I'm not there yet. I began as a Dom who wanted to understand what subs got out of it. So I learned to Bottom and enjoy it very much. It's restful simply receiving. But now I have a new partner and with her I can become a sub, not merely passive, but actively wanting to please her.
At other times Read more… she is my sub and I her Dom.
For me, being a Switch is my ideal identity.

Excellent

Well said, TheMacabreBrat, agree 100%

See my earlier comment there's also the Loving Dominant and BDSM 101 . . .

Lucky man (and lucky ladies too, I hope). Books cannot replace experience, but they can explain it, enhance it and expand your understanding of your actions and the responses you've received.
Plus the authors between them have, I believe, even more experience than you.

Worth reading the New Topping Book and the New Bottoming Book by Dorothy Easton.

First rate. Can I share it? And if so how do I ensure that the poet gets the credit he undoubtedly deserves?

Thanks for these comments. I mostly Top but love 'letting go' when I bottom, yet have never been restrained. Sure now that I should be.