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Hello all,
We are a friendly couple looking for a man to come and play with us. Because we would enjoy it to be not just mechanical, there would have to be a connection so that would translate into someone respectful, honest and most probably in our age group (she has no interest in playing mommy...no one below 40 please).
we will go with a 4 step screening method because we have already tried before and were only disappointed with married cheaters, flakes or lurkers: 1st step contact me, 2) chat with her and if connection 3) casual meeting (bar, pub, coffee) 4)play (vanilla) more if intensity is matched.
Please ask but be respectful and honest.