I said it in a different post that was more or less about the same thing. Most guys that claim they are Doms (not all) are mistaking being a Dom for just being assholes.

Typically the hard "no's" come out when you reach the casual flirting stage. If you listen, you can easily figure out the yes, maybe and no's, I just go from there. if I am talking to someone for 10-15 mins and we start listing stuff cause we are jumping straight in the deep end, I lose interest Read more… pretty quick. It feels cold, more like a chore, and a 1 time thing... Which isn't me. Anytime I have hooked up quickly, it was pretty standard sex.

I feel the above comment explains it well enough.
With that being said, time to ruffle some feathers. As someone who dipped their toes into it briefly and whose brother has been that way for 20 years now. Very very rarely does it work. I find that a vast majority of people claiming to be poly, are Read more… just using it to cheat on an unsuspecting partner as it makes it easier to juggle someone on the side and lowers the risks of getting caught.

A Dom/Sub relationship is like any other in that you need that trust and respect. You have to discuss boundaries and agree to them, and if they are crossed repeatedly then it's not for you.
I will say this loudly. Most guys that claim to be Doms are not. Don't confuse a Dom, with a narcissist ****. Read more… They will start off as "Doms" but pretty rapidly show they don't care about what you're trying to get, it's all about them. I would wager this guy put you on the back burner. He got what he really wanted from you and was working on someone else. They probably weren't very receptive as he would like so his permanent ghosting turned into a "micro ghosting" bs excuse.