About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- NSA (no strings...)
- BDSM Lovers
Description
Experienced Dominant, happily married but permitted to play. Focus on bondage/restraints, impact play (not especially heavy), breath play and sensory play but dabbled in much else. Pretty good play environment at home (two spanking benches, pillory, a couple of frames, one single- and one double-sided St Andrew's crosses, whipping post, large cage) plus lots of toys for hosting or travel. Not exactly a service Top but I do care that my playmates enjoy themselves and are looked after (including aftercare). Wife is never involved but is friendly to playmates. Two cats are also never involved but are typical selfish, scared mogs! I host regular play and social events amd have visited a number of other events around the country. I'm seeking new playmates and new experiences, learning or stealing ideas and best practice from all and sundry. Please note that, while I have done non-sexual scenes on many occasions, my preference is very much for intimacy. This may be part pf a scene or afterwards or both, but kinky lovers jumpr to the front of the queue.
Desires and Fantasies
Seeking new playmates to join existing ones or enjoy singly. Explore variations on bondage (peril scenarios, for instance), visit new event venues, find outdoor playspots (done a number of kinky camping trips and they were great fun).
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Fear Play (Active)
- Blindfolds (Active)
- Ball Gag (Active)
- BDSM (Active)
- Bondage Stocks (Active)
- Bondage (Active)
- Bondage Bed (Active)
- Bondage Belt (Active)
- Bondage Cuffs (Active)
- Bondage Hood (Active)
- Bondage Rope (Active)
- Breath Play (Active)
- Collar & Leash (Active)
- Cuddling (Active)
- Cunnilingus (Active)
- Domination (Active)
- Threesomes (Active)
- Violet Wand (Active)
- Extreme Bondage (Active)
- FFM Threesome (Active)
- Floggers (Active)
- Foreplay (Active)
- Gags (Active)
- Torturer - Captive Prisoner (Active)
- Handcuffs (Active)
- Rough Sex (Active)
- Kissing (Active)
- Multiple Orgasms (Active)
- Polyamory (Active)
- Sensory Deprivation (Active)
- Spanking (Active)
- Cum Swallowing (Active)
- Spreader Bar (Active)
- Submission
- Suspension Bondage (Active)
- Suspension Cuffs (Active)
- Sweet Pain (Active)
- Vampire Gloves (Active)
- Vibrators (Active)
- Water Bondage (Active)
My places
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Harrogate with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
I'm currently Ethically Non-Monogamous (play around casually but safely and with full disclosure) but have been polyamorous (in love with three lovely ladies). I would recommend that people consider it at least, but honesty is paramount, and with a delcared degree of openness too. Jealousy can Read more… cause havoc so best avoid it with details discussions beforehand.
There are a surprising number of transferable skills within the kink and vanilla worlds. For my part I'm not bad at logistics, so a play scene will always have water available for hydration and refreshment, chocolate for aftercare, the specific toys readily available for planned scenes, general Read more… toys in case of deviation from the plan, front door unlocked to ease nerves about being trapped or to facilitate paramedics in case of serious ***, and so on. The ability to plan seems quite remote from the passions and intensity of most play scenes but a missing toy or inadequate ambience or any one of a number of minor but notable deficiencies can make or break a good scene.
Sadly another ability that transferred across comes from my days in the police; as an event organiser, ascertaining what exactly happened when a scene goes wrong and two parties are upset with each other is a delicate but crucial situation, and I've found that only an impartial and thorough approach will stand a chance of maintaining the faith of guests.
On a more positive note, some of my kinky friends are excellent cooks and delicious nibbles really do set up a great event!
I've enjoyed various Kinky Kamping long weekends. with trees aplenty and clearings of secluded lawns, and with everyone present at the private site equally kinky. Staking to the grass for TENS and Wand ***, securing to trees for display and touching, chasing through the woods and campsite with a Read more… LARP longbow as a sub hunt, watching fireplay demos under the stars...
Dominants and Tops have limits too. If someone expects you to exceed your stated limits then they're an ***r, on both sides of the D/s slash. Don't get hung up on titles - everyone interprets them in different ways. Just be sure that you clearly state your boundaries and ensure that playmates Read more… understand them. It's supposed to be fun, not a chore (or minefield).
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