I think this is partly because so many kinky people are neurodivergent, so using clearly explained analogies helps out a lot of the time. It could be worth discussing that with your dom, asking him if he wears different "masks" even if his core motivation during play is the same. It's entirely a Read more… matter of perspective and presentation at that point.

Definitely, but it isn't as intense for me as it seems to be for subs? To create an analogy, if a subspace is like wearing a totally different costume, for me my "domspace" is more like wearing a mask. The rest of me is still the same guy, but I just act somewhat differently outwardly.

Hey, this is a great question! I'm also neurodivergent, and while I have learned to mask it to a degree I do also get a bit carried away in some negative ways. I try to respond to any profile description the woman I message has, or comment about their BDSM test. Saying early on that you are Read more… neurodivergent helps, especially if you say something but realise it could come across wrong.
At the end of the day, our standard communication issues end up just being compounded by the fact that over text we can't even try and pick up on any facial or tonal cues which may be present in face-to-face conversation. So be understanding and be humane.

I mean overstimulation and sensory deprivation often go hand in hand. You know the principle that when one sense is blocked the others are heightened to compensate? So one reason that lots of neurodivergents avoid sensory deprivation, and a reason lots of others really go for it, is because that Read more… heightening of other senses can be overwhelming.
I'd suggest having access to fidget tools and other comfort items even during play, and never be afraid to use a safeword if it really gets too much to handle.
Edit: oh and of course avoiding sensory deprivation can help. Should make that clear.

I just take the BBC good foods slow cooked bolognese recipe, but I add some cinnamon, paprika, and cumin, as well as some Worcestershire sauce. I'll generally do a bit more onion and garlic too, and I personally enjoy putting some diced green peppers in it. The amount of spices and Worcestershire Read more… sauce I put in varies, but if I've put in too much of the sauce I'll add more cinnamon to counterbalance.
Then, considering it's gonna be in lasagne, I'd add a bit of flour or some other thickening agent so it holds its shape. There'll be more flour added when I'm assembling the lasagne, but generally after a bit of flour I put it in the slow cooker, 6-8 hours on high and then leave it to sit for another 8-10. After it's done, turning it into lasagne is simple.

I'll often just make a standard bolognese sauce in the slow cooker, then bake it with the lasagne sheets and some cheese on top in the oven

I think casual sex is sex without expectations, both in and out of the bedroom. Casual sex implies not feeling or applying pressure on your partner to either be a certain way in bed, or to be a certain type of partner outside the bedroom. It's like no strings on anything, almost mindless sex.