(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)
"Cade", in Three Acts.
Three things you should know if I interest you: 1. I am a sadist, 2. I am polyamorous, and 3. I am for real. The following discourse will explain why these are important if you are interested in striking up a friendship with me. Above all else be aware that I value experience and truth, and am willing to prove my integrity. Trust is created for me through one's actions matching their words, and as such, must be built over time.
I'm a sadist. A sadist is someone that gains pleasure from , typically thru inflicting. That is no less true for myself, and I use mental exploits like and objectification, as well as, physical acts like caning and needle play or cutting. I enjoy bruises and welts, and tears turn me on intensely. Of course, I have strict safety rules for play and interactions, and am constantly looking to increase my experience and knowledge in risk assessment and other safety concerns/disciplines. I belong to a community of like-minded individuals which can provide my character references, both personal and professional...and I am a member of multiple groups that participate in spreading acceptance through education of alternative relationship dynamics. If you have questions about my fetishes or background in sadism, please feel free to ask.
I'm polyamorous. The literal definition for polyamory is "many loves", but I think it's better summed up as having the capacity to love and be loved by more than one person in an open and honest manner. As such, I would say it is important to know that I am in a relationship living with me. kitty is my slave, branded property as of May 4th, 2019 after seven years of training (and one year prior of consideration). she has proven her obedience and worth as a servant, and I am honored to have her in my life. I like to think I am a unique and exceptional individual, and know for sure the others in my relationship are...you will meet them if you prove yourself worthy and prospective enough that I might add you to our lives. Their safety is paramount.
I'm real. The points this outlines are not details of role playing or the way I dream of living my life; they are the actuality and truth of my existence. This is my lifestyle...I choose to live my life by alternative methods. My lifestyle identifies and honors each of our intrinsic values as dominants or submissives that threads through every aspect of life, in the vanilla world as much as the *** kingdom. After reading all this about me all I ask is that you don't judge me. I am as human as you are and am just trying to find happiness just like you. I will be tolerant and respectful of your life choices because you have to live by them, and my choices will never affect you unless you allow them. Thank you for reading through this, I hope it is helpful in deciding your level of interaction with me.
I am currently polysaturated. It would be fair to say that I am without the extra time/energy/attention to attempt any intimate dynamic beyond friendship.
Topical Articles:
Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/
Tales:
"Yes";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/
Poetry:
It's also good to remember that "punishment" is only ONE part of behavior modification (if that is why punishment is being used). It's important to rein*** positive behavior trends, as well as, deterring negative behaviors. I use a three up-three down system in my dynamic; for reinforcing the Read more… positive, I use acknowledgement, adulation, and then reward, and for deterring the negative, I use correction, discipline, and finally punishment.
Another good acronym to include in this is TAT (total authority transfer), which is also similar to TPE, although more complete overall domination and submission.
There are still places that use it (mostly based on region and venue), and in certain parts of the US, where the laws are forcing things back underground, it seems to be making minor comebacks. Though, I do agree it died out and even evolved from its origins, but I'm not sure how much the general Read more… public really became aware of it. There were a lot of uses for hankies in the states, so maybe there's just less assumption on the actual meaning?
Also, don't forget hankie code, which was a gay leather/leather community common way to tell each other we were kinky and what type of kink we were looking for. It's basically a colored hankie ("flag") hanging from the pocket, with the color, left/right side, and front/back pocket meanings; color Read more… indicated kink, left/right indicated top/bottom in activities, and front/back indicated cruising for or just into.
I have a few I really enjoy.
For s/m: "*** is relative to the hand that inflicts it and the flesh that bears it."
For d/s: "The mouth that bites the hand that feeds it usually licks the boot that kicks it."
For o/p: "Never treat a slave like a princess."