Dominant for as long as I can remember and generally attracted to intelligent, confident women who only want to submit to someone willing to put the work in.
One night stands don’t excite me as much as they used to….I’m also not looking for 24/7. I want someone with a good balance of kink and communication. Someone whose company I enjoy beyond just BDSM. It can get pretty boring very fast if all there is in the locker is BDSM / sex chat. I like a Master / slave dynamic but I like a time out as well so we can converse like humans.
I like the majority of things relating to D/s dynamics (including of course the after care) I’m a firm believer that being Dominant does not exclude someone from having manners or acting like a gentleman. I work on the premise that you can still be a good guy, caring, strict, firm and dominant at the same time. If you can’t pull that off and find a balance then you have no business being put into any sort of position of power or control.
I’m not into age play, I’m not into or or anything that might actually harm someone.
I love buying things for the person I’m with, it gives me a kick to buy toys, restraints, clothes, lingerie etc - I also love booking nice weekends away in big old hotels or houses so the settings alter from just being ‘my place’ or ‘your place’. I love travel, long haul, short haul, road trips, staycations, all of them. Life’s too short to be sedentary and the big outdoors is where I’m happiest, so when I’ve got my normal vanilla hat on you’ll find me outdoors, walking, hiking, hanging out with friends down the pub or around a dinner table. Sometimes in the garage tinkering on one of my cars or carrying out some sort of DIY.
In the evenings when the sun is out I’m usually on my boat, cruising along the Thames drinking a glass of something cold. I own and manage my own business so I find down time (and the solitude of the river) to be very valuable indeed.
I way prefer to meet for a drink than having long text exchanges that might fizzle out…..and if there’s anything else you would like to know then feel free to ask.
Simple rule of thumb. Do everything in your own time and not to someone else’s expectations.
I think your photos are great. Ignore the haters and focus on the compliments you get for the good stuff you put up. Your motivations are your own so forget the comments from people who don’t see or respect that.
Short answer……I wish I was finishing this story 😉
Sounds like he wants you to top from the bottom. Surely he should have some sort of responsibility to take this effort of thought process and creativity away from you and let you relax a little x
Here’s a thought that your writing this has just led me to consider. This might be long winded and I’m no scientist so forgive me if this comes across as nonsense but we’ve evolved over hundreds of millions of years into being what we are today as humans. From way way way back before we were Read more… anything that even resembles us now we had to have an outer layer. Long before we had developed through the process of evolution our eyes so we could see, or ears our ears so we could hear or any of our other senses we had to have an outer layer, a skin, and for millions of years that was probably our only way of sensing our surroundings and picking up on currents or objects or things to avoid or things to stick close to - so I guess it makes total sense that this outer layer is one of our most evolved components with huge powers to send us messages about things we like and dislike. If you touch something hot you recoil before your brain registers the ***. So the opposite must equally apply, if you feel something nice and comforting on your skin it’s going to send powerful signals to your brain and it’s probably developed over time to desire company and it’s a good way of keeping us together and safe and comforted - when you miss someone one of the first things that pops into your head is how their skin felt isn’t it? Just my thoughts and a bit of a ramble but I definitely agree with you that it is a thing and I think it’s a thing we all probably share xx
Oh and if anyone says anything negative about it to you or tries to make you feel bad about it then leave them where they are. They aren’t a proper person and they ain’t worth your time x
Wear them with pride I say. I’ve got many from various mishaps, falls, bad decisions, bad luck and even one from a knife attack when I was a ***ager. At the time these things seem like they can be overwhelming and potentially insurmountable and to look back at that through a visible reminder on Read more… your person years after the events, that you did that, survived that, thrived in spite of that is somewhat of a gift in my humble opinion. No one gets out of here without a few scars. So good luck to you and respect for asking the question x
Fantastic. Good luck to you both.
I owe you an apology. I think I’d taken an extra helping of my tosser tablets the other day and commented before the app had fully loaded your piece and therefore missed the gist. Hope there’s no hard feelings. J.