I'm a very laid back person in general, single dad so not a lot of free time. Demisexual so you are my type if you interest my mind.
Ask and I'll let you know
Absolutely depends on the personal chemistry. That for me makes or breaks the attraction, I need to speak to someone to know if I will find them attractive.
A little education can go a long way. It's important to know how the body works.
If my mind is not with what I am doing, then my body is not. In a state of focus, taking the time to imagine each aspect of the body I desire, the smoothness and warmth of skin, the yielding soft flesh beneath my fingers. The smell of a body so close, the tickle of hair cascading down the neck, and Read more… my own body intertwined... Little else could entice me like my own mind.
It's a bit off putting. I love giving and receiving, and you can definitely tell when your partner isn't really into it and is just trying to do what they think you will like. I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me, as long as other things work well, but it is definitely a little Read more… disappointing if they treat it like a job and not fun.
You might see a larger sample of poly places like this compared to the average, but it's definitely not ubiquitous.