Please correct any misinformation I have. I want to make sure I understand.
So alpha-sub is not a title that you give yourself. Your Dominant or Master asks you to fill that role. The alpha-sub will participate in any activity that helps the Dominant or Master organize, control, train, etc. the Read more… other subs who do not have this role. Might the alpha-subs’ activities include topping another sub to benefit the Dominant/Master? It’s NOT necessarily a permanent role. And it’s not necessarily hierarchical, although we might assume the alpha-sub has a longer or closer relationship with the Dominant/Master given the importance of the role.

For me, your picture is a little off putting and your profile isn’t very personalized. I want to know a human exists behind the facade. Your profile picture is a session picture rather than something natural. I prefer a good candid picture and for you to talk with me. Your “format” feels like I’m Read more… being talked at. When I respond to a message I do because you’re funny, or you have a good profile with written information I can relate to. It’s not completely transactional. Chemistry can’t happen if you aren’t really putting yourself into your messages.

Your profile means more than your picture. Most women need mental arousal before they can be physically aroused. And for the love of everything holy/demonic, READ THE BOOKS. Read on being dominant AND submissive. There is a reason so many doms were made to submit first. Know your stuff. Learn Read more… everything you can. I know practice is important but practice without theory and understanding is useless. I’ve never caned anyone. But I have read correct techniques and will probably ask a submissive with experience to help me learn. I always ask about what you’ve read. Classes you’ve taken etc. Honestly a cute picture with a genuine smile is what I look for. Got a candid pic of you snuggling with your dog, I want to see that!

I bought digital copies from Amazon.

As a new domme myself I can see how it can feel like our needs mean less. I recently read THE NEW TOPPING BOOK and THE NEW BOTTOMING BOOK. They were both very beneficial and helped me to understand WHY people do these rolls. I’m “technically” a top leaning switch. And you might be switch too. I Read more… would recommend you “order” your sub to service you. A lot of topping or domming seems to be about allowing your bottom to find their own space to do what they need. But if you don’t get much out of it, it doesn’t really create the connection that really good scenes have. Read erotica, watch porn, read about others, look at kinky pics. Then think about what of those things turns you on and WHAT part makes you excited. Sex is like pizza. Some times it good sometimes it’s bad. But no one turns down a slice.