It’s sometimes really awkward to open up about your kinks to your partner especially if you’re a little bit embarrassed by them or ashamed of them. I imagine it’s from a *** of being judged, potentially upsetting or disgusting your partner and possibly causing them to think about you differently Read more… and go off you. It’s much easier to open up to absolute strangers online. They can’t “fall out of love with you” if they think your kink is a bit weird and because you don’t really care that much about their opinion of you (because you don’t love them or *** losing them) it’s easy to really open up, even about stuff that you think is a bit weird or extreme. I often imagine a couple that both have kinks that they don’t share with each other but share to a stranger online (both using fake pics as they’re married!) the person they chat to online ‘totally gets them’ they share the same kink and feel accepted. They share stuff they’d never share with their partner because he/she ‘just wouldn’t understand’ then one day they finally meet up and for the first time discover that it was their partner they were talking with the entire time! Then they finally trust that their partner won’t judge their taboo kink and the relationship becomes amazing! I was going to suggest you kinda make this happen by making a fake profile and approaching your partner anonymously. But it seems like (most of) the cards are already on the table for you both so maybe something more direct would be a better option. It could very well be that his kink has a little twist that he hasn’t shared with you as he’s embarrassed by it, if you have an idea what that twist might be and it’s something you like too then tell him its a thing that you like, it might surprise him. You don’t have to suggest that you think he’s into it, just tell him that you are and if it’s ok with him you’d like to do it. Of course I could be way off, he might like the idea of doing something but not with you, for example if he really want to dominate somebody aggressively, face slapping etc, he might not want to hurt you, there could be many factors. I hope whatever it is you find a solution, if it is something you’d enjoy too it could be a great step forward for your relationship. Good luck x

Think about what turns you on in another person. For most of us it isn’t the ‘perfect body’ that society tells us we should like. There are many physical characteristics that I absolutely adore, most of them are considered ‘ugly’ by society. But who decides that? No one asked me what’s attractive. Read more… Nobody asks anybody! They just tell us in films and magazines what we ought to like and what we should all aspire to look like but who really likes what they tell us we should? My biggest fetishes are wonky teeth, crows feet wrinkles, veiny arms, saggy boobs and large labia! In men I adore a hairy pot belly, but apparently I’m meant to like washboard abs!? I find little quirks fascinating, when I get a zit I think it makes my face look interesting, like Robert De Niro’s mole. I absolutely adore Adrien Brody’s crocked nose. Whatever you look like there will be plenty of people that completely adore you, exactly as you are. Things that you feel that you’d like to change will be the very same things that make their heart melt. When a girl smiles and she has crooked or goofy teeth I notice them, usually she notices my glance and covers her mouth because she’s embarrassed that they’re not ‘perfect’ but I notice them because for me they are perfect, that’s what I like. I find it so sexy, and I’m definitely not alone. Just remember that whatever you look like, there are more people than you could possibly imagine that think you’re perfect. When you realise this, you begin to feel better being you, without being brainwashed by the nonsense trying to dictate what we should and shouldn’t find attractive.

Try the palms of the hands and soles of the feet, this feels amazing. Anywhere that’s ticklish for a person will also work (back of knees or inner thigh etc.) If you combine cupping with conscious breath work, you can use it to help pull an orgasm into your spine with cups on the lower back, this Read more… can help to awaken kundalini too. (if it causes a headache get them to put the tip of their tongue on the roof of their mouth while swallowing and visualising the energy coming down the front of the body into the belly). Using a small cup with lube so you can move it easily once it’s in place works well, especially on the soles of the feet, but worth trying all over. As for nipples, I have a set of small cups that just cover the nipples, applying these first, and then putting much larger ones over the top of them works so well.

I’m switch, and also sometimes cross dress and sometimes don’t. For me they feel like different expressions of my multifaceted personality. The personification of each role takes over me completely in that moment, I would imagine it is similar to being a method actor and fully embracing the Read more… character you’re playing for the duration of a shoot. We all do it a little, we act very differently around our grandparents compared with our friends, we don’t have to think about, it’s just natural. It’s similar to how we present at work or at home, the difference aren’t as polarised as being D/s but they’re there. Also, as a switch I enjoy the dynamic of the D/s relationship roles, I find it sexy that one person submits to another from both perspectives, it’s the entire dynamic that’s attractive. I love being a sub, and I love to dominate and I think that liking both roles makes you better at being both roles. As a dom that’s also a sub I understand what a sub wants and vice versa

You know that we’re all checking your location now and hoping you’re local, right? 😂

I have been the sex pet service sub that’s getting fucked by the machine many times. I was a live in sex pet for a guy for 6 months once and he had a great fucking machine that destroyed my ass while I sucked him. He never actually fucked me at all, that wasn’t his thing, but he loved watching the Read more… machine fuck me. After that I bought my own machine which I took to a hotel meet with a girl that’d never tried one. It fucked me as I ate her pussy and then it fucked her as she sucked me off. She absolutely loved it, so after the meet I gave it to her. Now I want to buy another one! I miss getting railed by a machine. Lately I’ve been thinking about getting one to do cam shows too.
On a side note, I also made my own sex toy by fixing a huge dildo into a cordless hand drill, so it spins rather than thrusts. Holy. Fucking. Shit!!!!! It feels a million times better than you could ever imagine. You obviously need loads of lube, and I started by having it rotate really slowly, that felt incredible but then ended up at full s***d drilling!! It’s just insanely good. Way way better than a thrusting or vibrating FM. I do a lot of sexual energy work, tantra, cultivating orgasms and Anhking sexual energy up my spine so I’m very used to really intense orgasms but this was crazy, I very very strongly recommend everybody to try it (with LOTS of lube!!!)

Go to sex clubs, be polite and always ask before you leap in. I’m regularly writhing in a heap of sweaty bodies at a sex club, or getting gang banged by a queue of guys! My fav club in the BiFunClub in Islington but they are all over the country. Check the events tab on fetlife to find something Read more… near you. Even if you don’t get what you’re looking for at the club, you will meet plenty of people there so share details and organise it later. It’s not uncommon to be invited to an orgy that’s happening when the club closes, at BFC (and many other clubs) they rent out a room upstairs that someone in the club is usually staying in for the night, that person will spend most of the evening asking people to come back afterwards for an orgy, this happens a lot (as well as invites to homes - I’ve gone to lots of sex parties at people’s homes around London after the club closed) there are loads of apps (like this one) and sites like fetlife that you’d imagine are great places for organising an orgy, but it seems that a lot of people aren’t that serious, they’re too far away, or they just don’t want to meet a stranger off the internet. You can waste a lot of time trying to organise something online. But when you go to a club and meet people in person it’s easy, chances are very high that you’ll have had your orgy, and lots more fun too, before the end of the evening. And you’ll have lots of kinky new friends. I adore all my kinky sex club friends, and we always have lots of very naughty fun together.

I had this exact thought about becoming a dirty old man, I decided 50 is probably the minimum age entry level. I am 50 😊 and I can be very very dirty! I was really excited when I turned 50 just for this 😝

It’s “Hobo humping Slobo babe” my memory butchered the name a bit 🤣

https://youtu.be/2up7su7CeMU

Oh same! The girl from Whale, in the Slobo hobo humping babe video was sooo hot in those braces!!