by and large I'm looking to network and meet new people who are interested in learning more about themselves and the lifestyle. as such it as a journey and one that needs not be tackled by oneself. I generally get along best with people who are open-minded, either new to the lifestyle or been in it for a long time. I don't believe in kink shaming anyone, but I do believe in talking about a person's interests, both in and outside of the lifestyle and whatever fetishes they may have.
I probably have the standard limitations that any sane individual should have : no s, no kids, no , no permanent marks.
For the most part it generally is the aspect that it is the least touched human body part because of the stigma of it being dirty. It's no more so than any other part of the human body but still considered taboo. I personally prefer well pedicured feet. It's the overall shape and contour generally Read more… small wide feet have the correct shape and contour. Generally skinny or narrow doesn't work as a whole because they don't have the curve that a lot of aficionados are looking for.
This is one of the most subjective fetishes that you'll ever find. It's not a cut and dryer black and white fetish. For some people it can be about the footwear, the color, the coverage. For other people it can be about nail polish, scent, hosiery. It's easier to go into specifics when people ask a specific question when it comes to this fetish... But generally speaking hopefully this helps answer your question.
A tool such as a modified *** pressure cuff they sell them I could send you a link, or a wide leather belt at least 2 in across is preferred to using a person's hands. The belt in a cuff apply pressure more towards the carotid and drug dealers it becomes more of a *** *** then an actual Read more… strangulation scene. You have the same desired results in less time and less chance of damaging a person's hyoid bone or the tracheal rings. The hands don't apply pressure evenly and they are very easy to bruise the skin... Generally speaking the best place for rope/belt placement is under the jawline above the Adam's apple. You don't want to put too much pressure on the jawline because you have to worry about the tempomendipular joint and it's very easy to bruise the jaw and push the jawline out of alignment. If you go much lower you risk damaging the hyoid bone. Generally A good rule of thumb until you're with a committed partner and you know each other's body language is eight on eight off and what that means is 8 seconds of applied pressure on and then 8 seconds of regular breathing off. Then you can increase decrease by one second on either side until you get to 812 count. Generally by then you are subject will be dizzy to say the least and be feeling the endorphin rush that you would get from totally passing out.
There are a number of ways you can look at this. First a little bit of background in my community in the state of Nebraska I used to give the breath play demonstrations to groups, the BDSM community, couples and select singles. It was generally an hour and a half presentation with the first 45 Read more… minutes talking about safety and risk factors and the remaining time depending on skill level showing application.
One of the things you have to consider as you get older when it comes to breath play or medical conditions that you might have. If you have a heart problem, prone to stroke, circulatory issues then you want to shy away from certain forms if not all forms of breath play. But if you're otherwise a healthy man or woman or non-binary there are a number of different forms that you can use depending on what your personal preference is. Unfortunately there aren't that many of us that are actually skilled in breath play, that are spread across enough states to train everyone up on safety and proper implementation. For example you put your hands too high up say above or around the Adam's apple you can crush it, you can break the hyoid bone which can pierce the esophagus and then bad things happen.
My main thing that I would bring up to you or to anyone else who is interested or concerned. Ask somebody who knows ask someone who can provide references, ask somebody who's got a medical background. Do you lose brain cells from breath play? Maybe how can you quantitatively measure the amount of brain cells you lose from breath play versus smoking, drinking, watching television? There isn't a definable amount but you'll know or have an idea that you probably want to back off when you start missing periods of f time... Other than that all breath play can be done with somebody who is qualified to do so.
If you have more questions leave them in this comment string *. There's never anything called a dumb question the only way that we learn and stay safe is by asking questions. Especially with this fetish you're not allowed an oops
Most of the time I assign goal-oriented tasks and each have a reward. They can be anything from cuddles, to 30 minute massage, to do snacks and treats.
A lot of times people identify with their persona that they create here or on other fetish sites. It's how people remember them in real world encounters such as that munch of, demonstrations, play parties. We do this so that we don't out anyone. If you're close friends that's different but Read more… acquaintances or people that you are part of a community with might not like you to wave at them from across the Walmart when they're a teacher lawyer doctor as they want to maintain a low profile