Oh yeah, and that was morning, great visibility

We've done a cumwalk with a sub, and the route was passing right next to the city's police department. Her face was marvelously ***ted, a huge buttplug under the thinnest yoga pants she could find, and I was filming right in front of the building. That was intense!

Wow, that's tough, I'm sorry. I don't know any other way except to process the trauma, which can take a lot of time and effort. Some therapists specialize in trauma, and there are whole approaches dedicated to it. You can check out EMDR, the research is great, and it's much faster than talk Read more… therapy.
The extra bonus is that all that energy you now spend on suppressing the trauma will be freed in the end, and you will feel more powerful than ever. Hope things go well!

I obviously know nothing about your relationship, but in general the most important thing is communication. You may shoot from the hip, thinking kinky sex and leaner body is what she wants, but she might need your honesty or to feel special. So the most you can reliably achieve strategizing on your Read more… own is showing her you care about her - which is a lot, but again, may not be what she needs.
So you gotta figure out how to talk about it.

Okay I give up

It wasn't. It was about people's priorities. I guess another way of looking at it is: what is the first thing a person says when you ask them, "Why are you into that?" or "What is ds?". That's why I said "interpretations". This has nothing to do with exclusion. We all do both, of course. I just Read more… noticed it really helps find people I vibe with.

Sigh. I didn't say there were "emotionless dynamics". As if there's emotionless anything. As if people don't feel things constantly.

That's a very interesting comparison! I don't want to promote one over the other tbh, especially since I'm leaning heavily myself. But I get how focusing on the physical can lead to runaway outcomes. But mental can do this, too

Subbie, but you are very specific about the practices you prefer?

MisterUp, for sure, never said otherwise

Can you say more? You have preferred practices, but they don't work on their own?