Without wanting to get too personal, my appendage has an upwards bend to it, it's not all that serious but it has made me self conscious when it comes to any form of sex. I too have considered surgery to correct it, but ideas disuaded by the fact that none of my previous partners or "play mates" Read more… have ever complained about it, much the opposite in fact. I think, in the end, it's the age old saying "size and shape don't matter, it's how you use it", which has certainly been the case for me personally. It is ultimately your decision, but I think you should, as others have quite right said, do a lot of research before making any decision either way. Don't be afraid to ask your surgeon for reading material, I would suggest that this is a better idea than reading what's available online simply due to the fact that it is often difficult to judge what is reliable information and what is not. I wish you all the best, and hope that you get the outcome that suits you best.
I also think that there's no blanket term though, since everyone's personality is as unique as their fingerprint.
In my mind a brat is an individual who intentionally disobeys their dominant in order to get a reaction and usually a punishment or discipline. Also, speaking from my experience as a dom to a "brat", they are usually natural masochists, and will act out to feel gratified.
Like Fimus, I'd say it's not without its problems, I've never successfully engaged with anyone on there mainly because I don't see the point in doing so with people who are 1000's of miles away. There's very few British people on the site, and those that are British seem disinterested in even Read more… talking as friends or to share advise and tips. The one good thing I will say is that messaging is free, which can't be said for most fetish sites.
I've always found them appealing, not so much a kink for me, their artwork shows a lot about who they are as a person. They often have meaning behind Them, they show the person's life story in some cases. It helps you get to know them without the awkward questions. For example, I lost my dad to Read more… cancer when I was 14, and have my right forearm covered in red roses as a tribute to him as he meant so much to me. I am also getting a sleeve done on my left arm as a tribute to my entire family, with a series of smaller pieces to represent each of my siblings, my mum, grandparents and my aunts/uncles. My other pieces represent my love for nature, culture and even my career. I too get very excited when I hear the buzz of the tattoo gun, it means I'm one step closer to having my body the way I want it to look
I have found this all too common as well. I've been dismissed as inexperienced, incompetent and even called a child because of my appearance. I'm yet to meet anyone online that is into the lifestyle and accepting of my age, experience/competency and the fact that I look younger than I am. It's Read more… entirely frustrating, because as you say it's perfectly acceptable for subs to be youthful, but seemingly not for doms. I've been to meet ups, parties, the lot and had exactly the same luck there too. I'm starting to feel like I should just give up and settle for a mundane vanilla relationship.