I’ve been scouring this site to see people’s views and perceptions of punishments and rewards. And of course, it’s a very subjective matter as there’s limits, preferences, and people’s opinions as well.
So let’s talk about what I consider punishments to be first:
Since I tend to like more extreme things, and have a higher tolerance, I’m going to need something that is more severe- especially since I have bratty tendencies, I’m looking to be corrected. And a punishment can be a NUMBER of things. Ex: infliction, control/restriction of outter communication (eg. family, friends); sensory deprivation, being tied up in a stress position (minutes, hours, days), , water boarding. Quite frankly I could go on. I want that psyche involvement. Make me so scared of you that I don’t want to act out because I know the punishment will be severe. I feel like with a M/s dynamic or most BDSM dynamics, the person who is not in a position of power should feel a sense of toward to person in power as a result of respect being integrated into the person who is not in power within the dynamic.

Now for rewards! Yay!:
Rewards are generally subjective to the sub/slave/pet/etc. personally, I love being rewarded with praise, cuddles and direct attention, taking care of any bruises or cuts you inflicted on me, princess treatment, less time in a stress position, allowing me to see my friends or go do something special, etc.
rewards shouldn’t be over given - as this sets the scene for greed and a sense of being spoiled, then the brattiness will never be corrected. But rewards are necessary because I need to know when I’m doing good, and you approve of those certain actions or you’re pleased with how I am.

But i definitely want to hear other peoples opinions, and what type of rewards/punishments you give or receive.

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