Understood, and no hard feelings. Goodbye all.

Typo city!

I thinks we might be crossed about my more phobia, which probably triggered a professional response. It might have been more accurate to use the word ***, but phobia implies a person specific ***. I’m sure you have some clinical definition in mind that looks something like: an intense *** of Read more… something that causes a deleterious effect on that persons life. I used the word “phobia” as a novice, to imply that the answer to the question of: what to do to cause discomfort when physical discomfort is off the table, would have to be tailored to the individual. You may be completely right in your response to the clinical definition. I’m sure your training allows you to talk circles around me when it comes to psychotherapy, if that’s what you do for a living. I would say from a novices understanding of the topic, that traumatic events brought up in safe spaces that involve pleasure can help to soften the severity, I thought that was the underpinning of all modern physic therapy. Now, wether the person who made the post is capable or qualified to provide that situation is another story. I don’t think you are wrong in pointing out that there is risk, but much of the kink world is risky, at least relative to traditional sex.
I won’t back down on the holier than thou bit of the statement, on that I’m sure. But hey, you work in the field, so admiringly, have read more of the good books. My guess would be that the proselytizing isn’t only contained in what you went to school for, but I don’t know a smidge about yah!

I’m not suggesting you recreate the events of a parents traumatic death. Seems like the response was a willfully extreme misinterpretation of my statement used to fly in with some holier than thou advice (Classic Dom move, I should have seen it coming).
Gaslighting sees a lot of mileage. Would Read more… using a moth during sex make your partner feel delusional when they are in fact quite sane? Was I just gaslit with being accused of condoning gaslighting?
The questions are manifold.
Anyways I would like to wrap this up by explicitly stating I don’t condone the use of moths that gaslight certain individuals. I now realize it can be extremely dangerous, from a mental health perspective.