I'm Tom, I'm chill and can be intense, I guess like a lot of people here.
I enjoy experimenting, and particularly through teasing, control, & denial.
In a big sense I don't entertain power imbalances in relationships, so I'm here to find people who deal the same way and who are looking to play mutually with power within that context. I'm into losing yourself and helping the other person lose themselves that way. For me that looks like good communication before about what we want (& limits), & then playing and pushing. Hard... And slow...
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I'm seriously into edging, bondage, blindfolds, wax, sensory deprivation, and pressure under conditions of restraint (no ) and with pleasure.
I'm basically looking to explore, build some trust, and have fun - primarily with women at the mo. (I identify as queer.)
No / , otherwise would like to figure limits out together
It sounds like you have had a lot of exposure to toxic, abusive, and otherwise dangerous people... If you struggle with in-the-moment chat, maybe figure out & solidify your boundaries ahead of time so you can be more practised for when it matters. (And trust your instinct with people, so they Read more… are not in a position to rattle you.) Good luck with your journey!
As somebody new here, this seems great advice... Thanks! X