My profile used to say much more but I have explored my desires, evolved and refined my circumstances over the past few years.
I am more aware of this arena, some of its benefits and some of its pitfalls, particularly time wasters,
My only interest in ladies, possibly a couple (male/female M/f or F/m- but let's see) and, like many other people here, I have a fairly normal vanilla lifestyle.
I'm a gentleman.
Define 'sexual gratification' and who should be receiving and/or giving it.
It reminds me of an earlier post about a Dom (alledged) demanding the same in Scotland.
Get to know this person first, when, if the moment is right, you won't have any doubts. That you ask here means you are not yet ready.
That's a very poor view of a Dom.
Sure, there are 'players' who do act this way and subs who fall for it. But I don't believe a genuine Dom would behave like this.
A D/s relationship should be one of mutual agreements, consensual, respectful, and understanding of each partners needs, to be served, Read more… and to serve.
It could also be argued that a Dom 'serves' their sub and that a sub is always in control.
Perhaps take time to reflect, but I have witnessed some very beautiful and safe D/s relationships that have lasted many years.