I will upload description and what I am looking for by tomorrow probably.
The following things are a big NO. I am open to exploration outside of what is listed.
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//; unhygienic (, , butthole licking, etc.), and other risky/hazardous stuff; and manipulation (especially gaslighting, it is a total hard limit and I will cut off immediately); hypnosis that reduces intellect or brings drastic or extreme changes in me; no nonsexual and constant ***; I am a submissive and not a slave (except for occasional roleplay); sadomasochism, especially serious kind; put into bondage for no reason, only to do nothing and sit in a corner by myself; 69 with men; photos or videos for posting anywhere or using for anything without my consent, especially any photos or videos where I can be recognized in any way.
I won't send any photos with my face until I have your basic personal details like your name, proper way to contact you (like phone number), and we have serious intentions and a plan to meet; I won't sext with someone I have nothing to do with. I don't feel comfortable sexting.
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Chasity: I don't like it in general. Will for sure not consent to wear regularly and outside sessions/meets, and if we decide that I should try it for meets/play sessions, then I will control it and it will be 'at-will for me'.
Conditional CNC (like wearing something green lights it kind of stuff) is an option once our relationship/dynamic is solid and stable.
Sadomasochism is a no and I am not a masochist but light stuff maybe ok occasionally.
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I value clear and honest communication.
He did say she liked to have sex, but in near past, something caused her to be disinterested in things they used to like.
Facts...
Wise words...
You seriously need to be more empathetic and emotionally mature. She likely needs help with mental health and clear communication, some break from everything, and someone to give her time, care, and attention.
Btw, why most of the experienced and wise dominants live so far away from me? 😢
I relate to this so much. I haven't been hurt in bdsm, but have been in general, and I am also a bit demisexual so I can't just become submissive to someone on command. I like committed d/s relationships and they need the natural build-up.