Deleted Member Posted June 26, 2023 Posted June 26, 2023 This is just a quick one just so curious as to how other people have gone about it. I have this lovely new sub who is just adorable and so much fun. She’s been so keen to get into munches and going to BDSM Lounges and I would like to think I have been rather good in slowly and safely introducing her. If she ever wanted to do anything she of course had to ask permission from her dom and if anyone wanted to do anything to her they would first ask me permission then I would check with her to see if it’s okay. I plan to take her to a local lounge soon which will have on show suspension and more intense impact play, but I don’t think I will allow her to join. Not because I don’t want her to experience it but I know we can often get carried away in the moment. And I want her going into something like that once she’s fully considered and thought about it. So I plan to take her, we watch we enjoy ourselves and our company and then go home and discuss what she thought and what she wants to do in the future. I hope it will be a good time but I’m curious as to whether other doms or subs have any advice on in regard to introducing people to the community side of things? Thanks guys.
lolli-leigh Posted June 26, 2023 Posted June 26, 2023 I absolutely love this. You are on the right tracks and being very aware of yourself and your sub needs. Starting slowly is important for you both and your dynamic.
Deleted Member Posted June 26, 2023 Author Posted June 26, 2023 Oh I’m rather experienced and she isn’t in comparison for me I’d be able to jump into something and go all hands on deck but got to remind yourself from time to time that the new pets can break easy. So definitely have to be more aware of everything otherwise I think she’s enjoying our dynamic is wanting to try more and more things. 😁
Charms Posted June 26, 2023 Posted June 26, 2023 1 hour ago, tom_ropesncuffs said: This is just a quick one just so curious as to how other people have gone about it. I have this lovely new sub who is just adorable and so much fun. She’s been so keen to get into munches and going to BDSM Lounges and I would like to think I have been rather good in slowly and safely introducing her. If she ever wanted to do anything she of course had to ask permission from her dom and if anyone wanted to do anything to her they would first ask me permission then I would check with her to see if it’s okay. I plan to take her to a local lounge soon which will have on show suspension and more intense impact play, but I don’t think I will allow her to join. Not because I don’t want her to experience it but I know we can often get carried away in the moment. And I want her going into something like that once she’s fully considered and thought about it. So I plan to take her, we watch we enjoy ourselves and our company and then go home and discuss what she thought and what she wants to do in the future. I hope it will be a good time but I’m curious as to whether other doms or subs have any advice on in regard to introducing people to the community side of things? Thanks guys. I think what you plan on doing is awesome. Any 1 no mater if there dom or sub there 1st time at a dungeon can be so thrilling an exciting. Its an overload of different emotions an feelings. What your doing sounds amazing
Deleted Member Posted June 26, 2023 Author Posted June 26, 2023 Thank you so much really appreciate the feedback
Mistress_of_Death Posted June 26, 2023 Posted June 26, 2023 Communication and slow pace are very important with a new sub imo. You're approaching this the right way, but if she wants to explore at a faster pace, also consider that. Take care of her and I wish you a happy and trusting D/s relationship! 😊
je**** Posted June 27, 2023 Posted June 27, 2023 Very nice way to ease into it. I highly respect the manner in which you are proceeding and teaching ❤️
32**** Posted June 28, 2023 Posted June 28, 2023 Slow and steady win the race! Don't you have time for the rest of your life to enjoy your title or whatever you need! Go ahead and let it all go! Just got to do it slowly!
ra**** Posted June 28, 2023 Posted June 28, 2023 No experience of this but a curious sub switch interested in exploring them. I just wanted to say how perfect this dynamic seems of you being the dominant one in control but clear open communication and respect as well as checking the sub is comfortable,this is how ot should be done and sounds like you're having lots of fun and are well connected so thanks for sharing and hope you get the advice your looking for. Seems bang on to me!
gu**** Posted July 6, 2023 Posted July 6, 2023 I think what you have planned is perfect, if you go in any gear id stay close to your sub but maby that because im protective
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