Absolutely depends on the personal chemistry. That for me makes or breaks the attraction, I need to speak to someone to know if I will find them attractive.

A little education can go a long way. It's important to know how the body works.

If my mind is not with what I am doing, then my body is not. In a state of focus, taking the time to imagine each aspect of the body I desire, the smoothness and warmth of skin, the yielding soft flesh beneath my fingers. The smell of a body so close, the tickle of hair cascading down the neck, and Read more… my own body intertwined... Little else could entice me like my own mind.

It's a bit off putting. I love giving and receiving, and you can definitely tell when your partner isn't really into it and is just trying to do what they think you will like. I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me, as long as other things work well, but it is definitely a little Read more… disappointing if they treat it like a job and not fun.

You might see a larger sample of poly places like this compared to the average, but it's definitely not ubiquitous.