Shown the ropes.

[Deleted Member]

I have experience now with domination, dd/lg. Still very new though. How can I learn and increase the range of my abilities. Also I want to experience being sub and *** and bdsm. Any suggestions how to experience and learn ?

[Deleted Member]

Look up your local BDSM clubs. Or search for events people in your area and get to know your local kinksters and go to meets. Talk about it with them and make friends.

[ge****]

Seems to me like you're still trying to understand yourself and your own motivations, wants and desires, so I'd maybe spend some time getting your head around that first.
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Self-understanding can be quite the thing and once you have it will give you a clearer path forwards - once you have that focus on reading as much related material as you can on sites like this and other fetish/kink related sites, blogs, books etc and expand your knowledge that way - get involved in forums and on-line discussion groups etc and chat to people not with a view to meeting but with a view to expanding your knowledge further.
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Get along to local events and munches, again not with any aim other than mixing and socialising with other like minded people.

[ey****]

Based on your location you are so close to London that the opportunities are on your fingertips.

Here's a little to do list; in any order

- Attend some munches.  There are some in Kent but more than you can shake a stick at in London.  Go with an open mind with a view of meeting others in the community for a chat.

- Go to LAM.   Browse the stores and meet people but, mostly, watch the demos

- Seek out and attend another workshop event.  Sadly the DVS Kink Lab is on hold, but google is your friend and will unturn stuff - there's always folk happy to give some training and demos

- Consider going to a fetish event - as a spectator if nothing else.  If you want a taste of being a sub, go to Pedestal.

- Optional : if there's things you want to explore or learn, seek out a Pro for quicker results.  Again, there's more than you can shake a stick at.