Sexual desire is instinctive and we have no control over its triggers or manifestation. How we then express or react to it is another matter although even here the issue of control is complex and unclear. So our libido does not, and cannot be, made to follow rules set by our conscious wants Read more… including values we want to maintain. So unless these desires are so extreme they interfere in your life as a whole go with the flow and focus on making sure your sexual partner(s) can provide a safe and secure space for you to express sexual desires you have little or any choice over. It sounds like you do. 🙂

He sounds like a complete loser and user get rid

An ex once told me she saw herself as engulfing men when I made that point about penetration so perhaps it is all a matter of positioning lol (unintentional pun).

Ironically I wanted to message you to thank you for the gift but your criteria filter wouldn’t let me! x

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Because, however unreasonable his behaviour was, you had an intimate relationship with him which involved both emotional and sexual exchanges you are bound to feel the loss. This is entirely normal but it will ebb with time. Any sincere (on your part at least) relationship will provoke such Read more… feelings when it ends. I think you are doing well and you only need to ride it out but of course if you feel you need professional help you have that option. See how you feel in a weeks time perhaps and I will look out for any updates. Take care.

You can leave any bdsm relationship whenever you like as they have no legal basis in law. Any contract you sign is worthless. It is just a kinky gimmick to enhance the fantasy. So in a nutshell you can only be ‘sold’ if you agree to be and your consent can be withdrawn whenever you fee like. Being Read more… a slave or a sub is a deceit which when good benefits both partners but it is always negotiable and never fixed in perpetuity.

Brilliant. Just the right pace and tone to keep the reader interested. My only quibble is “my lovely” but I wouldn’t be so demanding if the story wasn’t so good. It deserves such a high bar.

The line is when you start feeling uncomfortable. Of course you could deny this sensation to yourself but that is the warning we should all be looking out for if we think we are compromising.

The phone sex, not meeting and him being honest from the beginning that he wasn’t going to meet you or divulge details about himself is fine because you agreed to it. You have just been experimenting and having fun together and that is al good and healthy.
But by persisting with his erotic advances Read more… when you are clearly uncomfortable with them is a serious problem and shows a lack of respect for you and your feelings. It is unacceptable because no means no and he is allegedly the experienced partner.
Don’t worry about the aftermath when you were taking control and etc that is just a symptom of the problem: him ignoring your refusal to engage in phone sex on demand. That was perhaps your way of trying to take back control of your own feelings as you felt (and were) being harassed.
So he needs to change his ways or you should refuse to have anything to do with him (definitely sexually but probably altogether because he will just keep trying it on). This will be difficult since you have a connection but having done you some good it is now causing you harm.
I hope this has been helpful and that you can work out what is best for you.