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Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.
"Cade", in Three Acts.
Three things you should know if I interest you: 1. I am a sadist, 2. I am polyamorous, and 3. I am for real. The following discourse will explain why these are important if you are interested in striking up a friendship with me. Above all else be aware that I value experience and truth, and am willing to prove my integrity. Trust is created for me through one's actions matching their words, and as such, must be built over time.
I'm a sadist. A sadist is someone that gains pleasure from displeasure, typically thru inflicting. That is no less true for myself, and I use mental exploits like objectification, as well as, physical acts like caning and needle play or cutting. I enjoy bruises and welts, and tears turn me on intensely. Of course, I have strict safety rules for play and interactions, and am constantly looking to increase my experience and knowledge in risk assessment and other safety concerns/disciplines. I belong to a community of like-minded individuals which can provide my character references, both personal and professional...and I am a member of multiple groups that participate in spreading acceptance through education of alternative relationship dynamics. If you have questions about my fetishes or background in sadism, please feel free to ask.
I'm polyamorous. The literal definition for polyamory is "many loves", but I think it's better summed up as having the capacity to love and be loved by more than one person in an open and honest manner. As such, I would say it is important to know that I am in a relationship living with me. kitty is my slave, branded property as of May 4th, 2019 after seven years of training (and one year prior of consideration). she has proven her obedience and worth as a servant, and I am honored to have her in my life. I like to think I am a unique and exceptional individual, and know for sure the others in my relationship are...you will meet them if you prove yourself worthy and prospective enough that I might add you to our lives. Their safety is paramount.
I'm real. The points this outlines are not details of role playing or the way I dream of living my life; they are the actuality and truth of my existence. This is my lifestyle...I choose to live my life by alternative methods. My lifestyle identifies and honors each of our intrinsic values as dominants or submissives that threads through every aspect of life, in the vanilla world as much as the biological kingdom. After reading all this about me all I ask is that you don't judge me. I am as human as you are and am just trying to find happiness just like you. I will be tolerant and respectful of your life choices because you have to live by them, and my choices will never affect you unless you allow them. Thank you for reading through this, I hope it is helpful in deciding your level of interaction with me.
Forum Index
Topical Articles:
- Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/ - Community of Babel;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/- (CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/ - (CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
- (CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
- EARN It: The Real Gift;
www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/ - The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/ - I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/ - *I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding En*d within the BDSM Realm.);
www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-end-within-the-bdsm-realm/ - No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/ - PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/ - The Secret of S/M;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/ -
Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/
Tales:
- Alice and Her Jabberwock;
www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/ - [CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/ - The Crying Game;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/- (CG) Round One;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/ - (CG) Round Two;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/ - (CG) Round Three;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/ - (CG) Round Four;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/
- (CG) Round One;
- Daughter of Suffering;
www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/ - Day One;
www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/ - Hot Box;
www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/ - "How I want you...";
www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/ - A Night Out;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/ - Objectification of a Vegetarian;
www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/ - Sacre-licious;
www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/ - The Scorpion and the Frog;
www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/ - The Shoe Shine Girl;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/ - Third Person;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/ - Trash;
www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/ - The Wolf and bunny;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/ -
"Yes";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/
Poetry: - Crux;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/ - "I know why she cries";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
Our roles
I like:
- 24/7 (Active)
- Anal Beads (Active)
- Anal Plugs (Active)
- BDSM (Active)
- BDSM Branding (Active)
- Biting Fetish (Active)
- Ben Wa Balls (Active)
- Bizarre Fetish (Active)
- Breath Play (Active)
- Chains (Active)
- Dildos (Active)
- Discipline (Active)
- Domination (Active)
- Double Penetration (Active)
- Electro Sex Stimulation (Active)
- Violet Wand (Active)
- Erotic Art (Active)
- Erotica (Active)
- Extreme Bondage (Active)
- Fisting (Active)
- Genital Torture (Active)
- Goth (Active)
- Rough Sex (Active)
- Hentai / Anime
- Humiliation (Active)
- Enema (Active)
- Clitoral Pump (Active)
- Nipple Clamps (Active)
- Orgasm Control (Active)
- Paraphilia (Active)
- Cock Ring (Active)
- Pinching (Active)
- Polyamory (Active)
- Porn (Active)
- Sadism (Active)
- Sapiosexual (Active)
- Scratching (Active)
- Sensory Deprivation (Active)
- Sex Toys (Active)
- Spanking (Active)
- Strap-on (Active)
- Submission (Passive)
- Sybian (Active)
- Vibrators (Active)
- Wax Play (Active)
- Watersports (Active)
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Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.
"Cade", in Three Acts.
Three things you should know if I interest you: 1. I am a sadist, 2. I am Read more… polyamorous, and 3. I am for real. The following discourse will explain why these are important if you are interested in striking up a friendship with me. Above all else be aware that I value experience and truth, and am willing to prove my integrity. Trust is created for me through one's actions matching their words, and as such, must be built over time.
I'm a sadist. A sadist is someone that gains pleasure from displeasure, typically thru inflicting. That is no less true for myself, and I use mental exploits like objectification, as well as, physical acts like caning and needle play or cutting. I enjoy bruises and welts, and tears turn me on intensely. Of course, I have strict safety rules for play and interactions, and am constantly looking to increase my experience and knowledge in risk assessment and other safety concerns/disciplines. I belong to a community of like-minded individuals which can provide my character references, both personal and professional...and I am a member of multiple groups that participate in spreading acceptance through education of alternative relationship dynamics. If you have questions about my fetishes or background in sadism, please feel free to ask.
