Jen can I ask is your partner also a switch?

I’m sorry I’m late to the party with my reply, I’m glad you have both been able to talk this out and both start to look at what it is you both want, there have been some really good suggestions here already.
One thing I’d add to all of the suggestions is this…. Kink doesn’t have to be sexual and he Read more… doesn’t have to be the worlds best Dom in the bedroom, there are some really simple things he can do that might give you what you need without having to change the life you’ve already built up together, one thing you could try is an old one but ask him how he’d feel about choosing your daily underwear as I don’t live with my current submissive she sends me pictures or three pairs of underwear each evening and I pick the pair I want her to wear the next day, it’s one way you can give over your submission to him! As you live together you could just lay three pairs on the bed for him to choose from? Hell sometimes I don’t like the choice of knickers my sub has sent me and I make her go without knickers the next day the same goes if she forgets to send the pictures, the knickers don’t have to be the worlds sexiest knickers either they can just be everyday knickers, it’s the act of him choosing them and your submission that is important here! If you and find this works for you both then you can try and find other non sexual ways of giving over your submission, you never know as he grows and hopefully he will grow you might find he becomes more and more dominant in other areas! The key for you both is to find ways of unlocking each other’s desires and traits.
I keep on saying this all too often here but the key to a successful relationship/dynamic is two way communication and needs, you both need to get something out of what you do i.e. you both have to have your needs met.
If you continue to do these two simple things then you will continue to have many happy years ahead.
I wish you both luck.

I just read that back…. For clarification my current partner isn’t called Jen 😳🤭 I really need punctuation sometimes!🤣😂🤣 Sorry!

I quite often record myself having sex with my current partner Jen as she loves to be an exhibitionist, my advice is get a tripod and mount for whatever camera your using Amazon is your friend they do a good range on phone mounts and mini tripods my mini tripod has become my favourite lately as I Read more… was able to pack it into my toy bag and use it in our private room so it’s super versatile… but the other favourite of mine is a intermediate camera tripod the sort that costs about £20-£30 that goes to about chest height on me that way you’ll pretty much be able to shoot all angles from floor to above you!
I’ll happily DM you a photo of what I use and some links if you want me to?

Now you have me thinking what level Dom am I? God damn it I want a record breaking plantium trophy on my wall now!

The playing with words between the prey and the hunter, the twists and turns during the chase is often the best part of forming a new dynamic, the rush of adrenaline that can arise from it is just as heady as any play that may ensue as a result of capturing your prey!
Very beautifully written as Read more… always...

First off Jen know that you are loved by your friends no matter what you finally want or don’t want to be known as or not as the case my be… All that matters is you know that those who know you and those who care about you like your the person who’s stood by your side for the past two years are Read more… here for you always! As you’ve been here for us countless times. Whatever you decide, you will always be my friend! Now for the not so easy part… While I can never really relate to what you are going through right now… I can put it in terms similar to what I went through while I was working out who and what I wanted to be…. For years I punished myself for wanting to be a sadist, I was raised in the belief you should never hit a woman and for years I struggled to truly find myself, my place within the community, but after much soul searching and talking to others I realised that there are two souls (on the whole) involved in a dynamic and if the other person didn’t want to be there they would leave! We are raised with old fashioned and preconceived ideas of what we should be and for the majority that conforming to those ideas is normal to them, for the rest of us it is a struggle to come to terms with what we strive to be, it’s not an easy path and can often be a long path for some but while you are on your journey all you have to do is remember one thing! You are loved for exactly who you’ve shown yourself to be in this post! Someone who’s caring loving and wears their heart on their sleeve! I’m not sure my words have helped you on your path to peace of mind, but they are spoken with a genuine wish that the path is short and you find your inner peace and happiness!

Does anyone else feel like this thread has gone way off topic? Just saying!

First off I’m someone who has a positive opinion of all people until proven otherwise, I give all people the benefit of doubt, meaning I treat everyone equally until they prove themselves to be an indefensible idiot! Secondly I have never done what you’ve suggested in your post I read profiles and Read more… only make contact with someone if I find a genuine interest in with that person and what they are looking for and even though I’m single I don’t feel the need to spend hours endlessly searching websites to find my next partner/dynamic I prefer to take my time to find a genuine person that has the qualities I’m looking for and equally that they are wanting in a Dom.
What I find both disturbing and a relief is this… One you ***t all men with the same brush yes there are some real scumbags on this site and I have spent countless hours trying to get the site owners to act responsibly to no avail but to give such a ***hing generalisation of all men in the way you did beggars belief. Two because you hold such a bigoted view I’m really very grateful that hopefully with any reasonable luck our paths will never cross again due to your location!

The Short answer is Yes!... Here's the longer answer! To be honest your profile is lacking in actual information about you and what you are looking for one, I keep saying it over and over in multiple posts so maybe an analogy is in order...
You're in a big pool and there are 100 guys and 20 females Read more… are you going to just be average and do the bare minimum or are you going to stand out from the crowd and sell yourself? When you message a girl are you going to say "Hi how are you today?" or are you going to read their profile and find some common ground between the pair of you or a talking point!
I'm not saying this is you but the other big thing I noticed is that you've been registered on this site for 2 days and you’re already forming an opinion about being blanked on the forums... Try getting to know people first and chat with the people on the site learn as much as you can and take your time... as the OP said not everyone is compatible and why I've never had an actual rejection response from a lady on here I have been blanked plenty, but I’ve also met some lovely people and had some great dates too so it happens you just need to give it some time!

Wow did you not read any of the previous posts in here? You’ve been here 24hrs you profile is basically a paragraph and you have one picture sure pictures don’t have to be naked and to be honest sometimes it’s better to leave something to the imagination in my opinion. But come on it’s a kink site Read more… where you are looking to hook up with others at least try making your profile interesting with something about you and not just what you want! Before moaning after 24hrs! SMH

I’m sorry this has been your experience so far! This is the sort of behaviour that makes me sad for the genuine people who are trying to connect and mad at the same time about the few people on here that use it as a quick stop f**k shop! And I’m not saying that you didn’t but it’s why proper Read more… vetting and communication is so very important prior to meeting… but even with that you have to take people at their word and it can still happen no matter what precautions you take…smh.

Not every kind of submission is about service or even what you wrote about it can also include the little things such as a kind gesture or word that shows you are there and that you care, and in my opinion that should work both ways it costs nothing but means everything.