NOTE: TAKING A BREAK FROM HERE DUE TO LIFE ISSUES.
You can find me on "the other site", handle VoodooQueen, but I will not be communicating via DMs.
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Dominant lady looking to build a long term relationship with a sub.
Under-35s: Don't contact me. You're all a bunch of time-wasters and fantasists.
I'm looking for something that looks vanilla to the outside world but is much different behind closed doors.
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I see kink as a collaboration and a meeting of minds. I don't want a passive, doormat-type person. I want someone who is proactive and willing to come up with ideas when I ask them. To share their thoughts and feelings when I ask them. Saying that, I always get the last word, obviously.
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I don't jump straight into kink stuff; I'd have to get to know a sub on a vanilla level first just to see if we get on as people.
I don't travel far for initial coffee dates because I've been ghosted (so many times!) in the past.
Please don't expect a speedy meetup. I prefer to take things slowly.
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NOTE: Not currently available to meet up as I am on a health drive to get back in shape. I am a horrendous lardarse. I am not into fat / chubby guys and wouldn't expect gym fit guys to be into a fat chick.
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I have been on scene in the past, at munches and FemDom events in the West Midlands. Events I was a regular at included: BitchCraft, Devotion and Cirque de Chaos. I've also visited Club Pedestal in London a few times.
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What are my kinks? It depends on the situation, it depends on my mood, it depends on the conversation I'm having with the sub.
If it seems fun, and has the potential to get me into a super-spaced-out Domme space, then I might give it a go.
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If you want to message me, tell me about the following:
✨ Your vanilla life / interests.
✨ What you enjoy about being a sub.
NOTE: I don't want a list of kinks. I want to know how it feels for you psychologically and emotionally.
I'm not guaranteeing a reply, but if
you can't be bothered to engage in this simple task, you'll definitely go in the bin.
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A bit more about me: I work for an insurance company. It's pretty boring but it pays the bills.
Vanilla interests: Martial arts, comedy nights, gigs, meals out, Scandi dramas.
Married/attached/poly guys.
Wank chat/hookups/NSA/FWB.
Adult baby/diaper, age play, latex, , , chastity, sissy stuff.
OP, prior to this engagement, what sort of self-education had you done on online relationship scams, fake online FemDoms, the realities of a genuine financial kink etc?
It's awful that you've been rinsed by this person, who in all likelihood is a big standard scammer (highly unlikely to be a Read more… woman, let alone dominant.)
Online financial scams have been common knowledge for several years.
What 'defence mechanisms' did you put in place to identify approaches from scammers?
It's really important to protect yourself.
I hope you no longer have contact with this person.
And going forward, I hope you take onboard all the advice offered in this thread.
In future, if an unknown person asks for any cash, even a couple of quid, just ignore them.
They're not interested in you, only your bank account
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Haha! You're a boss ❤️
Kudos to you. You are a boss.
This is such a wonderful post. I agree with every word.
OMG, everyone should read this
Yes. Absolutely this.
Hear hear. There's also the issue of antibiotic-resistant gonorrhoea too.
Yes, fully agree with this.
Yep, I think it's so important to obtain your research from a wide range of sources. I was obsessed with blogs such as Bitchy Jones Diary, Not Just Bitchy, Domme Chronicles and O Miss Pearl. Found a couple of very informative blogs by sub guys. Talked to people at munches and Femdom events. Read more… Frequented the Femdom boards on Fetlife. There are so many resources to draw from. I think it's a shame that so few subs (especially those that are online) are willing to do any research beyond watching Femdom porn.
Objectively, the fact you think of women as "lesser than" and worthy of humiliation simply because they're women is very insulting. But you do you. If you find someone who's willing to do that to you consensually, then I am happy for you.