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I am a near 40's male, married to my wife of 13 years, however we have recently signed a contract granting each other an open relationship, however as my wife during those 13 years had been Dominant to me, her side of it is straightforward in that she is able to have an affair with anyone she wants. However I am limited to same sex or pre-op TG partners as my wife thinks I need to learn and be used to sucking cock and taking cock before she lets me join in any one of her dates with any lovers.

My wife's other request is that the new partner (or partners) have to be cigar smokers or smokers that would like to smoke cigars, my wife smokes them and loves the power it gives her, she uses it as a tool to get what she wants from me and uses my mouth as an ashtray, she berates me too and wishes for my new partner to do the same, the only caveat is that no marking of my body is to take place, although slaps and the odd crop mark is fine.

MM/MF couples are welcome too as long as they fill the brief, you would also be able to accommodate.