Dominant Voice

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There comes a point where every Dominant has to say "No" and mean it, why is immaterial. At this point in the communication you are about to change it fundamentally.

Any good Dominant is of course not trying to end communication completely as that would breach one of our major tenents. No, we are in fact just saying No to one very precise thing.

The problem is if we were to say "Look, do you think you could stop doing just that thing with your hand. I mean you are going a bit far, the rest is great but really that is quite annoying."

It will lose the verbal impact and run the risk of devolving into a discussion. At the same time we have to recognise that we are possibly invalidating the other parties point of view.

So how do we say" No! " and communicate that this is an in role communication rather than us just being an asshat.

This is where your Dominant Voice comes in.

Most experienced submissives will know what The Voice sounds like to them. The change in s***d, in my case a deepening of tone, but it could be just a different tone.

It is a verbal cue when in roll for "Alright listen.", and often we need it because we the Dominants are distracting the hell out of our subs so much that they may not pick up on a complex command. This is far more the case in sub space.

With myself I have to levels of "That Voice" the standard harder and deeper tone that is better for getting a command across and one I seldom use.

If you are really annoying me in play {before I actually get annoyed} my voice will become very soft, very quiet and very slow.

I will at this point for anyone new state that if I was to get angry with my sub at any point in reality rather than in a play sense then the scene would end there and then.

An angry Dominant has lost control of themselves and should not be controlling someone else. At least until they have cooled off and resolved the issue outside of role.

Inside role though your Dom voices are one of the most powerful tools that you have so make good use of them.

[le****]

This is incredibly helpful, even if I'm not quite sure what the hell I even am yet. I appreciate the clear definition between legitimate Angry Voice and the Role Voice. In the past, I haven't known how to differentiate the two very well and it has lead to problems. Knowing what to look for is definitely one more thing I can say this site has added to my tool belt. Thank you for this wonderful insight, my friend!

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Tone and delivery beats physical restraint every time

Edited June 23, 2020 by Deleted Member
Better choice of words

[ElleFire]

Speaking from the right side of the slash, the Dom voice can produce a number of reactions. Some are thrilling, some are a bit nerve-wracking. Sometimes just the fact that I can feel that tone makes me cry a little for the sheer relief of knowing my inner sub has been seen. I don't know if that makes sense, but I hope so!

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1 hour ago, left-2-write said:

I appreciate the clear definition between legitimate Angry Voice and the Role Voice. In the past, I haven't known how to differentiate the two very well and it has lead to problems. Knowing what to look for is definitely one more thing I can say this site has added to my tool belt.

I am happy that I can add to that tool belt left. 

58 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Tone and delivery beats physical restraint every time

Totally agree Donny.

32 minutes ago, ElleFire said:

the Dom voice can produce a number of reactions. Some are thrilling, some are a bit nerve-wracking. Sometimes just the fact that I can feel that tone makes me cry a little for the sheer relief of knowing my inner sub has been seen.

That makes complete sense Elle, it is an brought up another thought. When I say a command in that voice, now I think about it, Leisa's voice changes in response. That softening sub voice has the same effect on me. 

Just do not tell anyone it will ruin my image. 

[Leisa]

Ruin your image Admiral? Not likely. As your submissive I have heard the voice change and know the difference but for other subs in a dynamic that is something that comes with time, communication, and knowledge of each other. No Dominant should expect their submissive to know exactly what to look for unless it’s been discussed in depth and/or demonstrated with clear boundaries. Each time this tone and tenor of the voice occurs there needs to be communication following whatever situation brought on “the voice” to check in and make sure everything is alright so the submissive is not left with the impression that disappoint has occurred. With the exception of one time I’ve never heard the voice except in play and it’s only been when I’m in such deep subspace I have trouble articulating and it’s only your vocal changes that pull me back just enough to respond. After play there always needs to be communication and an explanation for the voice change. If punishment occurs than the reasons for the punishment should be discussed either before and/or afterwards to reestablish boundaries so they are not crossed again. Great article Admiral. 🏓😘

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4 hours ago, Leisa said:

No Dominant should expect their submissive to know exactly what to look for unless it’s been discussed in depth and/or demonstrated with clear boundaries. Each time this tone and tenor of the voice occurs there needs to be communication following whatever situation brought on “the voice” to check in and make sure everything is alright so the submissive is not left with the impression that disappoint has occurred. With the exception of one time I’ve never heard the voice except in play and it’s only been when I’m in such deep subspace I have trouble articulating and it’s only your vocal changes that pull me back just enough to respond.

Totally agree, naturally

Excellent point though my intention was as an additive to in role communication rather than being deductive to overall communication.

Thank you Tink highlighted brilliantly.

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23 hours ago, Thebian said:

That makes complete sense Elle, it is an brought up another thought. When I say a command in that voice, now I think about it, Leisa's voice changes in response. That softening sub voice has the same effect on me. 

Just do not tell anyone it will ruin my image. 

Hehe 🤣. No shame in being affected by your sub!