I'm polyamorous. The literal definition for polyamory is "many loves", but I think it's better summed up as having the capacity to love and be loved by more than one person in an open and honest manner. As such, I would say it is important to know that I am in a relationship living with me. kitty is my slave, branded property as of May 4th, 2019 after seven years of training (and one year prior of consideration). she has proven her obedience and worth as a servant, and I am honored to have her in my life. I like to think I am a unique and exceptional individual, and know for sure the others in my relationship are...you will meet them if you prove yourself worthy and prospective enough that I might add you to our lives. Their safety is paramount.
I'm real. The points this outlines are not details of role playing or the way I dream of living my life; they are the actuality and truth of my existence. This is my lifestyle...I choose to live my life by alternative methods. My lifestyle identifies and honors each of our intrinsic values as dominants or submissives that threads through every aspect of life, in the vanilla world as much as the biological kingdom. After reading all this about me all I ask is that you don't judge me. I am as human as you are and am just trying to find happiness just like you. I will be tolerant and respectful of your life choices because you have to live by them, and my choices will never affect you unless you allow them. Thank you for reading through this, I hope it is helpful in deciding your level of interaction with me.
Forum Index
Topical Articles:
Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
Community of Babel;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/
(CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
(CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
EARN It: The Real Gift;
www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/
The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/
I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/
*I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding En*d within the BDSM Realm.);
www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-end-within-the-bdsm-realm/
No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/
PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/
The Secret of S/M;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/
Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/
Tales:
Alice and Her Jabberwock;
www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/
[CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/
The Crying Game;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/
(CG) Round One;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
(CG) Round Two;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
(CG) Round Three;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
(CG) Round Four;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/
Daughter of Suffering;
www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/
Day One;
www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/
Hot Box;
www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/
"How I want you...";
www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/
A Night Out;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
Objectification of a Vegetarian;
www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/
Sacre-licious;
www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/
The Scorpion and the Frog;
www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/
The Shoe Shine Girl;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
Third Person;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
Trash;
www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/
The Wolf and bunny;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/
"Yes";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/
Poetry:
Crux;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
"I know why she cries";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
It's also good to remember that "punishment" is only ONE part of behavior modification (if that is why punishment is being used). It's important to rein*** positive behavior trends, as well as, deterring negative behaviors. I use a three up-three down system in my dynamic; for reinforcing the Read more… positive, I use acknowledgement, adulation, and then reward, and for deterring the negative, I use correction, discipline, and finally punishment.
Another good acronym to include in this is TAT (total authority transfer), which is also similar to TPE, although more complete overall domination and submission.
There are still places that use it (mostly based on region and venue), and in certain parts of the US, where the laws are forcing things back underground, it seems to be making minor comebacks. Though, I do agree it died out and even evolved from its origins, but I'm not sure how much the general Read more… public really became aware of it. There were a lot of uses for hankies in the states, so maybe there's just less assumption on the actual meaning?
Also, don't forget hankie code, which was a gay leather/leather community common way to tell each other we were kinky and what type of kink we were looking for. It's basically a colored hankie ("flag") hanging from the pocket, with the color, left/right side, and front/back pocket meanings; color Read more… indicated kink, left/right indicated top/bottom in activities, and front/back indicated cruising for or just into.
Taking from my own experiences as an example:
Prior to the scene, I give my partner the verbal command to "Present", which tells them to strip down and assume that corresponding position: basically, standing at attention with a slight variation for my own preferences. Outward, this might appear a somewhat egocentric gesture - a dominant telling a submissive what to do (and no doubt, it doesn't fail to give me a total owner boner), but on the flipside of the coin, it also begins the submissive's journey into sub-space. Waiting in this position for me to acknowledge them, my partner has a chance to meditate on the situation at hand, focus on their protocol for the type of play, and generally enter an anticipatory mental state as they wait for my attention.
Circling my partner like a wolf stalking their prey has a similar effect on the mentality, leaving them feeling small, ***, and quickly sinking deeper into that sense of being captured: the feeling of being my prey, sustenance for the sadist - and edging further into subspace/masospace. Much like a wolf, I'm not only trying to be intimidating, but I'm also performing a visual evaluation of my partner. I look for existing bruises/discoloration, abrasions, moles, lumps and any other physical concerns that may possibly affect the play. A sudden and surprise touch can show me several reactionary considerations; do they jump and how much, does their skin blush or cover with goosebumps, are they feeling ticklish or extra sensitive are just a few questions answered. Grabbing a handful of flesh certainly helps my partner feel as if I am claiming what is mine, but it can also help me feel for knots in the muscles, how tense the area is or how comfortable that individual feels in my hands.
This all transpires in the span of 5 to 10 minutes, and then the scene begins...
If you use pre-care, what are some of the methods you find most beneficial to your play objectives? Do you find pre-care important to your play, why or why not?
I have a few I really enjoy.
For s/m: "*** is relative to the hand that inflicts it and the flesh that bears it."
For d/s: "The mouth that bites the hand that feeds it usually licks the boot that kicks it."
For o/p: "Never treat a slave like a princess."