap of excitement.

A month of Chastity, followed by an hour of sensory tie and tease fun.

Don't worry it's ok to be nervous, for some this can add to the thrill of the experience.
You should probably start by having a clear idea about the sexual experience you are looking for. Keep it simple to begin with.
You should also identify what makes you feel ***.
Knowing these will allow you to Read more… discuss them with your partner so you can both build a level of trust.
Find out what they want and what makes them ***. You don't have to explore there ideas straight away if they make you feel uncomfortable, just be clear your not ready and establish clear boundaries.
Are there things that will help you feel safer?
Staying clothed, agreeing touch points, simple hugs and kisses.
Do you have any friends you can trust? Will they help you explore, find what it is you are looking for and help you build your confidence? This can be through discussion or via a physical connection. Maybe they can be on hand to check you are safe if you are meeting a stranger.
Would it help if your partner was more ***?
Blindfolded, restrained.
Hopefully some of these suggestions help you find what you're after.

I think the fantasy of 24/7 sounds fun but I expect the reality could prove more challenging. A lot of it would probably depend on having the right partner. Then I'd expect building up in bursts starting with a few weekends, then a week and so on. If you begin to miss it then you can choose to go Read more… longer if the rest of life allows it. External factors could always be accounted for within your dynamic.

I'm sure there are ways around your situation. I certainly think it's easier to work with than a double Dom relationship.
One of the best things to do is work out what it is you want from a Dom.
Maybe you just want to list a set of rules, targets, rewards and punishments.
Now you can choose to Read more… share this list with a 3rd party Dom or maybe have fun with it between yourselves. Imagine your both serving a master or God and you have to hold each other accountable for each others behaviour. Using chance mechanics like coins, dice or cutom wheels can be a way of making decisions without being responsible for it. You just need to make sure you both en*** it. Also don't feel you need to keep rewards/punishments exclusive. They can be dished out to both of you or shared between you.
Hopefully this gives you a few suggestions to work with. If you can both keep a simple journal you can both review at the end of the week/month you may find ways to tweak the scenario for more flexibility when required or stricter procedures to follow if you want to feel a tighter grip.